The one who earns much in a family reigns, is that true?
By bingskee
@bingskee (5234)
Philippines
April 29, 2011 11:14am CST
I do not agree.
It is not about the money. The one who reigns is the one who domineers. That is, when one has a domineering character, then he or she is the one who reigns in a family.
Let's take for example a family where the mother earns more than the father but the one who reigns is the abusive and domineering father. Therefore, it is not about how much money you bring to the family, it is the character.
Do you agree? 
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4 responses
@sammy14 (834)
• Philippines
2 May 11
Hello Bingskee. I agree with that theory... money can buy anything and can change people even character... For married couples when the woman makes bigger money than the husband she tends to be domineering over the husband which should not be the case.. They should not be domineering because men don't do that even when they earn more than their wife and their wife ask money from them
@sender621 (14889)
• United States
29 Apr 11
A family should be equa in their value to each other. Nobody should have to reign as the supreme power. Wha t we earn should not be the deciding factor in family loyalties.
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
29 Apr 11
Hi bingskee 
Well traditionally that is how I have always heard it and well because I am not your ordinary traditional person per se, I disagree with the entire concept. Perhaps some say I live in a fairy tale, but it is my tale and this is how I see it.
When living together, whether married or not there should not be a domineering/abusive father or mother for that matter. Couples in my opinion need to understand that if they both work that together they need to share the roles at home, expensive, love, rules and care for the family. I can't see how both can be happy if one is considered to be better/stronger then the other. In order for the family to be happy both parents must meet eye to eye with the same rules. Sure one can be passive and the other domineering but with respect for one another. That when the passive one acts that the domineering one sit and speak to the passive one and explain why it is better their way or the other way and vice verse.
There is no other way but to work together and continually remind each other that both reign in their homes with mediums, honor and respect for one another.
It is the only way it has worked for me and although I have felt that I was right in certain situations both my partner and I have discussed why he and or I feel is best and both of us together have applied the reigns here at home. Does not mean we are perfect by any means it just says we love one another enough to discuss and work "together". Regardless of who earns more, after all what is mine is his and what is his is mine.
Well traditionally that is how I have always heard it and well because I am not your ordinary traditional person per se, I disagree with the entire concept. Perhaps some say I live in a fairy tale, but it is my tale and this is how I see it.
When living together, whether married or not there should not be a domineering/abusive father or mother for that matter. Couples in my opinion need to understand that if they both work that together they need to share the roles at home, expensive, love, rules and care for the family. I can't see how both can be happy if one is considered to be better/stronger then the other. In order for the family to be happy both parents must meet eye to eye with the same rules. Sure one can be passive and the other domineering but with respect for one another. That when the passive one acts that the domineering one sit and speak to the passive one and explain why it is better their way or the other way and vice verse.
There is no other way but to work together and continually remind each other that both reign in their homes with mediums, honor and respect for one another.
It is the only way it has worked for me and although I have felt that I was right in certain situations both my partner and I have discussed why he and or I feel is best and both of us together have applied the reigns here at home. Does not mean we are perfect by any means it just says we love one another enough to discuss and work "together". Regardless of who earns more, after all what is mine is his and what is his is mine.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
2 May 11
ideally, a relationship should be a give and take one without domineering your partner.
this is actually about a discussion in my son's university where his professor said that the one who earns much reigns in a family. i disagreed because i know of situations where the wife is working but the husband is not. the husband is the who domineers because he has a bad character.
this is actually about a discussion in my son's university where his professor said that the one who earns much reigns in a family. i disagreed because i know of situations where the wife is working but the husband is not. the husband is the who domineers because he has a bad character.
