Do you think that a broken family will be an enough reason for a child to rebel?

Well, yeah, it's easy to say that "I'm a living proof that I'm not like this, I'm not like that, blah, blah blah..." if you didn't experience the pressure of your parents still having that BIG fight, right? A friend is also from a broken family but he experienced every fight his parents created and even got beaten up because of interfering. Now, he's a rebel and he's proud of it. Nobody can talk to him about change because that kind of attitude is hardwired on his brain.

no, its a phase some people go through My brother got ALL the rebel genes it seems, my folks had little trouble from my sister and I... and we had an intact family.

hi, i think its not,sometimes being a one of a broken family the child more matured thinker because that child is already aware about this matter,the more mature the more avoidance to be a rebel.

First of all, I really am so proud of what you've become even though I don't know you. For me, nothing is really ever a good reason to become a rebel or something like that. We always have a choice in life and although our families maybe one factor in life that may affect the way we are, it is still our choice as to what we become. However, I will not blame those who become rebellious due to family reasons. Pressure affects each person differently. :)

i think that saying that when people say that they rebel because they came from a broken family is such a lame excuse.. it sure is not easy seeing your parents not on the same roof but it is still up to the person if he/she wants waste his/her life or make something of the trials that he/she is going through.. i salute you for who being good person! :)

It is nice to see that you were treated well by your uncle and aunt, however this does not happen with all people and situation opposite to your, may creat problem where unfulfilled desires and hurted emotion can draw a person to become rebel. Usually, child of broken family feels some sort of emptyness in his or her life and if this emptyness is not filled by someone closet member then there are chances to be rebel.

I think that as long as you have one good parent, you have a secure and happy childhood, and if you rebel, it's an excuse. if both of your parents are not there for you when they should be, then maybe I can understand going off the rails, but one good parent IS enough.

Yes. You are right, A child who came from broken homes, not a reason to rebel. It could even be a reference, to create a better life, the life of her parents.

Hi Denisepadin, I think the family influence is just one factor when we talk about rebellious children. Actually the term is very misleading. Most youngsters want to have their own identity. They do not want to live in the shadow of their parents or anyone else. Sometimes they want freedom, and they start to disobey certain strict rules of their parents. In this case, I would say that they and their parents are equally at fault. Most children from broken families want attention, love and security. They rebel against the lack of love and warmth in the family, hoping that their action will bring the attention of their parents to them. When their parents write them off as worthless creatures, their fate is kind of seal in stone. It is sad that many people are too selfish or too stupid to recognize the call for help from these youngsters.

I think a child is going to rebel whether you give them a 'reason' to or not. Teenagers always have a way of finding a way to rebel. I am from a broken family. I rebelled a lot in my youth, but I don't believe it was directly related to my parents being separated. I believe rebelling is a process that we go through in life to celebrate freedom and independence. I know sometimes youths can get carried away and take their rebellion too far; but most of the time it is harmless. I congratulate you on you and your siblings success. I consider your success in its own way rebelling from the norm.

I have a very good friend which have the same situation with yours. and you know what? she is the most cheerful person I've ever met! ^.^ She even called her aunt and uncle.. mommy and daddy. and whenever I visit her place I see that they are a happy family. Like you I don't think that having a broken family is a relevant reason to rebel, for me it's just an excuse. (except of course if both your mom and dad are fighting and throwing things in front of their children). There are so many tough situations out there. You and my friend are both brought up by the most loving family, and that's why you turned up to be okay. Whether it's your biological parents or not, the important thing is that you are being loved.

For me those rebellious child are deficient in attention and I don't think that a child can do it if he/she comes from a broken family, who else would even bother to catch his attention anyway. You know, I considered those children who are unfortunately came from a broken family or no parents at all. Because you and the other children out there same situation like you are more motivated in achieving success. It serve as a challenged and that challenged will help you developed to become a better successful person. And based from your experienced, I certainly know that you would never want it to happen in your own family. Keep it up denise, you've been so lucky to have this just be brave and trust yourself. Goodluck!

Yeah good for you. Not all individuals have the same level of psychological and emotional resistance to such stressors that is why they are channeling different types of defense mechanisms to hide their weaknesses. I did not came from a broken family, but I have seen and heard and shared a lot of stories of these people especially when I was young. They have different manifestations: some people has very good outer compromising stunt by being one of the finest students in the class before but has a very low self esteem, some became the tough guys who respond to different forms of liberalism at their early age but has deep fear of alwas proving themselves that they are far more superior than others by being a class bully. These types of manifestations are very evident to those who have a broken family, but as they always say, in every rule there will always be an exception

Congrats to you and your sisters. Yeah its not a reason to be rebellious. We have our own choices. Now if theres a kid from a broken family its his choice if he wants to be rebellious or not. I guess some turned out rebellious just because they want to get attention or to release the hatred that theyve felt for years. I believe that it depends on how a child was raised. Even if he belonged in a broken family, he can still be raised as a good person with positive outlook in life.

I don't believe that just because a child comes from a broken family that s/he is automatically a rebel. I also come from a broken family. Our dad left us when I was 9 (sometime in 1997 I think). From then on, it was my mom, my brother, and me. Oh, my aunt too but she's living in the US. Anyway, I felt love in the family. Our mom did everything she can to raise us, with the help of our aunt who sends us monthly allowance (until now). I grew up feeling loved and nurtured (erm, I think overnurtured...because I'm fat, lol ). I got to study and finished college. I am also now a registered nurse. As for my older brother, he got really affected by it and he unluckily got friends in college who were bad influences. He didn't really rebel but he didn't do well in his studies. Most of the time, he was absent and was spending his time having fun with his "friends". He spent like 7 years in college, same course, 2 schools, but nothing. Good thing now that he has a job. He worked in several call centers for about 8 or 9 years now and has held supervisory positions. Although he didn't finish tertiary education, he's doing well right now. I have a friend and she's also a product of a broken family. She did well in school and I think she's doing fine right now. Hmm, I guess it really depends on an individual's experience growing up in a broken home. We are just some of the lucky ones who had great childhood memories. Maybe those who turned out rebellious were influenced by many factors branching out from their broken homes. I was watching the TV program "Face to Face" on TV5 earlier today and the guests were a separated couple, a concubine, and the children. The son was in his late teens already but he only finished grade 1, is substance abuser, already went to rehab, and not to mention, he still can't read. It turns out that he wasn't really taken cared of by his parents as he was growing up. Poor kid.

I give you and your sisters alot of credit. However, I don't think it has alot to do with a broken family. I believe you could have the most loving family but one child will become rebellious and not do the right thing. They will cut school, hang with the wrong crowd etc..... There are many who the family have divorced but the parents are still involved in every aspect of their kids lives. They turned out good too. I believe it is totally on the individual child how much love and self esteem he or she have acquired in their upbringing and how strong they are in their heart and soul. Not everyone could have been so strong as you and your sisters, but thankfully you were loved by your aunt and uncle (mom and dad) and you girls were able to accept this and do the right thing. Though I have to say I'm really surprised that one of you out of the three didn't rebel. Hats off to all of you and continue success in your lives.

You were loved and cared for and taught good values. Unfortunately, that doesn't always happen. I'm glad for you that it did! And congrats on the state boards...not everyone can say they passed the first try!

It is difficult to say what will make a child rebel or not a broken home would certainly be enough cause and issue to for ca child into rebellion. it many not wvwn take much. it all depends on what else the child may have weighing heavily on their minds.

I definitely don't think that. Yes it can cause some issues but they need to be worked through not just used as an excuse. I come from divorced parents, but I've always been loved so much by my mother that I never felt the need to rebel. It shouldn't be used as an excuse, or to justify bad behaviour.