Would you cheat on your significant other knowing that they would never find out

United States
April 23, 2011 8:33pm CST
Hypothetically Speaking: Would you cheat on your significant other knowing that they would never find out? To me, I wouldn't because it would make me guilty even though my significant other would never find out. Plus, I'm happy where I am with my boyfriend anyway :) How about you? Are you curious what's it like with someone else while having your significant other? How life would be? Etc?
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19 responses
@ofabiania (421)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
cheating for me is definitely a big no-no!.. trust goes hand in hand with fidelity.. if you are happy with your partner, why do something that ruin what you already have.. :)
• United States
24 Apr 11
Yes, that's a good point =)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
unfortunately, some people just don't get that..
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
24 Apr 11
I wouldnt, then again there are certain situations that is hard to cope with, so peoples will probably end up cheating with the one they know.. then comes in the sense of guilt which will be devastating if the person has any respect/love for the person that he/she cheated on and finally he will get desperate to make it up to him/her and if lucky he probably will and finally be at peace. How do i know all this? cause i have personally been in such situation i know it was my fault whatever that maybe and i shouldnt have done it. but hey shyt happens. anyways my post wasnt related to the 'cheating on your bf/gf' in anyways. its the cheating in general thingy.
• United States
24 Apr 11
I didn't see your post when I made this question but that's alright & yeah you bring up a good point but yeah stuff happens.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
24 Apr 11
At the end of the day it is our conscience that keeps us company day in and day out. What better way than work towards keeping it clean and healthy so that we have good and happy company. So cheating has no place if one has plans to keep one's conscience clean and healthy!
• United States
24 Apr 11
Yes, good point! I definitely agree with you :) Thanks for sharing!!
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hello, Yes, like you I don't like because I will feel really guilty and the karma is always there. right? and besides i am happy like you with my significant other we enjoy life being together and that's how life is I don't want to look other. Because I am happy with him. But you know what? I have experience that in my past boyfriends because I never got serious I play to it and I felt really guilty that is why I dont want to do it again in my present because I am happy to him and contented of what I have.
• United States
24 Apr 11
Hello (: I will feel guilty + karma, yes I agree! Thank you for sharing & glad you're happy with your bf & content! Keep it up!
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
There's a saying : What you do not know, won't hurt you. However, i still won't take the risk of cheating my partner, because i wouldn't when pandora's box will be open. If i don't love my partner anymore, i'd rather break up with him than cheat.
• United States
24 Apr 11
Yeah, I have heard of that saying too! But yeah good point if someone is going to cheat break up with the person!
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
24 Apr 11
I never meet people with the intention of cheating, and if I ever think about it, I don't try to initiate it in any way. I am always paranoid that my partner will cheat on me. I know some people who will cheat if they know their partner won't find out. They are the types who don't want a partner to interfere with their own desires. I think it's a selfish way to deal with situations, and it shows that these people just don't care about others' feelings. I don't necessarily think it's wrong, but I think it shows something about a person's personality. A carefree living is fine, but it also brings about consequences.. they're likely to be lonely later in life because loyal people don't want to stay with them. They only attract the cheating types, who will leave them later. So I wouldn't want to become one of those types of people.
• United States
24 Apr 11
I have met people who wanted to cheat and it seemed as if they were cheating -__- That's how I came up with this topic question to see what are peoples reactions/thoughts. I am also the one paranoid of my partner cheating on me as well then myself doing such a thing. And I totally agree with your points :)
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
I am a kind of person that believes we should always be faithful to the other person no matter what happened . we should think of what the other person would feel if we cheat on our relationship . I would put myself on their shoes. I do not want to be the person being cheated and treated like I should not be taken seriously . that would definitely hurt my feelings specially my ego.
@Anitismo (229)
• Bahamas
24 Apr 11
I don't have a significant other, and If I had fore sight and know that he wouldn't find out, why not? I mean with the fore sight and all. Doesn't that means you would know the exact date your relationship would be over ( when you realize that you didn't have fore sight and he know you cheated on him). My answer is NO relationship is build on trust and you cheating on him takes the trust out that relationship even if he don't know the other person you did this act with know, so in the end he would find out.
@Bryanx54 (644)
24 Apr 11
i dont think i could possibly cheat on my girlfriend to be honest, i cherish all the good times we've had as a couple been together for 3 years and she's had rough life being raised up in poor home with the most amazing and hard working parents ever i couldn't do that to her or to them. I think if i did i wouldn't be able to show my face in public again i'll be that ashamed, but lets just see the positives i'll never cheat :).
• United States
24 Apr 11
Same here! I've been with my boyfriend for over four years through all the ups & downs in the end I'm happy & satisfied w/ mine too :D I can't cheat either, no way- no how nothing! :D Thanks for sharing!
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
4 May 11
hi, of course i will not do that even he would never find it out,still my loyalty is for him,because i know he is good enough for me to avoid cheating.the sad is i am a single now,so no one will hate me when i go with other people.
@neenie (343)
• United States
24 Apr 11
I don't think I could. I think it would bother me and eat away at me until I could tell him. Once, when my boyfriend and I were broken up for awhile, I was with someone else. For years, I never said anything to my boyfriend and it was always in the back of my mind. I finally told him a few weeks ago. He was upset, but we managed to work through it and everything was fine. I can't imagine actually cheating on him though.
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
I would never cheat on my girlfriend. Even the thought of going out or communicating with other girls never came to my mind. I guess if you are really happy with a relationship you wouldn't think of doing this. I believe that any form of contact with the opposite gender with the idea of being in a relationship with them other than friends while having a significant other is really the worst thing you can do if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend. It is better to be happy with the one your with, rather than be happy with someone else.
• United States
24 Apr 11
Yup, I agree - if you're happy you won't think of this =) That's how I feel with my boyfriend of over 4 yrs! Thank you for sharing!!
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
24 Apr 11
I think if one is curious to find out what else there is, perhaps they aren't as happy as they think they may be. To me cheating is a dishonesty I would feel bad about even if no one else knew.
• United States
24 Apr 11
Yeah, I would think someone cheats to be curious how life would be with someone else if they dated someone for a long time. I would feel bad also because of dishonestly.
@albert911 (168)
• Thailand
24 Apr 11
I wouldn't - definitively and absolutely NOT! Yet I imagine that many people love the thrill of secretely cheating and fooling around. It's doing something which is wrong and enjoying the exitement, like shop lifting, for example.
• United States
24 Apr 11
Yeah, I would know some who would be happy about cheating & fooling around secretly too -___- But yeah, I wouldn't want to as well. Thank you for sharing, just curious about peoples opinions :)
@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
24 Apr 11
When I was young, I was curious. That is only natural. But I never cheated on my husband. Right now I have a boyfriend, that is more a friend than a real relationship. He thinks because we were intimate, that we are now married or something. With this friend I do think it is possible that I might (when I have the chance) cheat on him. But is it really cheating? I don't love him in a romantic way, just as a good friend with a little bit more. As for real relationships, I have never once cheated. But with this one , I might.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Apr 11
Cheating i guilt you ould have to live ith. i could not do it. the guilt and hame of hat had happened ould be enough to bring my uffering to an end. Not orth the aacrifice.,
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
24 Apr 11
Of course I wouldn't do cheating, my husband is leaving away from me but cheating him is out of my mind, and we have successful and happy relationship and if ever our relationship is on the rock, I cannot cheat either because I have children to looked up to, family reputation is the highest point to consider.
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
I am happy and contented with my Love in my life.
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
Nope. I really wouldn't consider it. If you love your someone, you really wouldn't even think about cheating. That's my principle. Anyway, even if there was no chance that they'd know about it, I still wouldn't risk hurting my someone.