got confused and dont understand anything

India
May 4, 2011 12:14pm CST
i have been friend with a guy for 1 year .....i had fallen in love with him ...we talk on phone everyday... bt never talk about love an all we generally share all our happiness n sadness with each other ... but any time i talk with him about being in girlfriend/boyfriend relationship in a kidding manner he always give me a negative response even when we talk about it in funny manner .he cares about me and share everything with me. .....does he love me or not ....an anybody tell me whats in his mind ...
5 responses
@tiina05 (2318)
• Philippines
5 May 11
hello, First of all if you already love him. Stop showing to him that you really cares for him because maybe he notice that to you like him much that is why he is not telling you at all what he feels and besides stop caring him like you are his girlfriend even it is just a joke it makes him think that you like him. alright?
@toniganzon (59713)
• Philippines
5 May 11
We cannot tell exactly if he loves you or not. When a guy says no, it literally means no. I hope that you would stop hoping and end up getting hurt if he tells you frankly later on that he cares for you only as a friend and couldn't offer more than just that. However, if you can control the pain later on, you can hope all you can and who knows, i might be wrong and you might be right about his feelings.
• Indonesia
5 May 11
hi prazzii... after one year share moment together and feel close each other, he should have certain feeling with you. As the boy, he should arrange a date together with you, if not yet... and he truly never about relationship like boyfriend-girlfriend, he may just play some game with you ( well, it's in my view ). if you want to try make some test to prove it, you try to be hanging with someone else, little ignore him and tell about another boy, then see what is his response? Does he jealous and said it to you or just let you go?! If he just goes, absolutely right : he just play some games with you!!!
• Philippines
4 May 11
If you're friend likes you, I believe that he will tell it to you. If you haven't heard anything from him about stepping in to another level, maybe he's just enjoying the friendship he has with you. There are times that woman tends to feel that a man is interested in her because of the depth of friendship that they have established for each other. When you said that you tried joking him about being you and him as a couple and he reacted in a negative way, that is already a sign that he's not thinking about it. I don't know what's with your friend's mind. Maybe he's not yet ready jumping to a serious relationship. If you really want to know your rea; score with him, you can ask him and tell him what you feel. I know that it will take a lot of confidence to confess that you're inlove with him but that is one of the ways I'm seeing that you can do to know if you and him can be more than friends. I had a guy friend who's interested to his friend. The guy did not confess his feelings because of the fear of losing the friendship with her. The guy has no idea that his friend is feeling the same way for him. The girl confessed that she loves him and she feared that my friend will avoid her because of her confession. My friends was stunned because he never thought that the girl he loves is also inlove with him. They are now a dating couple and they are happy. If the girl didn't have the confidence to confess her feelings with my friend, she'll never know that my friend is also inlove with her. You may confess your feelings with your friend but be ready with the consequences. If he accepts your confession, that's a good news. However, if this guy doesn't love you, just respect his decision. If this guy avoided you after confessing your feelings, he's not worth your love. You can just wait for the love to come. Love will come at the time you least expect it.
@SmallFryK (115)
• United States
4 May 11
No one can hope to know what is going on in his mind. Some people fear commitment, some people just want someone to be close to them but not have a relationship. He might care about you, and maybe he's afraid that taking it to the next level will damage what you share now. Love is a tricky subject; there are too many variables and no single person is exactly like another in the way they think, feel, or what they want. I wish you the best of luck.