How Do You Deal with A Friend Who Always Think of Making "Even" With You?
By magtibaygom
@magtibaygom (4858)
Philippines
April 28, 2011 9:56pm CST
I feel I am being stalked by this guy online, a friend I just met online and became friends. He was an offline network marketer, and I'm an online network marketer. We are coming from different worlds, different point of views, with regard to how network marketing should be done. He just saw my ad, he replied to the ad, and joined my team without me asking him to join me. But right from the start, i am suspicious of his real intention of joining my business.
Since he is more on offline network marketing, I mean his view of doing network marketing, his version of doing our business, just I expected, he did not make it to success. In just one month, after he failed to reach his objectives in doing our internet-based network marketing, he quit.
Right after he quit, he started inviting me to join his offline network marketing businesses. I told him, I am not cut for it, because my skills are for online network marketing, but he is very persistent. He hounds me all the time. It is always obvious he is going online (through Yahoo Messenger) with the only purpose of recruiting me to his offline network marketing business. I know that, because, I notice, right after I see him go online in Yahoo Messenger, in no time, he is already sending me barrage of invitation messages to join his new found businesses!
Sometime I feel, this man is out here just to make even with me. He knows that when he joined me in online network marketing, I earned a commission from his joining. He wants to get back the money he has spent in joining the online network marketing company in some other way, like inviting me to his offline network marketing, to earn a commission from me! The problem is, I don't like the businesses he's joining. I am already a graduate of those businesses. A retired, actually. I no longer want to involve myself in a business where I would talk with people face to face, begging them to join our business. And that's the nature of offline network marketing in contrast with online type which we let our websites talk in our behalf.
How do i deal with this kind of person? Any advice please?
4 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
In my opinion, the best thing to do is to have an honest talk with him. Ask him why despite your declining his offer for his business , he would still insist. You too should be honest enough to say your piece.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
I think, he regard you as something very good for business making. He wants to share in your success.
But if you are not comfortable in dealing with him anymore, then maybe you should avoid him already.
@magtibaygom (4858)
• Philippines
30 Apr 11
Thanks SIMPLYD. I admire your "beautiful mind". Maybe you're a soft-spoken lady in person. Yours are the kind of friend we really need. 
Yes, it really flatters to know that someone regards you as a very good business person and wants to share in your success. Maybe, that's one of the reason of his being pesky.
I will wait for other opportunities he has to offer in the future. If one of these days he offer something that would fit in to my specifications, maybe we can be good business partners.
Sometimes, I just feel annoyed when some marketers behave like religious peddlers:
"Oh, you don't want to join Christianity, I am also a Muslim, maybe you can try joining us in Islam instead. But wait, you don't want to become a Muslim, maybe you can try Buddhism, I am also a Buddhist, you can join me there! Name it, I am a member of them all!"
And if you said, "No, I am an atheist"...
The will reply to you, "Oh, I am not yet an Atheist... But tonight, I will find an Atheist organization to join, and by tomorrow, I will get back to you, to recruit you again!"
You know, they just behave like an "outsourcing company".... Their operating mantra is, "Name what you need, and by tomorrow, I will find a way to give (sell) it to you!" 
Yes, it really flatters to know that someone regards you as a very good business person and wants to share in your success. Maybe, that's one of the reason of his being pesky.
I will wait for other opportunities he has to offer in the future. If one of these days he offer something that would fit in to my specifications, maybe we can be good business partners.
Sometimes, I just feel annoyed when some marketers behave like religious peddlers:
"Oh, you don't want to join Christianity, I am also a Muslim, maybe you can try joining us in Islam instead. But wait, you don't want to become a Muslim, maybe you can try Buddhism, I am also a Buddhist, you can join me there! Name it, I am a member of them all!"
And if you said, "No, I am an atheist"...
The will reply to you, "Oh, I am not yet an Atheist... But tonight, I will find an Atheist organization to join, and by tomorrow, I will get back to you, to recruit you again!"
You know, they just behave like an "outsourcing company".... Their operating mantra is, "Name what you need, and by tomorrow, I will find a way to give (sell) it to you!" @SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Apr 11
Marketers could really be pesky at times. You just have to lie in order to shoo them away sometimes. 
@marguicha (215818)
• Chile
3 May 11
I would explain to him for the last time that you don´t want to get involved in that business and adding that with so many mails he is spamming your yahoo. I told that once to a dear frien who sent me loads of those chain mails everyday. I finally told him face to face that if he didn´t stop it, I would have to have his name under the unwanted mail. He didn´t and I did. Now we call each other by phone for other reasons. Maybe when he grows up (he is 70
) I´ll accept him again in my hotmail.
) I´ll accept him again in my hotmail.@magtibaygom (4858)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Do you think it is right for us to see our friends as potential milking cows for us to draw money when we need money? Sometimes, I am wondering, why on Earth there are people who behave like perpetual sales agents actively pursuing their prospects. Or, I am just not comfortable with them because, I myself even though I am a salesman by nature, I see to it that I am "fisherman type" of salesman, and not a "hunter".
@marguicha (215818)
• Chile
6 May 11
I think that that person is clearly not your friend but he wants you to join him in his business and will not accept a no for an answer. So it is the time to start being less polite.
@damned_dle (3942)
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
That's easy, remove him from your contact list! Is he new into those offline network biz? Sounds like he is, because he is so persistent into convincing you to join him! If he is smart he should just move on and ask others instead.
Is he new into those offline network biz? Sounds like he is, because he is so persistent into convincing you to join him! If he is smart he should just move on and ask others instead. @magtibaygom (4858)
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
Yes, I am considering deleting him off my list. There's just one thing that's preventing me to do just that. I don't wanna hurt him. If he know he's deleted, it would hurt him. I am not comfortable to know someone's gonna hurt because of me. But if this person reach the limits of my patience, I will not hesitate to remove him from my list.
It's just kind of a situation where I am wondering why there are people like that who doesn't take some pulse of what others feel about them. Have you met people like that who seem they don't have a "radar" of other people's feelings?
@chaze01 (185)
• Philippines
7 May 11
You are such a nice guy.=D
I think its desperation on his part, or plain insensitivity. Some people just cannot read between the lines. You have to s-p-e-l-l it word for word for them to get a clue. On rare moments, you feel like finding an imaginary rope to hang yourself or the other person, whichever is more convenient.
@chaze01 (185)
• Philippines
7 May 11
Wow, that person is scary. I think the best thing to do here is just tell him that you are not really interested (which you already did).
The thing is, you might be really good at what you do that's why he wants you on his team. I have no problem on telling people no but this is quite bizaare, almost akin to stalking.
@magtibaygom (4858)
• Philippines
3 Jul 11
Yes, I think it is almost akin to stalking. The moment he sees me I'm online, either in Yahoo Messenger or in Facebook, he will start a chat with me and will try recruit me to his new network marketing opportunity, as if he is always waiting for me to go online.
