Alas, I must Say GoodBye
By zralte
@zralte (4178)
India
May 8, 2011 2:13am CST
Not a permanent one - jeez, how can you even think that I could leave myLot?? 
I have read some discussions where in some members want their friends to let them know when they will be absent. I thought I would take those ideas and inform all my friends here that I am not going to be very active for sometime. Though you can bet that I will still be logging on everyday (provided I can arrange my USB internet connection before I leave or a new one over there), I may not be participating much in the discussions for the next three weeks.
I'll be going off to see my mother in my native place (and hopefully bring her back to stay with us). I haven't been there for more than a year and even before that, my visits are usually one week or less every year or so. This time, I am planning a 3 week trip.
The main purpose of this trip is to fetch my mother to come live with us. Though she might not be able to come back with us at the end of three weeks due to my cousin's accident and being hospitalised. My cousin is the one who is staying with my mother and also more like a real sister to my sister and me as we were all raised in the same house. She is a teacher and she met an accident 10 days ago when the vehicle she was on (along with other teachers attending a conference) rolled over on the side of the road. Luckily she was not badly hurt, just a big cut on her thigh. Unfortunately, she was taken to a really really bad hospital in Silchar where they stitched her up without cleaning the wound. The wound got infected and she needed an operation to take away the infected (more like rotten) part. She is now waiting to get the wound healed enough to undergo a plastic surgery - putting muscle back where it was rotten.
Sorry, had to ramble a bit there. I was so 
shocked that the hospital that she went to to get her stitched up, would stitch her up without cleaning!!! If only they had spared 10 minutes cleaning before they stitched her
, she would be alright by now.
Right, back to my topic. My second reason for visiting my native place is to show off my kids. Hey, I'm a mother and that's what mothers want to do. Laugh at me, if you must, but I know for sure that all mothers want to show their babies off to any one who can fake interest. LOL
Sorry, ran out of emoticons... :( :(
Now, for the discussion part, ....... just pick whatever you want from what I have written and I'm sure we can get a discussion rolling. :)
Wait, include your opinion: if I am doing the right thing informing friends beforehand that I am going to be less active?
I have read some discussions where in some members want their friends to let them know when they will be absent. I thought I would take those ideas and inform all my friends here that I am not going to be very active for sometime. Though you can bet that I will still be logging on everyday (provided I can arrange my USB internet connection before I leave or a new one over there), I may not be participating much in the discussions for the next three weeks.
I'll be going off to see my mother in my native place (and hopefully bring her back to stay with us). I haven't been there for more than a year and even before that, my visits are usually one week or less every year or so. This time, I am planning a 3 week trip.
The main purpose of this trip is to fetch my mother to come live with us. Though she might not be able to come back with us at the end of three weeks due to my cousin's accident and being hospitalised. My cousin is the one who is staying with my mother and also more like a real sister to my sister and me as we were all raised in the same house. She is a teacher and she met an accident 10 days ago when the vehicle she was on (along with other teachers attending a conference) rolled over on the side of the road. Luckily she was not badly hurt, just a big cut on her thigh. Unfortunately, she was taken to a really really bad hospital in Silchar where they stitched her up without cleaning the wound. The wound got infected and she needed an operation to take away the infected (more like rotten) part. She is now waiting to get the wound healed enough to undergo a plastic surgery - putting muscle back where it was rotten.
Sorry, had to ramble a bit there. I was so shocked that the hospital that she went to to get her stitched up, would stitch her up without cleaning!!! If only they had spared 10 minutes cleaning before they stitched her, she would be alright by now.
Right, back to my topic. My second reason for visiting my native place is to show off my kids. Hey, I'm a mother and that's what mothers want to do. Laugh at me, if you must, but I know for sure that all mothers want to show their babies off to any one who can fake interest. LOL
Sorry, ran out of emoticons... :( :(
Now, for the discussion part, ....... just pick whatever you want from what I have written and I'm sure we can get a discussion rolling. :)
Wait, include your opinion: if I am doing the right thing informing friends beforehand that I am going to be less active?9 responses
@akp100 (13640)
• India
8 May 11
Hi
Surely its a good thing to inform friends that you are not going to be here for next few weeks. I have seen some friends doing this thing on mylot and i guess its a good habit. I don't used to of it but i wanted to adopt this habit too.
Sorry about your cousin.. hope she will be recover soon. And hope you will able to come back with your mom.
Sorry about your cousin.. hope she will be recover soon. And hope you will able to come back with your mom.@akp100 (13640)
• India
8 May 11
Just checking your profile and it having friend comment from my old account !!!!
That means profile comment was working with my old account but it is not working atall with this account.
Sorry for going off topic.. I just surprise too see that. Hope to see you back here soon.
That means profile comment was working with my old account but it is not working atall with this account.
Sorry for going off topic.. I just surprise too see that. Hope to see you back here soon.@zralte (4178)
• India
8 May 11
That was you??? Hey, the world does go round...
I know...when it was possible, I was too stupid or too lazy to do it. Now that I want lo leave comment on other's profile, I can't do it Very frustrating.
I'm glad you think I'm doing the right thing. I don't want my friends in myLot to think that I have abandoned them, or ignore them.
I know...when it was possible, I was too stupid or too lazy to do it. Now that I want lo leave comment on other's profile, I can't do it Very frustrating.
I'm glad you think I'm doing the right thing. I don't want my friends in myLot to think that I have abandoned them, or ignore them.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
9 May 11
Hi Zralte!
I am sorry to hear about your mother's accident.
I hope you will take care of her, when you reach there and your kids will be happy to see your native place. I wish you all the best for your trip and hope you will remain in touch, if possible for you.
I am sorry to hear about your mother's accident. I hope you will take care of her, when you reach there and your kids will be happy to see your native place. I wish you all the best for your trip and hope you will remain in touch, if possible for you.@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
10 May 11
Am sorry for the goof up . I wish your cousin gets well soon. If you can get hold of net connection at your native place, then connecting with us will not be a problem.
When are you going exactly?
. I wish your cousin gets well soon. If you can get hold of net connection at your native place, then connecting with us will not be a problem.
When are you going exactly?@zralte (4178)
• India
9 May 11
Hi dpk, not my mother; my cousin is the one who had an accident. My cousin as in we are more of a sister as we were brought up together in the same house.
Thank you for your good wishes.
I will drop in here from time to time, and well, you know where to find me. Even though I may not be as active, I will still be online, provided I can get the internet connection there - which I am assured is possible.
@zralte (4178)
• India
6 Jun 11
Sorry I was not as active as I would like to while I was up there. I barely had any time to do anything.
I got back here a week ago, and had to send my laptop out for a much needed repair. I just got it back a few minutes ago and therefore, going through my previous discussions.
It's nice to be back, however hot it is. It was raining the whole time I was there and a little cold (I had to borrow cardigans off my cousins!!!)
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
17 May 11
It's all good my friend...you sure put a lot into that one.
I'm so sorry to hear about your aunt's injury and subsequent problems. This sort of thing can just get worse and worse but I truly hope that is not the case here. Will she have someone to look after her later?
I hope you have a safe trip and can hurry back to us as you will be missed. Take care now.
@zralte (4178)
• India
6 Jun 11
Hi MsTickle, it's sure good to be back.
Like I've mentioned above, my cousin's getting better, almost back to normal. She's got her mom now(her mom was staying with us before, helping me take care of the kids - sort of mom exchange LOL).
What I mised most of all was mylotting.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
9 May 11
hi zaltre I was appalled reading about your poor cousin not getting her thigh wound cleaned before stitching it up, how could such a thing happen in a so called modern hospital.She has a right to sue themn to pay her hospital bills. this infection could have resulted in having to have her leg amputated all because they were too hurried o clean it? I am glad yuo told us about that and about going to pick up your mom. I will send some prayers for God to heal your poor cousin';s leg quickly I imagine your mom is very concerned about your cousin. Heres my best wishes for
a quick healing for your cousin and a safe journeyhome for all of you. God bless.hugs from hatley.
@zralte (4178)
• India
6 Jun 11
Hi Hatley, all's well now, and we are back.
I was horrified to hear about the wounds not being cleaned properly too. I shudder to think what would happen if the infection got too bad before it was discovered and had to be amputated!!! Brrrr..... Thankfully, it was found out quickly and with a bit of surgery and about a month in the hospital and then grafting, she is now getting close to being normal.
Great news...my mom was able to come down with us as my cousin's grafting was done a few days before we had to leave.
I miss you all. Big Hugs.
I miss you all. Big Hugs.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
8 May 11
Hu zralte
Well, now that it is all decided and yes, things are quite really for the good - time for family and kids... I do not have much of a say here. I just wanted to say stay safe and be happy in the times you are away.
I wished we could share some more but time is unfavorable for me and almost many of things that I am starting get flopped... so I cannot even say that here is my email or phone number... but yes, I have a wish for you - Please take care and be the zralte I know of... Charming, sportive and happy...
Oh, yes, your question should not go unanswered - You have done the right thing by sharing your being away between us
And just when you are back, you will find some changes and some people missing and also many more new to keep you busy around....
Take care.
Sid
Well, now that it is all decided and yes, things are quite really for the good - time for family and kids... I do not have much of a say here. I just wanted to say stay safe and be happy in the times you are away.
I wished we could share some more but time is unfavorable for me and almost many of things that I am starting get flopped... so I cannot even say that here is my email or phone number... but yes, I have a wish for you - Please take care and be the zralte I know of... Charming, sportive and happy...
Oh, yes, your question should not go unanswered - You have done the right thing by sharing your being away between us
And just when you are back, you will find some changes and some people missing and also many more new to keep you busy around....
Take care.
Sid@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 May 11
Sorry dear The ink on my keys of the keyboard have gone off for most and I mostly am embarrassed while typing these out... Sorry again, as I should have crosschecked.
I wished I could be the Gatekeeper but Saphrina is already in that charge and right now... I am feeling I will have to go jobless again
@zralte (4178)
• India
9 May 11
Not to worry, thesids. I make typos all the time. Sometimes it is intentional, and sometimes it's accident, sometimes it's because I am in too much of a hurry.
Assistant Gatekeeper, then..... If anyone can be an assistant to Saphrina, I think that person is you. I can see that it would take a really big and loving heart to be an assistant for her.
If anyone can be an assistant to Saphrina, I think that person is you. I can see that it would take a really big and loving heart to be an assistant for her. @zralte (4178)
• India
9 May 11
Hi thesids,
I thought you were mocking me with the 'Hu', then I looked at the keyboard and saw how close the 'i' and the 'u' are. 
That is so nice of you. You always have a way with words.
What do you mean changes and people missing??? Now...I don't want changes and I don't want anyone missing. You are in charge of that. Make sure no one leaves. Stand guard at the door.
I thought you were mocking me with the 'Hu', then I looked at the keyboard and saw how close the 'i' and the 'u' are.
That is so nice of you. You always have a way with words.
What do you mean changes and people missing??? Now...I don't want changes and I don't want anyone missing. You are in charge of that. Make sure no one leaves. Stand guard at the door.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 May 11
OMG my heart was palpitating.
I have had a very slow morning and finally caught up with your discussion and OMG, for a minute I thought I had to get a whole gang to see how we would convince you to stay.
Okay deep breath and nice and slow. Whooish!
Now as for the visit to your moms:
Gosh life goes so fast that I am happy you are going for such a long stay. It will be nice to "show Off" your beautiful babies. Gosh before you know it they will be showing off theirs. lol No time soon I hope.
I am sorry to hear about her surgery and the wound. Wow that has to be hard on her. I will pray my dear that she does come along with you as she would be better off as gosh her grand babies would be so spoiled and have so much fun, with grandma.
You have a wonderful time and hope time does not fly because funny, how when we are having fun, time flies so fast. Simply saying that you get enough time to visit everyone.
Happy Mothers Day!
Gosh life goes so fast that I am happy you are going for such a long stay. It will be nice to "show Off" your beautiful babies. Gosh before you know it they will be showing off theirs. lol No time soon I hope.
I am sorry to hear about her surgery and the wound. Wow that has to be hard on her. I will pray my dear that she does come along with you as she would be better off as gosh her grand babies would be so spoiled and have so much fun, with grandma.
You have a wonderful time and hope time does not fly because funny, how when we are having fun, time flies so fast. Simply saying that you get enough time to visit everyone.
Happy Mothers Day!@zralte (4178)
• India
9 May 11
Sorry to have almost given you a heart attack. Like I said, how can you even think I would leave myLot. Not in the foreseeable future, anyway.
Happy Mothers Day to you too . (I actually forgot it's Mother's day)
The kids are sooo excited, and I am excited too. It seems like I haven't been there like forever. I just know that time would really fly by.
As for spoiling them, I'm not going to be bothered by that. I think it is their right, grandkids spoiling their grandmas by letting them spoil them and vice versa. lol
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
8 May 11
Hi Zralte!
Thank you for informing us that you will be 'otherwise engaged' in the next few weeks
I hope that you will be able to have your mother back with you. That is awful about the accident and how carelessly the hospital dealt with it. I'm sure that your children will do you proud and that you will also have time to be here, even if only once in a while. I certainly know what it is like to have an offline situation that must take priority.
Take care and have as much fun as you can while sorting things out!
Thank you for informing us that you will be 'otherwise engaged' in the next few weeks
I hope that you will be able to have your mother back with you. That is awful about the accident and how carelessly the hospital dealt with it. I'm sure that your children will do you proud and that you will also have time to be here, even if only once in a while. I certainly know what it is like to have an offline situation that must take priority.
Take care and have as much fun as you can while sorting things out! @zralte (4178)
• India
8 May 11
Thanks, mysD I know you are quite busy these days too with other things. I hope you can get everything sorted out soon.
My mother is worried about my cousin, we'll wait and see. If my cousin's better in three weeks time, my mom would come with us. If not, I guess she will have to come later. I can't spare more than 3 weeks there (even that is quite long, considering everything here).
I have planned to visit quite a few places, but I have to cancel those now because of my cousin's accident. Oh well, as long as we are there, I think the kids would have a fabulous time anyway.
I know you are quite busy these days too with other things. I hope you can get everything sorted out soon.
My mother is worried about my cousin, we'll wait and see. If my cousin's better in three weeks time, my mom would come with us. If not, I guess she will have to come later. I can't spare more than 3 weeks there (even that is quite long, considering everything here).
I have planned to visit quite a few places, but I have to cancel those now because of my cousin's accident. Oh well, as long as we are there, I think the kids would have a fabulous time anyway.
@topffer (42156)
• France
8 May 11
Hello zralte,
I believe that a short break from myLot is not bad, and you have many good reasons to take this break. I hope that your cousin will be able to convalesce in a better place : a gangrene could happen after an accident, and I am surprised that this hospital did nothing to prevent it.
I believe that your mother and your cousin will be pleased to see your kids and their proud mother.
I wish to you and your kids a good travel, and I thank you for informing us. See you soon.
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I believe that your mother and your cousin will be pleased to see your kids and their proud mother.
I wish to you and your kids a good travel, and I thank you for informing us. See you soon.@zralte (4178)
• India
8 May 11
Thank you, topffer. I would try to log in at least once a day. Like I said, I'm not sure if how good the internet is there, though I'm pretty sure I'd be able to get one.
Now that you mention it Brrrr....Gangrene.....yikes....I think the danger of gangrene is gone now. My mother said she is starting to walk a little bit with help and the doctors are quite happy with her progress. They are hoping they'd be able to do the plastic surgery for reconstruction by end of this month. Thank God the bad hospital let them take her back to our hometown.
Now, don't go crazy while I'm not here. Remember....I'll still be watching....
Thank God the bad hospital let them take her back to our hometown.
Now, don't go crazy while I'm not here. Remember....I'll still be watching....
@adnileb (5256)
• Philippines
8 May 11
Thanks for informing zralte! ...And happy mother's day to you!
I felt so bad with what happened to your cousin. She happened to be hospitalized in one super bad hospital. Hope she'll get better soon.
And hope also that everything would be just fine on your trip. Enjoy your vacation with your kids and I wish your mother would come to live with you.
Take care!!
I felt so bad with what happened to your cousin. She happened to be hospitalized in one super bad hospital. Hope she'll get better soon.
And hope also that everything would be just fine on your trip. Enjoy your vacation with your kids and I wish your mother would come to live with you.
Take care!! @zralte (4178)
• India
8 May 11
Hi adnileb, Happy Mother's Day to you too. I'm sure the kids and I will enjoy there. Though it would have been much much better if my cousin was well.
The unfortunate place of accident had her being taken to that hospital, which is known for the dirty hospital. I never thought they would be that careless with wounds!!! Being a government hospital, I can understand how busy it would be, but to stitch a wound up without cleaning!!!! It was fortunate that she was released from that hospital and therefore taken to my hometown that they found out about the dirt inside the wound. Oh well, that's all over and done with. Now we can only hope for the best for her recovery.
My mother would come, but the situation might delay her coming down. Probably another month or so.
I'm sure the kids and I will enjoy there. Though it would have been much much better if my cousin was well.
The unfortunate place of accident had her being taken to that hospital, which is known for the dirty hospital. I never thought they would be that careless with wounds!!! Being a government hospital, I can understand how busy it would be, but to stitch a wound up without cleaning!!!! It was fortunate that she was released from that hospital and therefore taken to my hometown that they found out about the dirt inside the wound. Oh well, that's all over and done with. Now we can only hope for the best for her recovery.
My mother would come, but the situation might delay her coming down. Probably another month or so.