How can you still flatter your partner in a long term relationship?

@xien2xien (1382)
Philippines
May 16, 2011 3:10am CST
Being in a relationship needs a constant improvement or else both of you will be both get bored in the same old situation. Can you share your opinion or technique in order to make your relationship feels like as if it was still you first month being together? what are you doing in order to still flatter or overwhelm your partner throughout a long term relationship
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• Philippines
16 May 11
well as for me, i have been with my partner for over 3 years now, 4 years to be exact, this coming 18th of may, i guess good communication is the best way to improve, i'm super aggressive when it comes to talking, well i bet other couples who don't have these qualities will not stay long..it is better for us to say what is really going through our mind and be honest with each other, even if telling the truth may sometimes hurt.. doing different stuff together may help, like cooking together, watch movies and other stuffs like that.. you'll get to know more of each other by not neglecting this simple and small stuffs.. what i really appreciate in this long term relationship of mine is that even if we don't actually say vocally that there is something wrong but then we manage to be sensitive enough to acknowledge and do something with it..
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
18 May 11
well first of all happy 4th year anniversary to you and your partner.. i agree that talking about anything else that matter in a relationship can help both parties to continually understand each other, talking is a simple way of sharing you thoughts and opinion about something that bothers you, it helps more in solving problems and difficulties.
• Philippines
18 May 11
thank you for the greetings! i just want to add that appreciating differences would really help in any relationship but i think that this is difficult to achieve, even as for me at times, i'd wonder why are we(me and my partner)not that compatible or we don't agree to things most of the time, but then at the end of the day, i'd soon realize the wonder of each differences and know for sure the reason behind the scientific sense of OPPosites do attract..hehehehe..
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
16 May 11
I've never been in a romance for too long. My record is between 6 months - two years, so I could not tell anything here. But hearing from others say, I guess you need to have starry eyes most of the time for your partner...
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
18 May 11
i think 2 years is considered a long term relationship because in my history the longest time i've been in one relationship was only 1 year and 7 months.... and having a starry eyes for your partner can make a relationship last longer
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
18 May 11
Having starry eyes all the time may result in eye's malfunction....
@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
16 May 11
My husband and I are on our way to our 10th wedding anniversary. And you're right, couples should do something new with their relationship once in a while to keep the fire burning! In our case, we go out once in a while. Before, we usually go to the mall and spend the time just the two of us, away from our kids even for only a few hours. Then, there was the time that he brought me to a spa for a body scrub and massage. It was an experience I want to repeat again and again. And we tend to send each other text messages saying the words "I love you. "
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
18 May 11
someone who is in love will never get bored hearing those sweetest word of "I LOVE YOU" no matter how often you say it as long as it contains your full feeling and emotion it was still worth hearing over and over again.. having some time being together all alone is sweet, having those happy quality time together away from everybody is a lot of help
• United States
16 May 11
Hey there, I have been living with my boyfriend now for six years. I am happy to say that as the years pass we grow closer together. He is always putting my feelings before his. I would have to say because of the wonderful communication we have that we continue to further be able to discuss what we like and do not. Sure we at times to not agree with everything but we have a way of discussing things that leads us to remembering why we are together. I do like that each of us knows to handle thing special from time to time and spark up the relationship.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
18 May 11
handling all situation in a relationship can be very hard special those problematic times, but being able to handle it makes the relationship grows stronger, i wish both of you could keep it up to make your long term relationship into a lifetime relationship...
@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
17 May 11
Hello there!...good to hear from you again Well all I can say is try to understand him/her eventhough sometimes you don't understand him/her anymore!.....a little bit confusing huh? Seriously though, you should have a good laugh together and swallow your pride
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
18 May 11
i guess i get the point of "Well all I can say is try to understand him/her eventhough sometimes you don't understand him/her anymore!" ... sometimes there are lots of things that both of you could never understand but maybe acceptance could help... i mean accepting each others principle, belief or even attitude can be very hard to do but loving someone needs respect and acceptance... i think its the key to success Having a good laugh together is nice And always be careful with this pride thing it can screw your relationship... I know that you were happily married and i adore you for handling this thing, i mean being a good wife and mom at the same time it is very hard yet overwhelming
16 May 11
we are already 4 years in the relationship with my boyfriend.and our love to each other still hasnt change.. to make our realtionship really happy. we made sure to surprise each other one in a while..and do things so unusual. just be so creative in your reasltionship!Goodluck!:)
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
18 May 11
continuously surprising your partner with something that exert a lot of efforts can be very touching and help both parties still remain in love with each other through the span of time... thanks for the comment
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
16 May 11
flattery is an art, lol! well, i guess romantic men like me used it a tool to make women hear what they want to hear, lol! It is more of creating an interest, initiate, sustain and maintain! Worked for us for 20 years now and based on this, we learned to cook, to pacify and raise the kids, to travel, etc.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
18 May 11
wow you have such an amazing quality to prolong your relationship for 20 years. i think romantic men are kinda hard to find this days, but i'm lucky to find someone romantic, we're only just starting our journey but we're looking forward of having this relationship last longer most likely we've wanted it to be for a lifetime. that's why i was inspired to put on this discussion to learn from people who already experienced this kind of thing
• United States
17 May 11
It come down to one thing, be yourself at all times.
• Philippines
17 May 11
well for you need to think of something that you don"t do before so that the energy of love will continue to progress,,, and one thing you will do is you need to have a patience in all things,,, because true love will experience trials in our life we just want to be more focus in good thins to your companion and it is better that besides love there must be a respect for each one of you,,, so that you will not be bored. love him or her with all the energy of your heart,
• Philippines
16 May 11
In my opinion handling a long-term relationship entails a decision that you would commit to keeping the love alive, and staying strong for your loved one. That alone, I believe, would be enough to keep your partner in love with you.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
18 May 11
i'm asking of how can you do it, how can you keep this love alive what will you gonna do?how can you be strong for your love once can you please specify some experiences