is it really hard to forgive one person?

tijna hi there is an old saying to forgive is divine. and while its hard to forgive someone who has really hurt you in many ways, hating can be so bad for you as it can hurt your heart and cause strokes even.,My father had molested me as a little kid and for years I really really hated him. After I married my dear hubby insisted I go to my elderly dad and tell him to his face that I forgave him for what he did to me as a child.also to ask him why he would do such a terrible thing to his own little daughter. He refused to answer my questionl but I found when I ret urned home to my hubby I felt ten years younger and twenty pounds lighter. so hatred is a weight on you and actually does no harm to to the one'you hated. That was one of the hardest things I have ever done in my whole life but well worth it.

It depends. If a person hurts me and apologizes Straight away, I can and do forgive. If I can see they can see that hurt and they are truly sorry then we can start all over , with a clean slate . But.. if they don't apologize Then I never fully forgive them , Ever.In fact the friendship will end but that depends on what they did. I can and will hold grudges. I can't just forgive. In fact if I were forced to forgive, It would hurt me. I would feel unworthy. Like I was not allowed to have Any feelings so it would be worse.

I agree with you when you said it is hard to forgive people who has hurt us especially if we expected too much from them because we gave our trust t them and we hoped for them to give respect by not breaking our trust in them. For me, i find it rather hasten forgive as well especially if the person is very close to me. But just give yourself a chance at time and soon you will realize that you already have forgotten how disappointed you were.

Hi tiina, When somebody causes you pain you feel bad and a kind of grudge grows in your mind. If you let it grow larger and larger you would be more pained than being happy. Therefore tiny and small matters should be forgotten and forgiven. This gesture makes you better human being for you live in peace without any heart burn.

Nowadays, it might be difficult to find friends who you can trust in 100%ly. Actually, I see more and more people who wants to win friends only to have someone for help or to capitalize friendship (for others, this isn't a friendship). Maybe, I'm living in a wrong place, but a truth friendship is quite difficult to find. If to forgive a friend or not depends of three points: 1) What kind of friend is this person? (Is it a friend you had over years?, Do you know him/her well? Is it a deep friendship based on truth, faith and love?...) 2) What has he/she done to hurt you? (Was it something serious?, Was it intentionally?...) 3) What kind of person are you? (Do you have a big heart? Are you patient? Do you really mind what he/she has done?...) Usually, I like to give a second chance and forget the first mistake. But until a second possibility I am more carefull.

Hello there,... do you remember one of "the corrs" song? there's a line saying this: "you are forgiven but not forgotten". Sometimes even God won't prevent bad things happen to us, but just believe it that there's always a good solution in every sad or negative events in life. for me, forgiving is easier than forgetting.When somebody said or do bad things to us, we might forget it by days, or months or even years, but one thing for sure, we would never forgotten how bad our feeling was, when that event took place. you are a nice person, that's why you are still friends with him. Keep it up girl, you're on your way on becoming a better person by letting your heart do that action.

Forgiving people over and over is a trait that is held by kindhearted people usually. I know how you feel. Every-time I allow someone back in my life after they have hurt me or let me down I feel like a glutton for punishment as I already have in the back of my mind that they will only hurt me again. But my hopes for each person and want to believe them often supersedes my ability to just cut people off. Now being more certain of you let in your life in the future tends to be a slightly easier feat. Good luck hun!!

In my opinion, a big resounding YES if the person who hurts you means a lot to you. That is why it is easy for people to ask one to forgive another but it is difficult for the same person to forgive if the same encounter were to befall on the same person. I try to be forgiving and I find it takes greater effort to remain angry.

well it depends on the gravity of what that person did. If it's really humiliating and degrading it will take a very long time for you to be able to forgive him. You'd have to think on why you should forgive him and why that happened to both of you in the first place. Everything is a learning experience. And as i said, if you've been deeply hurt then it will take more time to forgive someone, unless you've got no self respect though. haha.

It is really hard to forgive specially if the damage is too hard and if the person is not even repentant. But if only to think that God commands us to forgive then we have all the reasons to forgive. God himself is a forgiving God so we should also learn to be forgiving. It is quite hard but by the grace of God that can be easier.

There are people who find it hard to forgive but that is understandable. Nowadays, its hard to pinpoint who you can trust.But we all are given the chance to prove our worth so if there is someone who offended you, maybe it is also okay to give a second chance at friendship. We all make mistakes anyway.

Just act with care on your side, you will find somebody else whom you can give your trust but remember that now a days, it is not that easy to trust. Even those whom you have known for quite some times turn into enemy when tested.

Yup.. You are really correct, specially that person who hurt you are one of our trusted friend. It's really hard to trust her/him again, before he/she broke your trust already. I experience that before, one of my closest cousin. He did something that i didn't really expect he can do it to me. He courted my girlfriend that he is aware that i really love that women. And he is really guilty to what he has done. But he also love that girl, so i had to give that girl to her. And now they are happy, and i am also happy to my cousin. Even if he really hurt me, times heal the wound. But really it took me almost 6 months to be really okay and forgive him..

for me i can forgive other person but it is always depends in the situation if it is not that embarrassing i can forgive him/her but if it is really embarrassing maybe ill try to forgive him/her because as we grew up it is difficult to have many enemies because if we will not fix that maybe there will be a big war like if i have daughter and my enemies got daughter to they will tell that hey that's the daughter of my enemy and it will be a Big controversy, so as soon as i can ill forgive

I recently did that with the group I hung out with. I was the butt of all their jokes in a group setting although individually they had no problem. Now I have other friends but I still miss being included with the original group--strange isn't it?

Hello.:-) I understand the feeling, dear. Who wouldn't get hurt when someone did something wrong to us? Everybody seems capable of feeling hurt and angry. But to forgive, well, I guess, not everybody has the capacity to forgive at once, at least it takes time for others to do so. I have been hurt a lot of times but because I love the person or persons that hurt me that I can forgive them or have forgiven them. It wasn't easy and it wasn't as immediate as possible but in the long run, I have. I realize that hoarding and feeling for someone your love and trust isn't healthy for myself, too. And I am not happy with whatever I do and whatever I have accomplished. so, in order to get that inner feeling of peace, I have let go of the pain, forget my anger and eventually forgive those wronged me. I hope and pray that you'd be able to learn to forgive, too.

Yes, I am like you. But it depends on how hurtful the things they did to me are... Once a person hurts me really bad, it is really hard to forgive, unless he or she says sorry and I see that it's sincere. But it still takes a long time for them to get my 100% trust again. But it's hard to lose a friend so I forgive them..

personally i think eveyone has a certain limit of trust which the limit can grow or reduce in certain situation, hence subjecting a person with over they trust level is asking for trouble hence it like giving a lighter to a small kid is like asking for trouble . hence sometime people betray us because they trust level is low for the trust entrusted to them .

personally i think eveyone has a certain limit of trust which the limit can grow or reduce in certain situation, hence subjecting a person with over they trust level is asking for trouble hence it like giving a lighter to a small kid is like asking for trouble . hence sometime people betray us because they trust level is low for the trust entrusted to them .

hi tina People say, to err is human, and to forgive is god, i believe this saying, but forgiving some body is never that easy. There are good persons and bad persons as well, but we must take in to consideration, why he or she committed the mistake, after that we may/may not forgive.. Thanks for sharing Happy posting, cheers. Namastey. Kalyani