shall I still keep the friendship with her?

I would ask for the money. I would explain to her you need it too, and she is now in a position to repay the loan. Perhaps you want to work out a repayment plan..like $100 a month? Tell her you value her friendship, but feel hurt she ignored paying you back.

Nothing wrong in keeping friendship. did u ask her to return the amount? Perhaps you would not have asked so far. Pl ask her. Be in touch with her till you recover the amount. Thereafter you can think about severing relationship with her.

jackgone no I would tell her the friendship is over and the bank Jackgone is now closed.then I would take her to small claims court for the money she has owed you for three years now.three years is ridiculous of her, even three months is bad. I would make it clear that if she does not come to you with money in her hand you will take her to small claims court and get it with interest on it.

If I were you, I will borrow from Rose $300 she borrowed from you if you are ashamed to ask the $300 she borrowed from you. You know use the reverse psychology.

I think it now up to you if you want to bring up the $300 you lent her before. You can also choose to let it go, and consider what happened a friend helping a friend in time of need. However, if it worries you that much, then just ask for the money back. In regards to if you should continue being her friend or not, this boils down to the question if your friendship is only worth $300. I truly believe that friendship should not end or begin because of money.

If you do not wish to talk to her directly about it, you could be discussing finances and how you are having troubles and maybe she will offer....probably not though, since it has been three years. I think you can keep your friendship, but I think something like that really changes my opinion of others. Therefore, I would not consider her to be as good of a friend. You shouldn't have to ask for the money back from a friend and it's always very awkward to try to bring up. When I was younger I proably would never confront the issue with her, but now that I am older and have a child to care for, I would just have to make myself ask for the money back if it had been 3 years. I hope it works out. So sad to possibly lose a friend over money.

Hi Jack, I hate seeing friendships ruined because of money. I know you don't feel right asking her for the money but for the sake of the friendship, I think you should. Obviously it bothers you and if you don't mention it, then you will have hard feelings toward her and the friendship will be ruined anyway. Maybe it has slipped her mind that she owes you this money? I don't see how but 3 yrs is a long time.

before you jump into anything, have you by any means ask about the borrowed money. you have a right to tell that you need the money. she has an obligation to pay. it has to be made clear.

I think three years is a big time. and Probably asking now for the money borrowed three years back will be looking very awkward. But now let it be that your $300 are gone it must be that she have forgotten or she must be having some issues. From now on keep in Mind of not providing Loan to her. Give some reason to her or just try to avoid when she talks about such things.

I was just commenting on another discussion here more or less about the same sort of problem. The question you have to ask yourself is:- Is your friendship more important than the money? The money you had spare at the time and you did not miss it. I would put it down to experience and not lend to friends again. I feel that this friend possibly feels guilty that she has not paid you back. The other problem in life is the more you earn the more you spend. It would not suprise me if your friend still had debts or problems managing money.

Just keep the friendship. and forget the $300 she owed you. that money is not enough to pay the friendship you built anyway. I know she took advantage of your kindness but it's 3 years ago and it is time to move on.

You are lucky it was only $300. I once loaned someone close to $3,000. And I hardly knew her. She paid back a little, for a while. But, when I pressured her to give more, and warned her I might take legal action, she literally took off. She has hidden herself so well, that even specialists trained to find people do not have a clue about where she is.

even though we are friends, i am never ashamed to tell my friends that they need to pay me back. I have worked hard for that money and i need it back. Just ask her in a calm manner and i am sure that maybe she just has forgot about it.

My suggestion is, why not ask her if you can borrow $300 from her? If she has forgotten about the $300 you lent her in the past, this may remind her and she will pay you back. If she remembers that she owes you $300 but she doesn't want to pay you, she will probably make an excuse and say she can't lend you the money. Either way, you will know for sure if you are ever going to get the money back. In terms of the friendship, the important thing to consider is, apart from this one issue, is Rose a good friend? If she is bad with money, but is kind and thoughtful, always keeps in touch with you, is there for you when you want to speak to her, then it may be worth staying friends with her. However, if she usually forgets your birthday, cancels appointments or arrives late, doesn't call you but waits for you to call her, then this issue is a symptom of a general problem in your relationship.

Are you ready to end a friendship just because of money, three years ago is quite a long time,that means you've friends with her for more than three years. its better you forget the money and beleive that you help her with it. But if it keeps coming to your mind then you need to sit her down and talk to her about the money, its quite a long time she might have forgoten about the money