do you hold back for yourself?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30186)
Philippines
April 23, 2011 9:22pm CST
Do you hold back? Are you the kind of person that does not give 100% because you are protecting yourself? Do you hold back from love so you don't get hurt emotionally as much as you maybe hurt? Do you hold back at work, unwilling t give more because that is the only worth of payment you get? Where else do we hold back? Is this really a choice we make to protect ourselves or does this come naturally for all people, like an instinct to always protect ourselves, being defensive.
5 responses
@casualkT (140)
• Canada
25 Apr 11
you can bet that I do that because I am very wary of others and it causes so much confusion as in the +70 -30 it may not be reciprocal and I care a lot of about others output when I care - maybe I don't always hold back to them , I am trying to be independant as well
@misc11 (384)
• United States
24 Apr 11
i think that is the quality i dislike about myself the most. I don't give 100% at some things I do in fear of failing. I think I have been seen as a successful person or likely to be successful so I get scared to try new things because i might fail and not be successful. This really hurts me because these are the skills I need to work on but I don't. I have just now realized all this so I am trying to change my ways. I think I do this in more than just work atmosphere. I think I do it in relationships as well. I am hard to get to know at first and push people away because I am scared of being hurt. I don't think this is so bad though because the ones that are persistent and keep coming back are the ones who are worth it to me :)
@dellahappy (260)
• China
24 Apr 11
actually i hold back a alot, i can't open myself to anyother except to my family.i don't know why but i just can't trust others even in the emotional aspects,i never believe boys especially,ok we can be friends but when it comes to relationship,i always shun away that i think the reason for my single still today.i experince much we talk happily and freely with some guys i newly knew but if he has more action like asking me out alone trying to treat me the b/f&g/f does i feel uneasy maybe i just avoid him a few days...i don't know why maybe it os out of some nature of protecting myself from being hurt...
@ofabiania (421)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
when i love i give my 100%.. it is because i don't want to think of any "what if" - "what if i loved him more".. if the relationship does not work, atleast i can move on and tell myself that i've done enough, i've done my part.. but this does not meaning losing yourself in the process of loving another person.. that is why it is important that before you enter into a relationship, you love yourself 100% first..
