Why do we get angry at somebody?

I do avoid to get angry because i do not want to get old easily... If i get mad to my kids nor to anyone i just keep quite and stay away from them for awhile till my anger vanish.There is a time that it really gets to your nerves and you feel like want to hurt right? But i can't be violent so what i do is, i run over to my room, stand beside the wall and lend my back on the wall or sometimes i push the wall to let go my anger...

Anger is a reaction to not feeling in control. Anger can be used as a tool sometimes to help us keep things on track, get things done, etc, but if it becomes habit or we let ourselves react too boldly to this anger, it can become a problem. The way not to be angry is to not identify with things that happen. If your children aren't listening, I am sure that can be quite frustrating, but of course we don't want to be angry at the people we love. It's hard to say what you should do because all people are different and their situations unique, but many people like to count to ten in their head or focus on their breathing to calm themselves down. Maybe these or similar techniques will work for you.

hey mallu.. you have to know that we are only human.. and sometimes our emotions get the better of us.. and of course your kids are human as well so they are not perfect and you cant always tell them what to do.. (thats where rebellion comes in ) but you dont need to get angry to your kids if they dont do as you wish? well i think thats another thing.. you see, children growing up have different kinds of attitude.. there are kids who are already training themselves to be disciplined and there are others who just want to have fun.. before you repremand your kids, you can always assess first their wrong doing if its against good moral or just for plain fun.. if it cant hurt you or hurt people around you, you can at least let it go.. its a matter of anger management thats all.. .. and you have to think about emotional scars that will be left with your kids if everytime they dont do as you wish you go and get angry at them.. believe me i know someone like that.. and its not a scar that you want to leave with your kids growing up.. with regards to controlling your anger issues, you can always divert your attention.. instead of being pissed off by what makes you angry, you can try and calm yourself down and watch tv.. you can just turn around and walk away.. if you need someone to talk to, you can approach someone.. maybe your friend or husband/wife .. and theres this thing about freewill.. everything that you do you control.. you are the captain of your ship.. so when you get angry its your choice.. you can choose not to do it if you like.. its a matter of manangement and self control.. and a little bit of discipline comes into play as well.. hope all will be well.. ..A man's strength is not measured by the size of his fist.. but the size of his heart.. ..take care - hush

it is normal to all of our life but the good way to save yourself is that when you became angry at somebody try to concentrate your mind and take a long breathe after that try to handle that situation in a passive way........