Whom do you usually ask for advice, friends or family?

@oninomar (505)
Philippines
May 12, 2011 2:12am CST
hi everyone..are you close to your family members? Do you often talk your problem with them?.where do you usually seek for an advice, to them or to your friends? Do you have the bond within your family? Personally, i ask for advice with my friends i don't know why , maybe i am shy to ask an advice to them... Do you feel the same?
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15 responses
• United States
12 May 11
I usually ask advice from my mother. We are friend most of the time. I am seldom to ask advice from my friend. But if they are matured enough from me, I ask too. I am comfortable to ask advice from my family because no matter what happen they are on our side. I am not saying that friends are not good. I have a lot of friends and best friend. But people changes especially when you go far from each other. Also, good to seek advice from your pastor or teacher (non-gossip teacher...hehe) Try to be open to your family. Communication is the key. God bless.
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• United States
12 May 11
Additional: Now that I am married, I ask advice from my husband and we both prayed before and after discussing the issue to ask for God's guidance.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
1 Jun 11
I am not the type of person to ask advice. I like to try and work it out myself. I am a thinker so I tend to muddle over things for awhile. If and I mean if I cannot figure it out, I would probably go to my Father for advice. He is a very reasonable man. And when he says something he's pretty much on the money.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
22 May 11
Well, as for my family members like my Brothers and Sisters, now that my Mom is gone there is no one I really talk too about things that might be important to me, and seek any advice. With my husbands family a lot of times it depends on what it is, and if appropriate I have been known to share a few things for sure. I honestly think the Best thing for me, is friends. Especially the ones I associate with from church. They can pray and seek god for the right decisions on it all.
@AmbiePam (86710)
• United States
14 May 11
It really depends. My mom has dementia so I no longer am able to ask her for anything. She used to be my best friend, but is no longer able to think rationally. So sometimes I talk to my dad about things, usually the really hard life decisions. But any other kind of advice I usually turn to friends.
@hpalm710 (87)
• Philippines
14 May 11
at all times, I would seek advice from my mom. She has been my best friend since I was a little girl. I grew up believing that moms know best. I know she would give me the best advice that would not forsake me. I am very grateful to have found a best friend in my mom, though my dad is too, but you know, we have what we call "the girl talk".
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
13 May 11
Personally i take advises from my sister. I am close with my family members but when it comes to secrets and all, i only confide in my sister. Whenever i need for advises I go to her too. I do sometimes ask advises to my friedns but it's mostly my sister.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
13 May 11
Hi there, I usually ask for an advice from my friends or my partner. my parents are kind of strict and old fashioned so asking for love advice is not the right thing to do.. i am 25 yet my parents don't welcome the idea of me getting into a relationship... it sucks big time... :( that's why i have a secret relationship right now... it's only my little sister who knows about it. good thing, i have someone from the family who understands me...
@misterMR (796)
• Philippines
12 May 11
I tell most of my problems to my friends. I would also talk about it to my mother, but since my case is that I live in a separate city (because I'm studying), I usually tell most of little single thing to my friends. But of course, I only tell them little secrets or something that I'm pissed off. Troubles could be avoided if I do not share problems. So I guess we're the same. It's just that we feel more comfortable to our friends.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
12 May 11
Usually my first option when asking for advice is represented by my family since I know they want me good,so I try to ask for their opinion when I'm confused and I need guidance;sometimes I also try to talk to my friends since they can also give me valuable advice,so I think it's good to seek for assistance both from family and friends.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
12 May 11
hello, I dont seek an advice to my family because like you I am shy maybe because we dont bond to each other or we dont have time for that matter. So, that means we are not really close to each other. but when I really need and advise I ask my friends to help me or sometimes my cousin but she is left our home far away now so I cant contact her. he he
13 May 11
I find asking in online forums works really well, as you can get a great wealth of advice and experience, and if anyone says anything really wrong, everyone else jumps out of the woodwork to correct them! Live online chat is about my favourite, as you can get instant replies, but so hard to find anywhere with lots of people nowdays. One of the problems with asking family members (And perhaps friends!) is that they go on at you about other things when all you want to talk about is a specific issue!
• Philippines
12 May 11
Hi oninomar, usually when i have a problem the first thing that i can do is to pray to God and to give me a strenght to cope my problems... after praying then i went to my bestfriend and tell my problem to her and ask some advice... i don't know why i feel shy to ask for an advice to my parents even my sisters even were close when problem comes i can't tell them but im easily to tell to my friends when i resolved the problem then i tell to my parents and to my sister's... :)
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
12 May 11
It depends on what the problem is. I can go to my family and especially my husband, but mostly I want to know from people who have been in the same situation and learn how they handled it.
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
12 May 11
it depends upon the kind of topic of your problems.... for example, topics such as faq on drinking, roaming, hard to get subjects in school, about job, etc..... for any personal questions or business, i think you can ask your family about that...
• Australia
12 May 11
Hi there, I usually seek advice from my parents or my hubby. Before marriage, my first priority was family. I always shared my troubles and queries with my friends but my final decision would only be when i have discussed the matter with my family. My parents are and have been very supportive, so i don't hesitate sharing my problems with them and i firmly believe parents will never give wrong advice to their kids. Now that i am married, whenever i am in dilemma, i go to my hubby first. If i am not convinced enough, i seek advice from my parents.