how to deal with a selfish neighbor?
By fireblaze
@fireblaze (52)
Philippines
April 20, 2011 8:55am CST
i have a neighbor who i find very egocentric. she acts very demanding and always shows superiority toward her other neighbors. i am always irritated of her that i always ignore her presence whenever we see each other. she doesn't want others to lay a hand to her property. one day, children from the neighborhood were playing near her gate. she immediately sent them away while telling them never to play in front of her house next time.i hate her being so difficult to deal with.
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6 responses
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
25 Apr 11
Hi. fireblaze. Welcome to myLot!
I don't like it when the kids around here ride their bikes into my yard without speaking. I think that this is very rude. People even will drive their cars into our yard when I watch them and when I don't watch them. I don't like it when people are this way at all. I am not demanding, I just want other to respect me. These neighbors don't. I think that if someone wants something done, then they should not be mean about it either. They should be kind when telling children that they don't want them to play in front of their house. It is not what you say, it is how it is said instead.
I don't like it when the kids around here ride their bikes into my yard without speaking. I think that this is very rude. People even will drive their cars into our yard when I watch them and when I don't watch them. I don't like it when people are this way at all. I am not demanding, I just want other to respect me. These neighbors don't. I think that if someone wants something done, then they should not be mean about it either. They should be kind when telling children that they don't want them to play in front of their house. It is not what you say, it is how it is said instead.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
21 Apr 11
Those who behave like this are generally suffering internally. As whatever you have inside that is only you can give to the world. So forgive her as she must be very lonely or a sad person. Best thing I do when I find someone like this is to be very normal with the person and when he/she is rude, I just ignore.
@qianlizhifeng (468)
• China
20 Apr 11
Well ,there may be some misunderstandings.Maybe ,as a new comer ,she did not know the other members in the neighborhood,and she just felt bored.Or she might have something special in her mind and it was not convenient to tell you .So if possible ,you may go to talk with her at a suitable time ,with other neighbors.If she is just like that as you told ,all of your neighbors will make the decision how to get along well with her.
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
I also exprienced somethings like what you had. It's not a neighbor but a colleague. :-) Ignoring her is the best way to get rid of her.
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Maybe this is better than a neighbor who is too loud and nosy? My friends were always causing a disturbance to their neighbors because they would throw loud parties all night with music in the backyard. It was really disruptive to their neighbors who had young children in school.
This neighbor doesn't sound as bad, although I'm not sure what you mean by demanding. Maybe her property is covered in pesticides or dangerous equipment so she doesn't want kids there? who knows. If she is really bossy in other ways, you and your neighbors can show her how to be nice by being an example.
