I don't know, what to do ??

India
April 15, 2011 2:53pm CST
What would you love to do, when you don't know what to do ??? That's how my minds condition is. Hi all, I am mayur, my age is about 19 and Half years. I am doing my Under graduation (Polytechnic) course and until its end i would not have any Girlfriend, though i love one in my class. I love her a lot but nor sure, probably i am getting attracted to her only by sexually But sometimes my mind says i love her by all the angles. What i think or what my Opinion is that i should concentrate on my career first then the things like this, isn't is ? What is your point of view ???? please let me know, thank you. ||I apologize, if my English is BAD ||
10 responses
16 Apr 11
I think that what you feel is normal to a growing adolescent like you there is a phase in your life that you have to undergo such changes. Your attraction to the opposite gender doesn't mean she will be a hindrance to your career but rather make that a reason for you to be motivated and inspired to be successful.
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@nick_ro (42)
• Romania
16 Apr 11
I would say to follow your heart. Then your mind. If you love her truly then follow this path, try to talk to her, either she will be yours or not, you will be satisfied that you have tried. If you focus on career, perhaps you will not focus so well when your thoughts are flying to her. :) Lastly, think how you will feel if she will accept your love? You will have both her and a focused mind to concentrate on career. I don't really know, the call is yours,but take these in consideration. Hope i helped a little bit :)
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
16 Apr 11
Multitask. Life has a way of placing us where we need to be. Who knows. Your new found friend might be carrying an idea crucial to the success of your future. Concentrate on what you really want in life but never run from people and things in it.
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
16 Apr 11
So, you would spend all day daydreaming about this girl in your class, and you told yourself that you have nothing better to do in your spare time? Option #1, summon your courage and go talk to her, or ask her out or something. Option #2, concentrate on your study, and finish your school with a well - done grades. After 4 years, you might told yourself, that is totally stupid.
• Philippines
16 Apr 11
It is normal to have such feeling to another person. But before you decide to have a relationship with a d\certain girl, you have to make sure about your feelings for her. If you are definitely clear with what you feel, then express these feelings to the girl you love. I believe that there is nothing wrong if you study while having a committed relationship with a person. This will in turn, train you on how to balance things for your future endeavors. Believe me, life is very difficult after you get out from the walls of the school.
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@ritzz07 (788)
• India
15 Apr 11
i would like to suggest pls concentrate on ur studies.first build ur carrier and then think about girlfriend,and if u are at good position any girl will follow u,it doesnt matter how r you? today only money speaks love is blind deaf and dumb.
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@Gothicana (458)
• United States
15 Apr 11
my english is much more bad you are doing fine. I think you sure heared about love is making blind? in someways it is,and it is also imported in your case that you keep focus on learning. And that is hard. Find out if that girl is intrested in you. Cause she has to focus to When you think she is you spend time with her together and learn together so you find out how it works and you can focus on learning
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• India
15 Apr 11
Trust me you are not the first to have this kind of feeling.Your problem is actually not at all a problem itself.Infact it should encourage you to shoot for your career so that you can have her as soon as possible.As far as sexually attracted is concerned everyone who love someone is also sexually attracted to them its natural.I will suggest you talk with this girl and open your heart out.If she is in concentrate on your studies for both of your future and incase if she denies then move on.
• Argentina
15 Apr 11
I don't want to be pessimistic, but I would say that you should only focus on your career, nothing else. You know, some people, sometimes, can be really mean. Some time ago, I was working in an office and I guess that I fell in love with a guy that used to working there and he broke my heart really bad, and the worst of all, he didn't say anything to me, face to face, he just did it through Facebook. I couldn't handle that and I just quit my job. I'm not saying this will happen to you, but you never know. Just focus on your career, and the day of the graduation, talk to her, to not lose contact. This is the best thing you can do.
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• United States
16 Apr 11
I am one who chose love at a young age and even though I have a good life now, it was very tough because I chose it so young. So what I would say is concentrate on school. It easier to find love than it is to want to start a career after having a family. I would go with the career, and when the career path is done, then worry about love. I am 31 and i'm still trying to figure out how to go back and get the career so my family doesn't have to have such a tight income.