what would you do if a boy that says he loves you forever suddenly marry other?

we were like this.. why now you chose another? :( - a boy kissing a girl showing his love for her
Portugal
May 7, 2011 8:02pm CST
hi guys. sorry for so long i didnt come here. i been busy working and now im busy looking for a job :( anyway im happy i came here today^^ but something bad happened to me. im just wanting to know what would you do if someone says he loves you forever and suddenly you know that he married other girl. what would you do? what would be your reaction? me im chocked really i didnt expect this and i want you guys to tell me what would you do in my situation :(
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22 responses
• United States
8 May 11
Hi sweetlove It has been a while since I have seen you and wondered if all was okay. I have not had this type of situation but have been wronged in the past. The only thing to do is try as hard as we can to move on. Time is the best healer. I do hope you are okay and that all is well.
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• Portugal
8 May 11
im sorry that i didnt be online for so long :( its just that i had no money to pay for internet so i had to be absent for awhile. im trying to find a job but it is being really hard. i like your new emoticon it is really cute^^ how are you and your boyfriend? will you marry soon? i guess you are right and i have to move on. i just dont get it why he suddenly put he is married with some girl without even tell me first about it. we agreed to wait for each other to meet near and now he loves other girl out of nowhere? :(
• China
8 May 11
hey,you actually should feel lucky,he is not suit for you.You should take care of yourself in the future life.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
8 May 11
hello cat, How are you my dear friend,i missed you and good to see you again This is a very sad come back topic from yours. How could he says he loves you and then marry someone else's. It will surely break my heart,turn my whole world upside down and will make me crazy Oh..i wish your heart is not broken this time my dear
• Portugal
8 May 11
sis i miss you too^^ im sorry for tell you bad news. i really feel sad and crazy right now. at least i should know his reasons. im just feeling so nervous and so bad. i never gave him reasons to just stop love me and love other girl. why he didnt tell me? its just hurting me bcs as you know we are so far from each other. this time i couldnt be online i bcs i didnt have a job so couldnt afford to pay internet. and now he just suddenly finds a girl? i just dont understand :(
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
8 May 11
i know i know it hurts... cmon' cry ...i am here,always here by your side
• Portugal
8 May 11
thanks so much sweet sis^^ i cried much today already im feeling a bit better now. but i dont want to think that i really lost him. i really like him and my dream was to have a job to save money to meet him so soon. he is my dream guy and now what am i gonna do if he really loves that girl? i didnt expect him to do that to me ever you know :( i just feel too chocked
@ansi09 (151)
• Tunisia
8 May 11
Welcome back sweet woman, glad to know you are back, & i feel sorry about what happened to you. That's what happens to lovers who met through internet, i had a bad experience with that too. I gess cyber relationship is doomed to failure. I suppose you are talking about your boyfriend in who lives in another country sweetloverforever, right ? Anyway, don't let it disappoint you sweetloveforever, think of it that way, it's not meant to be. I was so disappointed too when my relation with a woman living in the usa failed, not coz we don't like each other, but coz of distances, i suppose 99.99% of such relations never succeed. Nice to see you here sweetlovberforever, you'll find someone who really loves you, take care ^_^
• Portugal
8 May 11
thanks so much for your comforting words. i guess is true that relations like this are hard to come true in reality but i guess that depends of people efforts^^ i mean if both have a job and save money to meet near there isnt a reason for that to dont happen. everything is possible as long as both fight^^ im sorry that your relation didnt work but im sure you will find a good girl that will love you so much too soon^^ you deserve that^^
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
8 May 11
I would probably be devastated. I don't understand this kind of people who say all kind of things when they don't feel it...but I would try to move on even if it would be so damn hard I'm sure.
• Portugal
8 May 11
yes thats how i feel. i feel really bad and sad. i dont know his reasons to act like this. i just dont know how he did that to me. i really trusted in his feelings for me. i always believed him. when he promised things and didnt do it i always forgave him and trusted him anyway. why he did that to me? he said he will wait for me even forever and that he was born to love me. why now he does this?
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@sabhari05 (263)
• India
8 May 11
hay small correction I am boy so after my love if she leaves me and go.First it is a shock news for me and I feel that she might have get married due to some problems and I would satisfy me.But I know the principle of god when you cheat others purposely one day you would be get cheated.
• Portugal
8 May 11
i dont know why he did that to me. i never lied to him neither cheated him. if i said i love him i didnt just be with somebody else. we agreed to wait for each other to be together. and now he is with other girl i dont get it. i always supported him, i worried with him and now he does this. i just cant understand and it really hurts me :(
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
9 May 11
Well, unfortunately sometimes this happens. It would really be a shock to me too especially if this was someone you really cared about. And if you had no idea they were marrying someone else, and then found out I would feel jilted as well and have troubles ever Trusting someone else. That meant they were cheating on you and lying to you and themselves. I would only wish the Best, and hope the girl does not end up eventually getting jilted like this as well.
@ann815 (54)
• Philippines
8 May 11
as much as it hurts, then it wasn't really love in the first place. maybe you were there when he was still waiting for the right person to come along. you cannot mope just because he went off marrying someone else. you deserve someone better. someone who will stay with you through thick and thin. be patient. in the meantime, spend some time loving yourself. :) get some pampering you deserve it. :)
• Portugal
8 May 11
i think i cant trust on guys again. i thought he was the only guy i could trust ever. how could he just choose other girl and not let me know? i mean if i fell for other guy i would tell him. why he just decides to love other girl and dont tell me :( it really hurts me bcs i always did all i could just to be with him and now he acts like this :( i dont deserve it :((
• Philippines
10 May 11
I don't know the guy but it sounds like he's playing with your feelings. Isn't he suppose to marry the one he loves? When a person gets married, he should be forever in love with that woman he married at the altar. If I were you, I would not take his words seriously. There's no point wasting my time on a relationship that goes nowhere.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
28 Nov 11
I am sorry that things didn’t work out for you Sweetie. You seem like a really nice lady, and I really enjoy our talks about things. It is hard to imagine a guy not wanting to be with you. The thought of being with you has crossed my mind a few times. Keep your chin up and keep being yourself. The right person will come into your life when the time is right.
@Bryanx54 (644)
8 May 11
Awwh babe, im heartbroken reading this, its soo sad i honestly dunno what i would do in your shoes, but i know i would offer a shoulder to cry on for a good friend. :)
• Portugal
8 May 11
thanks so muchy bryan. im happy that you would support your friend in this situation. im really sad bcs i never expected him to do this. he promised he would wait for me even forever. i trusted him and now suddenly a girl is married to him? how could he do that to me? i did all i could just to even see him and now he does it? :( doesnt make any sense to me :((
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
26 May 11
I would be sad, angry, mad and shock if this were to happen to me. That is really painful. I think I can't handle the emotion. I might break down if ever that will happen to me. It will take a few days, months even years for me to move on. I really can't give you any advice if ever this situation is true. Let's just pray that we will be able to handle it well and that everything will end well for you and the guy who did it. I wish my bf will never do this to me..
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
8 May 11
That you would know he just B*S. you the whole time, and you shouldn't trust that guy ever. Well, that is the real world though, boy can tell you anything when they trying to gain your love. Once they get bored with you, they just forget what they vowed to do. Unless there is a different situation.
• Portugal
8 May 11
i thought he was a different guy.. i trusted his promises and his words. you know, our only way to comunicate was by internet and then i couldnt be online anymore bcs couldnt afford to pay net so i sent him letters. everyday i write to him and send letters whenever i can and have money. suddenly i just saw that he is married with other girl. why did he do this? i always said im afraid he looks to other girl and he promised me not to. he said he loves me and is waiting for me.. now he just does this? it doesnt sound like him doing this kind of thing really :(
• Philippines
8 May 11
I would be depressed if I will be in that situation. Perhaps at first, I will be angry to both the guy and the girl. Later on, I will be able to move on but before that I will tell the boy frankly that he will regret the thing that he has done to me. I will let him feel that there will be no other girl that will love him the way I did.
• Portugal
8 May 11
you are right. i should let him know that he wont have a girl that will love him as much as i did. i did all for him. even we were so far i always found a way for us to communicate. he promised he would work to come and see me. i always trusted his word. he said he wouldnt look to other girl and i trusted him :( why did he just act like this? if i didnt care for him i could understand he look to other girl and fall for him but me? i always am doing all i can for him. i couldnt be online for awhile so everyday i wrote for him and sent the letters whenever i had money for it. i didnt deserve this :(
• Mexico
8 May 11
Hi sweet love forever: Good to see you again. Fir I think I'll feel hurt but I'll try to not think about it. That's his life, he has continued living. People makes this type of promises and then they break it. It's sad but humans are like this . Thanks for asking and for coming back again. ALVARO
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
9 May 11
What can you do? If he married someone else he obviously lied about loving you and as sad as that is, you just need to move on and forget him. I don't know how long you may have been with this person, but,regardless he made his choice and the best advice i can give to you is to forget him.
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
8 May 11
Hi Sweetloveforever Ahhh, really this thing made me very sad, I remember your posts about your bf and your trust in him, when he was leaving. I know that how much you were disturbed when he didnot contact you for long. It is really very sad for me. I cannot say any thing about this, I have no words but I can only say that share your feelings with your close ones, time is best healer and with time, I pray you come to normal. It is good sign that you are looking for job, be active at mylot. I am also not so active over here now a days, I sign in every day but look and approve my task which I posted in the task but now it is finished...:) Have a good day...:)
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
9 May 11
awwww im sorry about what happened. honestly, if that happened to me i would breakdown because of what he did and I'd probably be miserable heheheh but you know what, i would also be so mad. i would be so mad at him for breaking my heart and for making me believe everything he said. i would wish for them to be happy because if they don't end up having a good marriage, i would laugh at them, and that is because, he started their relationship in a bad way and that is by stepping on and breaking someone's heart. just try to be strong, i know it is hard but be strong. you will find your own and true happiness sometime soon take care
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
8 May 11
It's really just like any other situation where you thought you were hearing the absolute truth and you learn that 1) you were just hearing what someone heard the absolute truth might be and 2) the reason why that person was told they heard (and the reason they believed it and the reason you believed it) was just to make you both feel good about being obedient. For instance: I believe that Jesus Christ paid our full sin-debt upon the cross. I hope you believe it too. But that's not the truth that saves us ... oh, believing in Jesus and showing your love for Him by following His commandments is the beginning of salvation; but you are saved by the grace of God, not by anything you know or do!
• China
8 May 11
i marry other girl as soon as i could.