Teenage pregnancy
By marianne
@ckciasigurl (2081)
Italy
April 22, 2011 9:18pm CST
hi my lot ,
Some Parents are saying don't get involve into a relationship because you are to young and do u like to be pregnant?.They always say that to me not only me but also my friends,Maybe in some country it is okey, But Now a days Many teenager doesn't listen to his/her parents. I also i didn't listen to them i got involved into a relationship but i know my limitation, now my friend send me an sms and told me that she is pregnant she is 19 yrs old and 1yr she will graduate her college but unfortunately she will not because of the baby my friend is already 3 months now but she doesn't know how to tell her parents, and if there parents can accept what happen because the family is expecting her to finish her school next year,
For all the mother who will read this question is are u going to accept your child and the baby?
For teenagers like me what is your reaction or advices thank u :)
15 responses
@marguicha (215818)
• Chile
24 Apr 11
I would not call "teenage pregnancy" when a girl about to finish college gets pregnant. I think a woman who is in college knows perfectly well what she is doing. There´s nothing to accept or reject: the parents should try to take care of their baby as much as possible and accept happily any help from the grandparents of the baby.
I got married at 18, had my first daughter 4 days before my 19th birthday. I was in college too. I managed to have a good marriage, two daughters, and studied two different things at diffwerent times of my life. No problem.
I do know one thing: Parents should not expect anything from their children. They should love them as they are. But that does not mean pampering them so much that they can´t get on their feet when they grow up.
I do know one thing: Parents should not expect anything from their children. They should love them as they are. But that does not mean pampering them so much that they can´t get on their feet when they grow up.1 person likes this
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
The first reaction of all parents specially when their daughter is still a teenager would definitely be anger and disappointment. Cause all parents want their children to enjoy their life to the fullest, cause you know in reality when you have a baby you need to sacrifice things and you need to limit yourself as well.
But in the end, parents will still accept their children and definitely love their grandchild.
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
23 Apr 11
yeah we kept on telling that to my friend,and we never expect that would be happen and also i agree with u now we are thinking that maybe she cannot finish her study because she has already baby and the money that they will spend for both of them. but hope fully when she will tell it to her family they will accept
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
Oh I'm sure they will...I've been there...though I wasn't a really a teen when I got pregnant...I was 24 but me and my boyfriend were not married, so my parents were kinda disappointed..and I'm an only child as well. So they were mad, sad and disappointed. But when my little boy was born, they were happy and they are really found of my son.
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
23 Apr 11
that's what were thinking that if the baby was born they will love it again but the disappointment of the family will not return but i hope someday they will accept it
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
24 Apr 11
In my teenage years I liked to study and go to different countries. I didn't want to get pregnant and become a teenage mother. These days plenty of teens get pregnant and they manage to become a very good parent. A teenager has plenty of energy which is in their favor. If in a serious relationship then no form of birth control is 100% effective.
So your 19 year old friend is 12 weeks pregnant. Her parents are going to be surprised, upset and shocked when they find out. They expect her to be graduating from college next year not giving birth. If that was my daughter I would accept what has happened and fully support her. I would help her to continue her studies part time once she has become a mom. I would do some baby care for her. Their teenage daughter getting pregnant isn't what parents want to happen. However when it does occur then it is worth being supportive.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
26 Apr 11
That is a lovely thing to say my dear friend Marguicha. You had your first daughter born when you were just 18 and you continued to lead a happy life. You managed to do all that you wanted to. It is a shame that your husband passed away. It is fantastic that you toast for those here and those departed. Now you have the joy of having grandchildren which is fantastic.@marguicha (215818)
• Chile
24 Apr 11
I loved your response, Maxine! I got married at 18, had my first daughter before my next birthday and it did not hinder me in any way. My daughters are lovely people and so are my grandchildren. We celebrate each year the day our family began although my husband is not with us anymore. But we toast for the present and the absent.
I got married at 18, had my first daughter before my next birthday and it did not hinder me in any way. My daughters are lovely people and so are my grandchildren. We celebrate each year the day our family began although my husband is not with us anymore. But we toast for the present and the absent.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
hello,
Yes, our parents are so over protected but as a teenager we must know why? and what was our limitations right? I am already 20 and my mom always being exaggerate in my relationship. I understand her but sometimes I felt that she is not trusting me at all but still I realize that she is just worried of being pregnant. I am a big girl now I know what is the right and wrong. You either.
Your friends must say it to her parents, if she cannot tell it alone make her sure that she is with her partner(her boyfriend). To clarify everything and at the same time to say sorry for what happened. Yes, you understand that it is really hard to involved in this kind of situation but they must face it because sooner or later they will know about it. And besides don't wait until the parent notice it by themselves.
good luck 
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
23 Apr 11
u know what we have the same situation and the problem for me is my parents are in abroad and im here in my country when she call she get mad about the relationship thing because they saw it in my friends facebook. why doesn't parents doesn't give trust when it is all about relation ship if u tell that u have a boyfriend one thing that they will say u will be pregnant if u will continue that.My friend told me that her mom is kept on telling her that " you go the doctor and have check up because it seems that u haven't have a period for months," and early in the morning her mother is always staring and holding the stomach of my friend
@vandana710 (37)
• India
23 Apr 11
i think parents are always right as they know what is right and wrong, they have experienced life so they obviously know more than we do. as i am also a mother of a girl and i try to be open with her so that she comes and tells me everything. i would surely support her if something like this happens because mistake is a mistake and when it is done you can not change it but can help your daughter in need.
@bzy2011 (8)
• China
23 Apr 11
Your friend should not hesitate to tell her parents the truth. Don't worry about whether the parents accept the fact or not. She is not strong enough to face the whole things. She need their help. I'm sure that her parents will be very angry, but it is easier to face their blame than not to know how to deal with the accident, and remember that,parents is the one who really love you.
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
23 Apr 11
thank u for the great advice ill tell her :)
and its great a parent is always a parent she accept whatever her daughter do even if its wrong
@piya84 (2581)
• India
23 Apr 11
Well my parents said me to no to get in to any relationship till twenty atlist and i am glad i listen to them at that time.I can see why they told me that.
For you friend well study well and start earning as soon as possible.Financially that can be difficult if she do not have source of income.
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
23 Apr 11
Well tell your friend to face her parents... cause if she doenst she wont be able to face the future. Yes obviously her parents will be angry.. but there is a saying "time heals everything" her parents will also accept the fact and her child tell her not to worry. Yeah one thing is that when she tells her parents she has to be strong within her. Because in starting it will take parents time to accept her in this lonely time you have to be with her to give her strength. All the best to you and your friend.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
My mom always told me the same thing!
Never to get into a relationship because you're still young! Look at your future!! US, your family! We are depending on you!
Its always like that everyday! When I was in a relationship she's always mad at me, she thinks very advance. So that relationship never last so long. And until now, I never had follow-up relationships and I never regret it! I always follow what my Mom says as she knows best even thought the pressure is too much!
YES, I don't want to be a teenage parent! Our parents knows whats best for us even though we're against it...
@dznurani (160)
• Indonesia
23 Apr 11
hi, I'm not a teenager but it's been my concern too lately because now I'm 2 months pregnant. I keep wondering and planing how will I raise and educate my child about relationship. I would love my child to have wonderful life, friends, and education. that would be sad and disappointed for the parents who have her daughter pregnant at teenage. they already told her to be careful in relationship but the daughter didn't listen. for parents daughter is always like a baby, they wanted to keep the baby longer but when the daughter pregnant, parents should let them go and take her responsible.
@ritzz07 (788)
• India
23 Apr 11
hi dear friend,
you can ans ma new discussion "does todays parenting going in wrong way?"today teenage pregnancy is increasing day by day just becoz children not listening to their parent,and they are not listing to them coz somewhere parents are also responcible for it.they should teach them values of culture in hindi we cald it "sanskar".
@chocokreme (319)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
I will still accept her and my grandchild after all she is my daughter. In life we may commit mistakes and i know that later on in life my daughter will experience the consequence of her deeds. I was a teen mom i got pregnant when i was 19, gave birth at 20. I definitely learned from my mistakes. It was hard to accept by My family. They expected me to finish my study but ive failed them. I cried hard because ive failed them. Nonetheless, they still accepted me. Right now, ive been blessed with 2 sons and a hardworking husband. I am now experiencing the consequences of my past actions. Im happy i became strong enough to face those challenges.
@altirbonganay (287)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Hi ckciasigurl!
The problem is, sometimes, we young people do not believe what our parents say. We tend to do things our way. We always have this feeling of wanting to break free, to break away from their 'irrational' advices. Truth is, they were never really irrational. More than anyone else, they know what's best for us. They also know the things and acts that could probably harm us. And they are doing everything to keep us away from harm.
Lesson: Listen to parents even if they seem unreasonable
And as for your friend, she SHOULD accept the child and let him/her live. It was never the child's fault that he was formed. That is the consequence of her act, and she should face it. What she need to do is to get up from her fall, finish college after giving birth, and get things right again. It is never too late for anyone.
@sweetme329 (500)
• Australia
23 Apr 11
Hi there, Welcome to MyLot!
I am very sad to hear about your friend's situation. Her parents will defintiely get hurt because at the young age of 19, they want their child to focus on their career and enjoy life rather than having to look after a baby. Also, teen pregnancy can be dangerous. The female organs are not well matured. But yes! now that your friend is pregnant with her baby, her parents will have to accept her. No matter how much her parents will be disappointed with her, i am sure they love her equally.
I wish things turn out well for your friend! 
