jealousy... how far can it go? how to avoide it?
By griecy07
@griecy07 (103)
Philippines
May 10, 2011 8:47am CST
Why do i feel so jealous every time i saw something like "comment" from my bf to his ex-girlfriend and vise versa? Even though i know they were just friends right now and everything between them was over, no more no less just friends. But i can't helped my self about what i felt inside, it's killing me!
Even though i know he loves me and he's telling me the truth I cant afford my self to get rid of jealousy. Am I intimidated with her? But I can't find reasons for me to be intimidated with her. What factor contributes to this kind of feeling, it makes me anxious every time it happens.
I'm confused.. Could you please help me understand it???
3 responses
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
10 May 11
You will get pass that feeling eventually. Just keep yourself focused on more aspects of your relationship such as building trust. Your feeling of insecurity about their friendship will only lead you nowhere and it will only drive a wedge in your relationship.
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
11 May 11
On the first two questions, yes.
It is a feeling that comes naturally knowing that your BF and his ex had a thing in the past. It is but natural for you to get uncomfortable with their friendship..but it is something that you should avoid and get over. What I did is get used to the idea that they are friends. And secondly, I try to befriend the ex. It helped that she had something that is of interest to me: we both enjoy reading a good novel. I tried to build up on that and eventually friendship between us develop.
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
11 May 11
It does not matter that you are poles away,you need to make the effort. Remember, it is you who have issues and not either your BF or his ex.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
10 May 11
you are the only person who knows he answer to the question why are jelous. jelosy is a sign of love ( of course if it's not too exagerated). but you should try to thrust your boyfriend more...or tell him that you feel uncomfortable with them keeping in touch that much. it's normal when you know that they used to date
@griecy07 (103)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Do you think when i tell him that am not comfortable with their friendship he won't be angry at me? Does it ok, isn't it awkward if i let him know that am jealous. Mmmmmm, maybe your right, somehow by opening that up it could give me peace of mind, and stop freaking out.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
11 May 11
i think you have the right to feel that way. i mean, your bf's ex is called an ex because they are finished. so why are they still talking with each other and knowing that your bf is in a relationship with you, why is he doing this in facebook? for everyone to know that they are friends?! duh i do not think that is even possible for exes to become best buddies.
im sure your bf won't like it if you were to talk to your ex in facebook and following all his posts and greeting him on his wall right? so he better act on this well!
