How do i convince my parend that i really love this girl

United States
May 9, 2011 4:54pm CST
i was dating a girl in college, (in which my parent knew about),but we broke up and went our seperate ways, now i love another girl but my parent don't want to hear a thing about her, instead they always talk about my ex and always trying to persuade me to go back to her, i dont know how and what to do to convince them that my feelings are not for her anymore, please i need ur opinion
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11 responses
• United States
9 May 11
Most parents want the best for their kids so having perhaps seen you happy before with the ex, and or if the break up was a bad one maybe they are afraid that you will be hurt again. Best thing to do is simply know yourself what is right for you and if the new girlfriend is a nice and good one allow time to show them that you are right in your choice. Perhaps you yourself do not engage in any type of conversation about the ex and allow time for them to forget. Best of luck and hope you and your new girlfriend all the best.
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• United States
10 May 11
Yeah, its time i begin to decide for myself and let them know its my choice, and not theirs,yeah tanks alot i apprecite your comment
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@jaiho2009 (38995)
• Philippines
9 May 11
Maybe your parents find your ex as a good girl. Parents instinct mostly were right,it rarely went wrong. Now,since you and your ex had broken up already. All you need to do is make this new gf to become closer to your parents same like your ex. maybe this new gf needs to prove that she's also a good one and will suits their liking. Maybe it takes sometime...just keep on trying.
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• United States
10 May 11
I think she needs to spend some time around my parent, they'll probably realize she is good and decent girl, thanks i appreciate yor opinion and i hope it'll work
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@kingparker (9685)
• United States
10 May 11
Convince your parents will be harder than persuading a customer to buy my electronic devices. Anyway, I had such experience, and it wasn't going to work, unless my parents would come to sense that I really really love this girl. Anyway, majority of parents want the best for their children. Try to bring that girl home, and show them how great she is.
• United States
10 May 11
Yeah, i hope things work well for me, thanks i appreciate ur comment
@oninomar (506)
• Philippines
10 May 11
hi Idmega2000 Sometimes we can't blame our parents about that.. They want the best for us, as they really know the best? They sometimes interfere with us in our decision, in our feelings and in our life. They think that you can do a right decision for your self.. You must prove first to them that you can decide what is good for you and what is good for them.. Show them what you got and what you have..Show to them that yo are responsible enough to decide and deal with that kind of situation. Parents are there to support and not to make a decision for your self.. You are not in your legal age to decide in that situation, they have to do is to be happy for what you decide. Maybe they think your girlfriend has a bad personality? That is why they don't like her. Sometimes parents are more observant that us.. Maybe they see that your girlfriend is a bad influence with you? (one of the possibility) Just prove to them that your new girlfriend is better that your ex- ... State your reasons why, and they will realized they are wrong in pushing you back to your ex- girlfriend.. Explain them in a right manner that they will shock and make sure that they will listen to you.. Talk to your parents first, then after that you can talk to your girlfriend. Talk to your girlfriend and please her if she could be very nice to your parents, it is only a favor to your girlfriend. And she can;t resist it for sure.. In that way your parents and your girlfriend will have also a good understanding./
• United States
10 May 11
I really appreciate your words they are very good, thanks
@sabhari05 (263)
• India
10 May 11
First you could make your lover to get a good name from your parents and then look at the parents mood and if your parents really like your lover and then say that you love and I am sure your parents would accept it.
• United States
10 May 11
Yeah! I need to be careful about their mood, Thanks i appreciate your comments
@tiina05 (2318)
• Philippines
10 May 11
hello, Okay?. First of all you have to talk to them and if they doesn't agree again maybe this is the time you prove them that this is the right girl for you and not your ex anymore. alright? I really understand what you are going trough now because it also happened to me but my boyfriend and I prove to them that we truly love each other good luck
• United States
10 May 11
U're right , its time i begin to prove myself as a man and not a boy, i have to let them realise that its my choice and not their to make
@misc11 (384)
• United States
9 May 11
Have you brought this girl around your parents? I think the easiest way to convince your parents is to let her spend time with your parents and let them get to know her so they see why you love her. I think you should talk to your parents before and tell them exactly what you have said...that you have moved on and you love another girl and you would like them to meet her and get to know her and I am sure they will be willing. When they get to know her, I am sure they will love her and begin talking about her and not your ex. In the end, it is your life and not your parents life which is very hard to accept sometimes. You will be the one who marries this person so always follow your heart. I hope everything works out!!
• United States
10 May 11
She need to spend some time with my parent, Thanks i really appreciate your opinion,
@783748 (178)
• Philippines
15 May 11
If you really love the girl. You have to fight for her. Try to introduce her to your parents. If your parents still don't like her, you have to overcome all the odds just to prove your love for the girl. I believe that eventually they'll come to realize that you really love the girl and they can't do anything with that. It's you who will marry the girl anyway, not them.
@cream97 (29151)
• United States
11 May 11
Hi. Idmega2000. Welcome to myLot! I think that you will have to just be honest with your parents. If you no longer have feelings for this other girl anymore, then they can't force you to be with someone that is history to you. Tell your parents how you feel and then move on. You don't owe anyone an explanation at all. All that you have to do to convince your parents that you really love this girl is to stay with her, show her love and stay by her side. Don't ever leave her to go back to your ex. This should show your parents that you are really into your new girl.
@aisa86 (36)
• Philippines
11 May 11
hi for me that little by little you must get first the mood of parents to discuss bout that problem..........i mean is when your parent in a good mood.
@mansha (6301)
• India
10 May 11
May be its because there was something they found comforting being around that girl. people sometimes connect that way. Like when my brother married, his wife never made an effort to connect to the family. For some reasons she kept communication with our side of the family to minimum , not even sharing her mobile number with us. Slowly over the years he has drifted apart from the family. Now we do not communicate in the same way as before. There is no quarrel or so but its just that her circle is different then ours so there is no similar point of conversation, when we meet or visit its just an formal affair. So you should be careful who you marry and if she really connects with you and your family at all levels.