Im Going On Holiday With MyFamily But My Girlfriend IsntHappy About It

Explain to her that you do not mean to hurt her and that your mom is only taking the family with her for her birthday. Suggest that you and her and your mom do something once you return from the trip and if she can't live with that then you need to move on without her in your life. If she went with friends last year and you didn't say anything about it, then she really has no reason to complain. She sounds selfish and self centered to me.

I think it's not proper for your girlfriend to act that way. In the first place, like you said, they are your families and if there is one thing that you will have to put your priorities first, it's with your family and not with your girlfriend. If she can't understand your situation now, how much more when you get married to her? Do you think her thinking would change? Or maybe she's trying to make some excuses. I actually don't know what to advice or say to you for I am just basing on your story. Well, maybe, analyze the present situation and take into consideration on what will happen in the future. Her attitude may not be as helpful in your relationship. Anyways, you seem to be a good guy and I think you can handle things in a good way too. Goodluck addicted and welcome to mylot.

Well, I too got angry with the fact that she's like that with you when you didn't say anything about her going with her friends the last time. To me, it feels she's too selfish and doesn't deserve you. I say let her go. My partner also says you should let her go. If she really loves you, she would get that there will be times when you need to spend time with family and she should get it as well that she has a place - this time it's in her home. Do not give up on your family, you will regret not going with them because of some girl whom you're not really sure would be with you forever. If I were you, you go to her for the last time and state your side. Discipline her because if you can't control her petty attitude now, you'll forever be someone she would not respect. If she still is childish about things then it's high time you go for a break (one week won't hurt) or ultimately just leave her and find someone who's going to get that family is important. Good luck and remember that everyone has his/her place, times like these family comes first!

girlfriends can sometimes be very selfish and self-serving at the same time. and you are in a very tough situation. i am sure that your mom wanted the affair just for the family and nothing else. anyway, have you tried asking your family members if you could bring her along? your girlfriend should not freak out and look at you as a loving son. i bet she knows how you love her and by that she should be open-minded.

personally I would tell her good bye. It is unreasonable for her to expect you to put her above your family and a 50th b-day trip is awesome and such a once in a life time thing she needs to be more reasonable and if she can't see that thats not your fault it seems like you have done everything you can and if she is going to leave you over something so small then even though its going to hurt you might be better off

In all honesty, I would cut my losses and run! This girl does not sound like the right person for you at all. At the end of the day, family should come first, and if your mom wants to treat her family for her 50th birthday, then why shouldn't she? If I were in your shoes, I would remind your girlfriend that she went away with her friends and you didn't say anything about it, and that this week away with your family means a lot to you. If she won't change her mind, then walk away from her. You don't need that kind of negative influence in your life. She sounds like a really ungrateful person. It makes me wonder if she is jealous of your family and the kind of relationship you have with your family members. I say go away with your family, enjoy yourself, and forgot this girl. Find someone who appreciates you for the lovely, caring person you appear to be.

Is there any other way you can make her feel special, and that you choose her over your family every once in a while at least? If so, I would recommend you do that. I don't think you should have to choose between your family and her, but maybe you haven't been showing her that she is important enough for you? So try to patch things up by doing something special for her before you go!

You sound like a really nice, caring guy and it doesn't sound like she is the person for you at all. That made me angry while reading that. No one should make you feel that way. She should be happy you are close to your family and have a good relationship with them and be excited for you to go on vacation with them. I think it is very understandable not inviting her on vacation. It is only your family going, and she is not your family yet. She should be supportive of you and not make you feel bad or have any doubts about this. I don't think it is fair at all to say your family hates her because of this. In fact, I think that is extremely selfish and she I don't know why she would make YOUR mother's birthday about her. I think you can do a lot better, and you will be better off if it does end. Why don't you just go on vacation, enjoy yourself with your family and let it be over and see how you feel when you get back. Time away will answer your questions and if you should be with her or not. I am a girl and know that sometimes we just want the boys to come after us, so if you still miss her and think it will work, I think you will get your chance when you get back.