Internet chatters , successfully meeried?

Mexico
April 17, 2011 9:26pm CST
todays most common way to find the soulmate its over the internet usin the chat rooms, how to trust on this kind of relationship if most of them lie each other? ofcourse none of them can tell the truth at first, a friend of mine had such story and respecting his privacy i will post here part of the story, he meet a girl over the chat room, they keep in touch for about 4 months and everything seems to be good until he start sending money to her, both promise to keep faithfull each other, when they met, something went wrong he came back and did not talk about her anymore, he just said my skin color matters? does anyone here would like to share opinios?
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7 responses
• United States
18 Apr 11
Internet relationships are NOT inherently unsafe or doomed for failure. People are just people. Some are liars and manipulators and they will be that way whether you find them online or meet them at the library. Some are genuine and real and they will be no matter how you find them. You have to be smart and cautious about meeting new people at all times, especially if you're talking about giving people money or other personally dangerous things. Yes, of course there are people who met online and have had healthy, long-lasting relationships. Just as there are people who met in person who have been used, abused, manipulated, etc. The manner or location you meet someone has absolutely nothing to do with what kind of person they are or how the relationship will turn out.
• United States
19 Apr 11
Thank you. And thank you for the best response, too.
• Mexico
19 Apr 11
thanks gloomcookie you most be real mature to think this way. i like it
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Meeried? what's that? As far as I can understand what you are saying, i think it has something to do with couples in the internet who didnt have a successful story about their love lives. My husband used to work in a dating company like that but the owner of that company seems to be really concerned about how much she can get from foreign people who come to their office and meet girls.
• Mexico
19 Apr 11
again sorry, my mistake i miss a word, also good to know that there is good people, responsible for these kind of meeting sites or companies, some have good experiences some of them do not thanks for your answer
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
18 Apr 11
Wow that was just low, After being 'so called faithful' for 4 months and using his monies, your friend got dumped cause of his skin color? This is why i stay out of internet relationship, most them doesnt work at all, there is always too much expectation from both the parties and when that doesn't happen, it always go wrong, i feel sorry for your friend, i hope he has learned his lesson.
• Mexico
19 Apr 11
sure he did, i think he stay away also from chatting room now, but honestly i dont know if he keeps chatting others i hope he doesnt now, i havent ask that much because of respect.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
18 Apr 11
There are successful cases but not many, Like u mentioned, we are chatting over the net and we don't get to see each other. It's difficult to see or imagine what the other person looks like, based on words alone. We tend to make out our own ideal partner, causing an imaginary image in our mind. When we actually meet that person and turns out completely different, disappointment starts to kick in, and we will find many excuses to cut off contact over time. In the case of your friend, skin color might be an excuse, not a fact.
• Mexico
19 Apr 11
great answer means exactly what i would like to say, we dont know who is in the other side, example like now, if im going online n ow and start chatting, i can say anything i want, im in the office or in a coffee shop, or taking vacation anything, only to make me feel important, actually this kind of words make the other person feel interested on me. thanks sani for your replay
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@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Apr 11
First of all I don't believe on net gender because I have experienced so many cheaters portray as female. Second if you find an genuine partner than you must proceed slow and steady and try to explore about your partner and share your information with him/her honestly (Not Financial details). But if this relation demand money than as per my point of view something is wrong. I am witness of an marriage via net chatting in my own Sector and they are living together very happily and their marriage is very successful. Family of the boy played very supportive and positive role. The girl is from Taiwan and she is very nice and cute we all neighbors love her as our own. So I think net friendship is not bad but we must be honest from our side first, only than we can demand honesty from others.
• Mexico
19 Apr 11
its good to read this love story, you are right if its money involve something goes wrong based on honesty i believe make great love stories thanks isloboy
• United States
18 Apr 11
I heard on TV that the Internet accounted for about 30 percent of relationships.. so it's not the most common way to meet people.. but I don't think it is really safe.
• Mexico
19 Apr 11
oops i think i used the most common way, sorry, i think i most used unusual way, my mistake. thanks
@mawardi (158)
• Indonesia
18 Apr 11
We should be more carefull and vigilant.. because of the nature and character of man is difficult to guess ,let alone knew and met for the first