the importance of weight
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
April 10, 2011 1:36pm CST
women these days tend to give too much importance to weight while they are in bed with there partner. it's true that it's alot of skin showing but I can assure you the fact that he doesn't really think about the fact that you have a few extra-pouns in those moments. in fact if you got with him in bed means that he is atratcted to you and he likes you just the way you are
5 responses
@mary2710 (20)
• United States
11 Apr 11
This is a huge issue with most women. Especially ones who are overweight, even if it's only by a few pounds. I am the worst when it comes to this! I worry and stress over it every time I'm with my boyfriend. He tells me he likes the way I look, but I'm far from the way I'm "supposed" to look so I worry he will be disgusted if he sees too much of me. I used to have better self esteem, but after giving birth to 4 kids, ex's who told me I was too fat and being used repeatedly by people who claimed they loved me.. I have none! I hope that one day myself along with all women who have this problem will realize that we are beautiful amazing creatures who deserve to be treated and feel that way!
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
11 Apr 11
it's sad that many women get to think about themselves like that. I have this problem...I can't be with a guy who is slimmer than me..I'm rather voluptuous... i kinda like my body looks, I got to accept it. I would love to lose a few pounds so than I wouldn;t have certain parts hanging :))...my boyfriend says he loves my body and that it turns him on..
@mary2710 (20)
• United States
11 Apr 11
I don't mind being with somone smaller than me but I do find it effects the way I see myself. There are a few parts that I would love to tighten up but for the most part I think I look good for having 4 kids. My problem is what other people drill into my head. I have been with men who absolutely love my curves and told me so all the time and then others would suggest diets or exercises to "help" me. My boyfrien now says "he likes the way I look" but to be honest I have a hard time believing it.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Most people have distorted body images but women often are way worse because of what society puts out there. I always thought of myself as considerably bigger than I was but a few years back I had a chance to see my 'fat' thighs on video...and discovered quite happily that they weren't fat at all! It was about then that I realized that my then-boyfriend was manipulating me into starving myself because he'd never have a 'fat girlfriend'. He's long gone but my new guy makes comments about how my belly has 'gone done' but also chastises me for not eating much.
Guess what? My belly is inherited and there's not much I can do about it. I also have a small build which means I'm smaller nearly everywhere, including my appetite. And while I'm not entirely happy with the way my body looks I have learned to live with it.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
11 Apr 11
The last man in my life first helped my self esteem...and than nearly destroyed it. Had I been able to verbalize WHY I wanted to break it off, we could have (in time) remained friends. Instead he chose to run away and leave me forever wondering--again playing with my head! :-|
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
Actually, I don't care about how my husband look like now, we have been married for more than 26 years and we don't care anymore if we both have big bellies and heavier weights. What is important now, is that after all those years we are still together and we both still enjoy those private moments in our matrimonial bed.
