Leeteukwifey: You love him/her but he/she choses another what will you do?

The fact she put him off for a whole year should have been a big red flag for him. If she really cared for him she would never have done that. Women/girls never feel good about hurting someone so they often will stall like this. Of course nothing changes and when you are talking a whole year a lot of things happen. It sounds like your friend has a very trusting heart and when he falls, he falls deeply, which does not let him look at the relationship as he should. If he had, he would have known right from the beginning something was very wrong. We often see only what we want to and in this case he so wanted this girl that he chose to believe that because she didn't say no there was reason to hope. If I have learned anything in all my years of life it is this. Once a girl puts you into a friendship status you are doomed to only be just that. You may be the best thing that ever happened to her but if she doesn't feel it then she just can't talk herself into it. I lost a wife of 37 years to another man and it had everything to do with this very thing. She never really was madly in love with me but we were good friends so I excepted that and we had an okay life together. But she found in other men what she could not feel for me and so we finally divorced. I am married again to a lovely woman whom I love dearly but my former wife lives alone. Mr wonderful wasn't so wonderful after all. Try to make your friend see that this is truly the best thing she could have ever done for him. If she had just gone along neither one would have been happy. He needs to find his own true love. She is out there just waiting for him to find her.

if i were in your shoes, i will tell my friend that there is no use in crying over spilled milk. while it is unfair that the girl dangled your friend in uncertainty for a year, your friend also made the choice to take the risk and wait it out. for now, all i can say is grieve a little and move on. there are more to life than pining for a person who doesn't deserve the sincerity of his feelings.

Hi! I don't know if this will work for your friend. For me, this might just work. I'll probably have myself disensitized by listening and singing to NIna's song entitled 'Jealous' until i go numb and until i get over the feeling. I would love to type in here the lyrics but since i can't cut and paste yet, i guess you better start searching for its lyrics. Mylot's search engine will be helpful and might just earn you an extra reward. I guess the song basically sums up what i might be feeling if i were in your friend's situation. I specially like the last part of the song wherein the singer says that she'd fight a good fight if she knew she would change his mind but if the other girl makes him happy, then she'll just leave the dream behind. She also said there that the other girl should better treat the man right and give everything that he needs coz the moment that she doesn't, she'll be waiting in the wings. Indeed, if you love someone, you'll allow him or her to be happy even without you around. Some fights are better lost and it might just be the time for one to surrender.

Just tell your friend to recognize his feelings of pains, despair and brokenness and to pray. Tell him to hold on to his faith in God. I do believe that his heartaches will just pass away. And God will really give someone that will really love him in the future. Let him realize that life is not always bad.

It would always be hard in the beginning. But as time goes by, he will eventually move on. He should try to catch up with friends, make new friends, go out a lot, study or work hard or try to do new things or just try to busy himself with something. By doing that he would be pre-occupied and he will not notice that he has stopped thinking about that girl. He might even meet a girl who he could fall in love with. :)

the girl is mean. she isn't fair. tell your friend that he should at least just be relieved to know what the girl's real color is, and hopefully he can move on, don't tell him that there are still many other girls, because he might insist that he loves that girl alone. telling him that he doesn't deserve a mean girl is enough and at least he was spared from having a mean girlfriend

First, how could he wait that long for the girl? Didn't he more or less gauge if the girl is really in love with him too? How could he be so blind? I guess, the girl have taken advantage of the guy's feelings for her. She could have told him earlier on, that she cannot love him, so that the guy would not have been waiting for her yes to the relationship. I know this is so painful for your friend, but he has to move on and forget the girl. The girl is not worth your friend because she played with his feelings. Just let your friend hate the girl instead , so he could easily move on.

I know someone who had a same story as that. My friend, the girl is in a relationship for 4 years to someone who is well educated and well respected guy but what happened is that he chose the guy whom she had just met for a month. Just encourage your friend to explore his feelings and stay at his side. Tell him that one day he'll gonna find the one who is meant for him.