can anybody tell me how to forget a guy.

India
May 4, 2011 12:22pm CST
can anybody tell me how to forget a guy.....coz it is very difficult for me to forget one guy ..i fallen in love wid one of my frend and latly recgnise that he will never fall in love with me so i decide to forget him bt at the same tym to continoue our freindshiop...bt it seems very difficult as each tym i see him or talk to him on phone the feeling overwelmed me and i stared loving him so pls somebody give me suggestion to forget him completely
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• Philippines
27 May 11
hi prazzii- you need some space or distance to him ..or you can talk to him that you need space with him and if he is a true friend of yours he will understand ...the friendship will remain you just take a break for a while with him..then if you moving on already that is the time you renew te friendship...
15 May 11
hmmm... i think as long as you two continue to communicate and stay friends... there is no such thing as forgetting him... i think the only time you can forget about him is when you can see that he is with a girlfriend as is deeply in love with her... or you can find yourself a boyfriend and fall in love with him.
@in212857 (67)
• India
12 May 11
For a girl shopping is the main source of energy which keeps them going on and on and on so my dear can you do that God has given you such a beautiful life why to waste even a minute for someone who is not worth of it... indulge in any activity you enjoy
@sweet_pea (3323)
• Philippines
10 May 11
For me unrequited love is the saddest kind of love. You love him, but he doesn't love you. I saw myself in this situation before, fortunately for me I don't have to deal with him on a daily basis because we were miles apart. When I had a nasty breakup with his cousin, he made overseas calls just to hear I'm okay. I was really happy because he was my life-long crush. I was hoping that he would court me unfortunately it never did happen. It seems i'm just a friend to him. After a few years, I found out from a cousin that he likes me too a lot, the sad thing is I'm already married. I think you should accept the fact that he can't be yours. You can't make somebody fall for you. Hoping could be more hurtful for you so just stop it. It really is difficult on your part when you still see him. If only you can put a distance between you and him for now, forgetting can be easier. Why don't you bond with your other friends go out and just enjoy life. Maybe by doing so you can meet somebody who will be able to reciprocate your feelings.
@in212857 (67)
• India
5 May 11
Its so easy dear the only thing is it will take time and it depends upon ur strong will power , but definately it will happen and only you will do it all you need is a total change of small small activities you used to perform in a different way Like chnage the way you used to take for ur office or college, it will work change ur furniture settings it may look like absurd for now but it will work start living ur life for urself
@gorila (188)
• Indonesia
5 May 11
difficult if you want to forget someone but you still see him. I suggest you try for several weeks try to disappear from that man's life.
@lyamsitiy (104)
• Philippines
5 May 11
First, i suggest you should decide if you really want him out of your life. And once you have decided then motivate yourself. If you are hurting then love your self more. Respect yourself and know your self worth. I think if you really believe that you are worth more than what he treats you then it would be easier for you to accept that you need to let him go. And it would help a lot if you just put a distance between your friendship even for the meantime that you are trying to get over him. Don't over analyze the things he does to you, maybe that's the reason why its hard for you to let him go because he's sweet or nice to you. Hope you can find your true happiness.
5 May 11
Believe me it will go away over time. It's most likely that you are in love with his friendship. My brother thought he was madly in love with this girl that he's been best friend with for years. They finally gave it a shot, then they broke up two days later because they realized that they liked it better as them being friends. Don't worry it's natural to feel like that about him. He's just a crush, other dudes going to come and you'll forget about it. And you never know what the future brings you guys may give it a try. all in all time will heal you.
@sender621 (14933)
• United States
5 May 11
Forgetting about someone can be something easier said than done. the heart can be very complicated. Your head may be willing to put that person out of your mind. yet the heart will remain to hang on and not let let that person go from your life. The only sure way of forgetting someone is to have something or someone to replace the void they have left in you.
@youless (104238)
• Guangzhou, China
5 May 11
There is not a better method because you have loved this person. Just let it go by time. Time will mend your heart and you will feel less depressed step by step. In fact if you loved him so much before, you can't really regard him as your friend again since the relationship changed. I love China
• Philippines
5 May 11
It is really very difficult to forget someone especially if you love them soo much. Before I had experienced that. It took me years before finally I came to the realization that he would never like me. Well, it was same as you that we would really see each other really often coz we were really close friends and not to mention school mates. But my advice to you is don't force yourself to forget him. Time will tell when you will forget this guy. Just set your mind that he likes this someone else. Maybe it will be advisable if you distance yourself a little bit from him and try to focus on other things. Try to do new things and don't let yourself revolve around him.
@cjfsunny (86)
• China
5 May 11
hi,prazzii.i very undetstand your feeling.several yeas ago,i confronted the same problem like your.the only differnt is i told him my feeling with him.but he refused me and said some reasons.at that time,i couldn't accept this fact.exactly speaking,i feel so shy.so i decided not to talk with him.with the time flying,i found the feeling that admire to him has gone.now i have a boyfriend and our love each other very much. your words remainds me of him.i think you shouldnot delibrate to forget the guy. the more you want to avoid ,the longer you keep it mind.here,i provide you suggestions.at first,you should tell the guy your feeling on him.if he firmly refuse and have no room for restore,you should give him up .the time can heel anything hurt.just relax.you can forget him.take care of you.happy lotting.
@tiina05 (2318)
• Philippines
5 May 11
hello, Forgetting someone is not easy at all because he always been part of your life and you cannot change it. You cannot forget him if he always been be with you. If you really want to forget him just dont mind what he was doing in that way you wont recognize him at all.
• United States
4 May 11
This is a question I found myself asking when I was younger and still find myself asking now that I'm older. First make sure its not just a crush. I'm not saying it is , just make sure. I've learned that crushes can be just as painful. But with a crush you do eventually get over it. It takes time but you can move on. Ah, but if your in love well you never completly get over your first love or forget them. Over time the pain lessens and you do move on but there is still a little bit there. And then when your older you'll actually smile when you think of him. You can try what I've never been good at but wish I was brave enough to. Stop being friends. That way you don't have a constant reminder of your pain. Me , I'm a wimp. I've done it once and it hurt like crazy but it helped me move on. Believe it or not , it may not feel that way now but eventually the pain gets less. You have to find what works best for you . Find a way to be happy. Good luck.
• Argentina
4 May 11
You won't forget him if he stills being your friend. That happened to me once, I was really in love with this guy, but he was such an idiot. I decided that seeing him everyday would not help at all, I was really hurt so I quit my job to not seeing him anymore. But, if you want to keep being his friend, you should find another person to fall in love. However, this takes time, so you should handle this until you meet another one. This is definitely the only way. During my depression time thanks to this idiot, I decided to spend a few months in London, with my aunt, and there I met the most amazing person ever, and he helped me to forget the other one. Another thing you can do is talk to him, because, are you sure that you know what he feels about you? And if he doesn't feel anything, maybe he is such a cutie and he understands you, and then you both can have more relaxed friendship, in some way. Or maybe, he decides to not be your friend anymore, and this would help you to forget him more easily. Just talk to him, and then begin to hanging out with your friends to meet some other guys.
• United States
4 May 11
Honestly, there's no special way to forget a guy. You just to have to distract yourself doing things that you love to do, hanging out with friends and going out. Don't sit there bored doing nothing because then it'll be hard for you to stop thinking about him.
4 May 11
you can forget any one if you are away from them for a long time but you told he is yur friend then it is not possible. he will come everyday infront of you and how can forget him? i suggest donot to forget her just make him realize that you really loves him or it will be too late
@mods196621 (3656)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Okay try to follow the advice of them because me too had the same problem. Like you i dont know how to forget and really it is painful that my heart is bleeding and feel that i cannot breath. The same question as you how to forget your love one. Whatever reason as long as your love involved. But i can give you advice at least you can do it because you are brave than me, you can manage your self better than me. Because i am a desperate woman so i cannot handle it properly. Now try to make yourself happy, if you love him tell it to him but be ready for the outcome. Then if you think you cant carry still that is really the problem to us as a girl. Why still our heart loving and still insisting to love those who are a problem in the future. Well hope we both resolve our problem...
@AdalieM (1134)
• United States
4 May 11
Time, only time heals all the wounds. Don't believe in the concept of getting into a relationship just to get over somebody. The fact that somebody doesn't feel the same way as you, makes things harder, I mean if you were dating and he cheated on you, at least you would have a reason to hate him and move on. But when there's no reason to hate, is a different matter. Try not to be around him. Six months ago I met somebody, only he didn't feel the same way, it left me broken hearted, I moved to another place to live, just a couple of miles in the same city, started seeing other people, and I met somebody else, I no longer think about him. Best advise is not to be around him, I don't see how you can continue the relationship with him without hurting. I am sorry.
• United States
4 May 11
Once the heart is involved it is not easy to completely and easily forget. The only thing you can do is put a bit of distance so that you do not continue to remember and the love continue to grow. If this person is quite friendly and you do not want to loose the friendship, all you can do is try hard to refrain and allow time perhaps to dissolve the love feelings. Try to develop some new friends in which you can keep yourself and your mind busy, this way you are not constantly thinking about this person. Not an easy task but I wish you well and hope in the end that you will be okay throughout all of it.