do get pissed when this happens?

Philippines
May 3, 2011 8:05am CST
last week me and some friends went out and planned some get together and all agreed to come.. and at the very last moment.. (the very day of the get together) .. they all bailed.. it just pissed me off since all of them cancelled on the very day wherein i was already on my way to the place.. some of them had something to do.. some cant get out coz of minor set backs.. but then again.. they could have informed ahead of time dont you think? i mean it just pisses me off that they all cancelled and we were only a few minutes away from the time alotted.. and i think this is not fair.. when i cant make it i usually cancel ahead of time and if its an emergency i make it to a point to cancel earlier if its on the same day.. what do you think?
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@harck721 (372)
• Philippines
3 May 11
I don't blame you for being pissed off. I've had the same experience numerous times with my high school classmates even while we were still in high school. We like making plans for holiday reunions and usually, there would be less than ten of us in the actual event event though half the class gave their word. It's not as bad as your experience though. I've learned from all those years of ruined plans never too expect too much, especially if there were already plans in the planning phase. We also contact each other constantly days before the actual event just to make sure. Those who hardly respond we don't usually count on.
• Philippines
4 May 11
oh yes i do agree harck.. ive had that tons of high school stuff too back in the day.. and every1 always says "yeah ill come" / "see ya there" and when you're already at the event only a few people show up.. so when i was at high school i really didnt expect anything from all of 'em since not all of 'em were my friends.. but its good to hear that all is working out for you.. hopefully this does not happen again.. lol
@harck721 (372)
• Philippines
4 May 11
I hope it doesn't. That would be too sad. As for my high school classmates, we were pretty close. We were classmates for four years, so you can say we have pretty deep roots. Unfortunately, we seem to be having some sort of falling out recently. Hopefully, when one of our classmates come back from oversees and hosts that reunion he promised us, we'd be on good terms with each other again.
@naija4real (1291)
3 May 11
You have to realised that as human we are subject to disappointment, we should never believe that 1+1 must always be 2. There are times it could be 3 or 4 that is human nature. Whatever disappoint you have been through, just ignore it and move along with it. Human are bound to disappoint you at different point in time.There is no perfection in this world.Funny enough some human find it very hard to apologise to their fellow human for putting them through so many disppointment.
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• Philippines
4 May 11
double post sir..
@KrauseHome (36570)
• United States
3 May 11
Well, for me it has happened many times. Some of the times have been when I have planned BBQ's etc. from my home even. Had one person telling me they were going to show up, and instead of calling me, sent me a message on Facebook like at 8 p.m. when the party at our house started at 7 saying something had come up, and Sorry they could not be there. So it can be frustrating, but that will not Stop me from trying it again.
• Philippines
4 May 11
wow thats really interesting.. who would wanna miss a BBQ? tsk tsk tsk.. i would love to come.. but then again certain boundaries will be put into consideration.. lol.. but yeah i know the feeling.. at least my friends texted and called me.. yours really could have pissed me off a lot if they just did a facebook msg..
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
3 May 11
I know just how you feel. I have some flaky friends myself. On Friday morning, they suggested that we go to a movie that night, then when it came close to the time, I already knew that they would cancel before they did. Then they wanted to Saturday, still no dice. And then they said Sunday, still did nothing. Luckily, I haven't really been going out much lately, so I didn't have anything else to do. The worst part about it though, is that at first I said no, but was begged into finally agreeing. It's quite ridiculous. They've even cancelled on camping at the last minute. These particular friends are always doing this though, so I never really expect much else.
• Philippines
4 May 11
yeah they are what i consider the "weather" friends.. lol.. they pick whenever and wherever they want to be with you and dont give a $h*t about you.. i do understand how it feels.. but the bad part is the ones that cancel on me were really my buds.. and this is the first time that its happened.. but anyways all is good they all came the nxt day since i sent them messages that i would still be on the bar.. and all were sorry.. so all is good..
@megamatt (14294)
• United States
3 May 11
And this is the reason why I don't plan any mass get togethers. I think I learned this lesson from my father when I was older. He always planned these massive things, where a bunch of people were invited. They really say that they are going to show up. Only about fifteen or twenty percent of them show up at all. Some call saying that they cannot make it. The others just do not really bother even calling. So I think that something like this would be very upsetting. I doubt these people would appreciate it too much if the shoe was on the other foot. I don't need too many more reasons to be agitated with people in general to begin with. Therefore these massive things, sometimes it works, but a lot of the time it really does not. Therefore, the moral of the story is always that more than a few people showing up for something, its just asking for disaster. So yes, its frustrating.
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• Philippines
4 May 11
haha.. i agree .. 100% .. but all of the people who planned it were really in on it.. and we know we all trust ea other.. (me and my buds i mean) .. so it didnt hurt much for us to reschedule the next day.. and all of us showed.. but you have a really good point tho.. they should have tried being on my shoes .. since i was the only one able to come .. and of course i would have very much appreciated it if at least on of 'em showed.. but its alright.. all is good
@naija4real (1291)
3 May 11
You have to realised that as human we are subject to disappointment, we should never believe that 1+1 must always be 2. There are times it could be 3 or 4 that is human nature. Whatever disappoint you have been through, just ignore it and move along with it. Human are bound to disappoint you at different point in time.There is no perfection in this world.Funny enough some human find it very hard to apologise to their fellow human for putting them through so many disppointment.
• Philippines
4 May 11
yeah i understand.. its alright.. i have been disappointed a few times but it never gets the better of me.. anyways i was just a little pissed at the moment.. and im not a very vocal person so id rather put it into writing.. in that way nobody gets hurt.. am i right?
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
3 May 11
i've had this happen with friends and know how it felt. i would be sure and inform ahead of time that i couldn't show up because i wouldn't want someone to feel the same way i did.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
4 May 11
That is very irritating. Oh my I would certainly be texting everyone "WHY?". Though my brain cells would start to organize itself to become one big bomb, I will try to convince my heart to calm down. There would be a good reason why this is happening. But in your case that "everyone" bailed out, I don't know what to do yet. As in "everyone"? You know this is rare because not everyone will have something to do at the same time. Maybe if this happens to me, I'll still continue the night with a best friend who is always late but never bails. I agree that if everyone can't make it, be honest of the situation not like this on the time and day itself. Are they crazy? Now a days,we are all family people, have jobs and other groups of people called friends, of course it is expected that we are busy. In my opinion you deserve a good explanation. Friends are friends, which means they will be around, but they need to be communicative too. I understand mhy you are pissed off. Anyway, calm down and just join a lot of mylot discussions.
• Philippines
3 May 11
That can really be so irritating, I've been there, my friends and I were supposed to meet in a pizza pub but then they cancelled on the very last minute and I was already there, and worse, it was my birthday!!! So I know how it feels, but try and understand if this is a one time occasion only...but I know it's disappointing so just vent out that frustration somewhere...
• Philippines
4 May 11
oh im sorry to know about that.. it must be really hard on your part.. its just so unfair right? everything was set and all was about to go well when suddenly you got the news that no one will be coming and yet you are already there or in my case on my way there.. so yes i understand what you felt.. it was really bad.. but then again i did not let my frustration get the better of me.. i just simply headed off somewhere and let the day pass.. since i had nothing booked for the day.. even had a day off alotted which i just put into good use..