Teach me something ?...so you think i am still a kid ?

By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39142)
Philippines
April 24, 2011 12:39am CST
Someone tells me i am still a kid. That person might be right,in what way/manner that i need to grow up? So,if you think you need to teach me something,what would it be,and what advice will you give me! Now let me tell you a bit part of my story to those who doesn't know more about Jaiho. Teach her the meaning of LOVE? Jaiho is a run-away bride 18 years ago.She eloped with the man she loves a month before her arranged marriage. She disobeyed her parents and followed her heart. But unfortunately,the love she fight for against all the odds never lasts. (a punished,or her fate-maybe her true love is missing out there) Teach her about LIFE? struggle/sacrifice... Jaiho lives with 3 kids by herself,some support from her loving family. Working in a stressful world of outsourcing business. Loved by her friends when she needs someone to talk and she wanted to cry or laugh. Basics of LOVE and LIFE she managed to compose herself thu sometimes she still runs home when she falls down. Because the warrior in her is still a child? I know i am not prefect,i maybe loved by some mylotters and i might be hated by many. These past few days i lost myself...but i want myself back. My brothers/bhai's,sisters, dad/mom dear friends -it's still me..make me feel i am not alone. If you need to teach me something...tell me...I WANT TO LEARN. Enjoy weekend Jaiho- needs advice this time A hug is fine...i need it!
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14 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
25 Apr 11
Hi Jai! I believe you are more experienced than me in the field of love so it may not be very fruitful to teach you about love. You know how it feels to fall in love and then you know the pain of separation. I can only say - relationships are part and parcel of life and some of these are so memorable that we do not want to forget and some of them are so disappointing that we do not want to recall those moments. All the best.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
25 Apr 11
It is heartening to hear that you know how to handle odd situations. You see no one is an expert, we keep learning through out our life and there is no end to our learning, till we are alive. You are saner because you do not cry over those sad moments and I agree with you that we cannot completely erase our past, but by keeping ourselves busy and indulging in something, we can lessen the pain of sad moments of our past.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
From pain i've learn a lot. I don't want to make the same mistake again..i've had enough.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
hello dpk, I also believed that i know how to handle situations. But i realized i am not that expert. I don't mind recalling or reminiscing all the past. I can't cry anymore thinking all the those bad moments. I still sigh...and have a deep breath,but cry no more. Past will always be there,we can't erase it from our memory lane. It teaches us a lot of things,and make us stronger than we thought we are. Pain is a part of life. No pain...no Glory! have a great day my friend
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hi jaiho, Your experience will be your greatest teacher If there will be one person in this site has the right to tell you this it should be [b][/b]ME because i know you INSIDE and OUT even your past and secrets You are a wonderful person that deserve love and care if other mylotter adores you i cannot blame them, if some of them hates you it's their problem. I will not promise you anything as you say it can be broken but one thing is for sure I AM JUST HERE AND ALWAYS BE HERE, don't worry i am not like someone you knew PHONY or maybe PHONIES LOVE MUCH
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
I think I myself does some childlish things and thoughts as sometimes it gets really really tiring of being mature even though we are all at our ages. I have missed a lot more in the past, a lot more that times i didn't wanna reminiscing and asked "what could have been" because i know it's gonna frustrate you. and my god, i haven't into these running competition thingy i can't even exercise at my own treadmill. We all feel the sadness and incomplete things from time to time. but we should do our best to remember the best Parts of our lives.
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
@ jaiho, You made me cry again i was not able to finish it as my tears roll down Those were the days and you are still the same person i met 3 years ago but it seems we've been known each other for a decade You will always be a mom,daughter and sister to everyone Darn!you said almost everything here i cannot hide it LOL And do you really need to emphasize the word SINGLE? hahahaha!
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• Philippines
24 Apr 11
i forgot this
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
25 Apr 11
Dear, we all need a hug sometime :) We all make mistakes in life and we learn from it. That's what I believe. Sometimes it might be a right choice at the time which turns wrong later. We are all kids inside and look to our family for support and comfort. But I do not believe in regretting whatever has happened. I believe whatever it is that has happened in my past was meant to happen. Even if I had made a different choice than the one I made at the time...what has to be will be....maybe in a different form or different kind. I also believe that we can do nothing to change what has already happened. No point brooding over it. Sometimes, if our actions have affected another person, we can apologize or make amends. That's the best we can do and we need to be able to live with that and move on. Our past should never hold us back. I hope you are feeling better today
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
25 Apr 11
You are so right...and it helps that you are able to vent your feelings. We also become better people after learning from the past. I just wish that a few of the people who wallow in self pity for long periods of time would open their eyes to it and see it. I can also see that there are quite a few people here who care for you as a person. That's a very positive thing and you are lucky:) Have a great day!
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
hello SV, Best lessons in life comes from bad experiences. We learn more from it like how we learn to stand again with failures. Success give us happiness,but downfalls thu it hurts made us stronger. Saying sorry/apologies won't make us a lesser person,we'll gain respect and more blessing from accepting our faults/mistakes. Everything happen for/with a reason. There is not such word as "accident"-accident has meaning and accident is a result of something that happened-it's done. Past will always be a part of today and the shadow of tomorrow. We just need to learn,observe and accept -be contented with what we have. yes,we can't do nothing to change what has already happened. but we can be a better person after we learned from the past. I am feeling fine with all the advices and sharing that i have with you and other mylotters. I can feel i was never alone...thu i am sitting here all alone. Thanks for coming and dropping your share of view...great Monday
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
Muntik nang tumulo ang luha ko't sipon nitong post mo. Anyway, accepted ba ang tagalog dito? Uhmm well, anyway, I know your experiences and struggle in life have taught you a lot.
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• Philippines
25 Apr 11
I'm so sorry amiga, actually bumabalik balik naman ko dito but not that often. Super I appreciate your loyalty here. Kung namimigay ba ng medal ang medal, I'm sure you're one of the recipient. But I'm happy that you feel at home here at ako pa ang parang stranger dito. The one who invited me here eh d na rin active. She is busy with online business. I'll see you here often and continue sharing with you special thoughts along the way.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hello maharlika, Thanks you came at the right time. I want to take this opportunity to say "thank you so much" for introducing this site to me. See how many posts i've done already. You let me signed in and then you leave me all alone by myself. I was like a kid wandering in the woods how to get home for no one has to guide me the way. I posted a topic with the wrong interest and also commented on tasks -how ignorant i was before. I tried to choose some mylotters from our country to add as friends so i can have someone to asks about this site. I am lucky i found Martin (mobhemier) thu he is not active these days. Then find cykera,neil and LK...they're the ones who guided me wandering this site. And after that i make friends with other part of the globe and found my family here. I always write my feelings,my emotion in here. This becomes my habit and mylot is my internet journal and my shock absorber. You came once in a while and gone for a longer time. But then again i never forget you my dear amiga. Without you i will not be here..i won't be the Jaiho in mylot. I know you know my story as we keep chatting all night long before you become busy with domains and everything. From you keep updated with my birthplace,i can see and feel my birthplace when we are chatting as you give me sights drawn by your words. I missed you and i missed my place. i hope you can make it again here in mylot. be here...enjoy as i do
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
24 Apr 11
Hi sweetie. No one on this planet can or will ever be perfect. So what if you are still a kid? We all learn as we move on in life. I cannot teach you anything, you have to learn all by yourself. I can give you some advice though. You have made your bed, you have to lie on it. Only you know how you to lay there. No one else can do that for you. Tell the one's who are nasty to you, to go to hell. I'll wait at the gate for them. Here, have a hug then.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
saphy dear, You are right..i learn from my own. My own experiences ,may it success or fall down. I've learn to stand and make another step no matter how steep the steps are. I am also weak,i have flaws,but it's never a hindrance for me to go on and keep moving on. Sorry,i sound so serious tonight dear.(sighs) I am just sad,and i can't help it. But i am thankful too,i can express the other side of Jaiho- the crying child within her. I am also grateful for mylotters who never get tired supporting me and showing me care. I believed there are real people in this virtual world and you are one of them.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
25 Apr 11
So we learn sweetie. But we are here to listen, comfort and give advice. Never let anyone poop your party.
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@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
Well maybe, you need to find out your purpose in life, these questions in life about, Where do i came from?, Why am i here on earth?, where do i go after this life?. these questions can be answered in God's plan of salvation, i know that once you will know your purpose in life you'll come to think a different perspective in life.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hello kheydia, Those questions are already answered when i found GOD and accept my savior. I am not a perfect saint,but i always try to do good things to other people. I always try to reach those needy within my reach. I always do my obligation as a good samaritan within my capability and capacity. We don't live for ourselves alone..we live for the other people. I've done charity works for the last 13 years and still going. I am active with organizations that helps rendering/voluntary with medical mission,feeding programs and so with orphanages. Try to check this link this is not a referral link http://www.untvweb.com/ you can check all the good humanity works that i participated with. i am working with this organization and also with the religious practice. thanks for your response and have a great weekdays
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
oh, so good for you then, so you are really busy with your charity works huh, and you don't have time to be idle and waste your time thinking of nonsense things. You do really have a wonderful life with you, i admire you for doing that. I also wanted to be part of the volunteered staff for charity works, but i am doing my own charity work, maybe in the future i could also do same as you did.. your welcome...
• United States
27 Apr 11
Jaiho, I have not been posting on mylot for long but I just have to say that I believe that your post is beautiful. In my opinion, we all have so much to learn, and we are never finished. In my mind right now, the only thing that I could teach you at this moment is something that I hope you already know; That you are a beautiful, strong woman, full of life and love. No, I don't even know you, but this I do know. Vaya con Dios my sister, Acongojada
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
hello acongojada, Strong woman- i always tried to be and beautiful thanks for the compliment i always wanted to be loved...and i want love all the time to be pampered with love. i know i still have long way to go in this life...i hope i can finished my task in this world..the real purpose of my existence. thanks for your response and have a great day welcome to mylot
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
move on with your life, no regrets, carpe diem! seize the day! so what if you get separated with your husband you are still alive, just try to accept yourself and do not change anything you cannot change. life will be better.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
hello angie, Yes,life must go on! I know i can get over with this sadness and sadness that's eating me up. i will be fine soon and back to my old self. thanks for your response and have a great day
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
24 Apr 11
dear Jaiho, everybody makes mistakes in life and nobody is perfect.However it is time that you decided that the past is gone and will never come back, so now look ahead and move forward.Yes, in know that it is easier said than done but you should pull yourself up, not just for yourself but for the sake of your children.I also know how difficult it is for you since your husband is creating all sorts of problems for you but despite that you should be brave and keep fighting.In this life of ours all of us have to face the fruits of acts done in past lives which are known as Karma.Every human being has to face his or her karma and there is no escape from it.However it is how we go about it that is most important.If we mope and moan then we will suffer more and make life miserable for ourselves and for all with whom we are in touch.However if we decide to fight our karma then we will become stronger mentally and will evolve as human beings.Ultimately we all have to bow down before God who is our sole solace and saviour and he will never let us down as long as we have true faith in him.so dear sis, don1t get disheartened but keep your chin up and keep fighting.You will definitely come out victorious in the end.All the best.God bless you.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hello veejay, I thank GOD above all for giving me guidance always. Without GOD in my life i know i can't be this strong and brave. I've been to ups and downfall in my life from love and career and still i am here standing with my own feet. I never used person or hurt people to gain what i need/want in this life. I always fight fair...and even giving what i have without expecting in return. My kids are my life and my everything,they are the reason why i lived in the most decency that i can. I want me/myself to be an example of a survivor who never give up,so they can be strong also when i am gone. I know i am not a perfect mother,but i tried to be one. I believed that there is a good reason behind all these trials,GOD is righteous enough to give me my rewards if i stay as a good child in HIS name. Thanks for all the advices and blessings. have a great weekdays
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
Hello Sis Jaiho, I am a single, unemployed hopeless romantic freak, i don't think i can be qualified as a teacher. but if only my mom is active online, maybe she can give you a few pointers on how to be more positive in life. You know she's living in her life now as if she's divorced already. I can see in her eyes that she's happy with lots of friends at her side, she's NOT allowing depression and sadness to take what's remaining of her life. so, i think you should do the same, don't allow this sadness and depression to consume you're time. though sometimes i experience this, i do my best to fight it off and make myself busy.. But i can give you a hug though
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
hello LK, Ok,i know you are hopeless romantic and single and jobless (so what) I know you are a good son and the reason why you did not try to find job here in Metro is because you can't leave your mom all alone in your home. I admire you for that,you sacrifice a lot for your mom. I wish you a happy life my brother. Don't worry about love,like i told you...it's not to search,it will come in right time,place and with the right person...you will find it soon you met that someone special. Thanks for the hugs i give you a punch when we first met...remember ? hahaha
@allknowing (130092)
• India
24 Apr 11
Just be yourself and the rest will follow. There is only so much we can do to adapt to situations and beyond that it will snap us. So relax and have a network of people in your life who you can go to when your need is dire. Else be as independent as possible.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hello ak, I am myself,and i know i am . I always do what i want,my parents once disowned me due to my being disobedient that gives me lesson and changed me from a soft hearted person to a bit harder one. but then again i never regretted loving that person for him i've learn that love is pain,to suffer and cry. Love is not always a fairy tale but i won't stop loving either. I am independent,but i have a loving family and friends around me. I can't ignore them. Thanks for your advice and hope weekend is fine
• India
24 Apr 11
Well that's what my mom says about me also. She thinks i am still a small kid and i need lots of love and food from her. She just won't stop baby feeding me. I like it but soon when i have a job then i won't be with her anymore then still i would miss her. Cheers!
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hello ravi, It is always been said that mother's knows best,i agree partly saved half for the concern party. You must enjoy your mother's pampering. Once you have your own family,you will not be having the same attention then. Once you have your own kids,you mom will surely give more attention and care to your kids. So,enjoy every moment with her. thanks for your response and have a great weekdays
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
24 Apr 11
Jai beti You are not alone, you have tons of well wishers here in mylot and i am sure in your city and country i think you did the right thing by eloping with your bf, but like most people from your place he decived you, this ventilation of your feelings, your cry is kind of curse for him, though you might not be cursing him, he will have to face his karma.. you should get your soulmate.. Thanks for sharing HAPPY EASTER Happy posting, cheers. Namastey. Kalyani
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
dear Kalyani, I once deceived by love,but love is the only answer too give me proof that fairy tales do come true. I am not closing any possibility of meeting my prince charming,and i hope to met one soon. My family and friends are always here by my side and so with my family here in mylot,they/you never let me down. Thanks for always being here and wishing me all the good luck. I need your blessing too ,so with professor dada
• United States
24 Apr 11
The only way to learn is through experience, nothing else. Sure your parents can tell you and give you advice. If you want real advice sit with an elderly person and have a conversation with them. It may sound boring , but they know a whole lot about the world. I personally enjoy talking with Elderly people whenever I have a chance. Life is about Experiences, Sometimes you will make mistakes sometimes your decision is the right one sometimes it will be the wrong one. My Advice: JUST LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST WHATEVER HAPPENS HAPPENS. IF YOU DONT GO OUT AND EXPERIENCE LIFE YOU WILL BE MISSING OUT ON A LOT. SORRY I COULD NOT BE MORE HELPFUL BUT THAT`S MY OPINION ON THE ENTIRE MATTER, LARRY..