I think my body is ready for children

United States
April 15, 2011 2:34am CST
I've been having these weird desires lately. My whole life I never thought much about having children but since I hit the age of 23, I've been getting these thoughts about having children more and more. It's confusing because its not like I saw a friend with her daughter and suddenly went "I want a baby too!" Like it's some fashion trend like some people I know. It's this deep, coming from my soul type of urge. Like my body is telling me that I'm at my right point to start. My behavior has changed toward my younger sibling so much that even my mother has said that I'm acting more "motherly" and acting like I'm nesting (which I had to look that term up because I've never heard of it before). The thing is, while my soul maybe saying one thing, my brain is trying to think reasonably. I'm not financially set for caring for a child at the moment and I've always planned on getting my life stable before doing so. My body is at war with itself. One area is saying to have children while the other is saying not yet. My boyfriend has noticed my change as well but he doesn't think much about it. He just thinks it's some typical phase a young woman goes through. Has anyone else felt this before or can maybe explain anything about it?
2 responses
DanaS2011
@DanaS2011 (351)
• United States
18 Apr 11
I think that it maybe a phase. I can't say personally because I had my first child young with out having time to plan. I think it will be smarter to plan and be established in life first. If your boyfriend isn't thinking twice about it then he may not be ready for a child himself. As of now use your siblings to fill in this void for now because you can always get a break from that and gather yourself. In due time your gift will be delivered. If you just so happen to get pregnant without planing it that will be something that gave you the answer to whether you brain or soul is right. From what I have experienced when you want a child so much you don't get pregnant but when you dont think about it or plan it it happens easier. I love my children I have a 9 y/o named Taiya a 7 y/o named Teloria & a 9 month old son named Wise.
Gothicana
@Gothicana (458)
• United States
15 Apr 11
yes at that age it is pretty normal to think about it,but not only your body has to be ready for it,you have to be ready for it to. And it it wise to think about the future of your baby can you support it with the needs And is the father ready for it? It is not good for a baby to grow up without both parents,at least it was not good for me. There are so many things you have to think about.