You're her friend = you're my friend...

@mommyboo (13174)
United States
May 11, 2011 9:07am CST
Do you have any friends whose spouse, significant other, or EX spouse or significant other seems to assume just because you're their ex's friend that you're also THEIR friend? Where does this assumption come from? I understand if you're actually mutual friends - ie you really like both people and would hang out with them together or separately or if you were friends with them BEFORE they got together, but I don't understand otherwise. It's different when you basically tolerate that person ONLY because your friend is dating or married to them. How do you get this point across to your friend and/ or their ex or significant other without being too.... mean about it?
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TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 May 11
I'd just make myself unavailable unless they got really pushy about it...
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mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
12 May 11
It's harder for me with this particular one because he has managed to chase away most of her other friends. Except me lol....
34momma
@34momma (13882)
• United States
11 May 11
i think the best or easist thing to do is be like well i was friends with so and so and to show my loyality to my friends i cant hang out with you any more! it's always best to blame it on someone other then you!! LOL
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mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
12 May 11
It wouldn't be so bad but this guy is a creeper, and I mean it in the worst way. Plus, the other ones, the other ex ones? They were real creepers too.... skullking after me in grocery stores, honking at me when they saw my car. Yeah, not my idea of a good time.