Where is my first kiss?which's the most important?Career or Love?

China
May 16, 2011 10:34am CST
i will be 24 years old this Saturday but i am still single and i even haven't had a date with boys,in the past i paid much attention on my studies coz i know it means a a lot to my career and my future thus sacrifice my affections and love instead,now when i realize the important of love,it seems love have left away from me, I can no longer find any crush on someone,maybe the surroundings are too depressing,so when do you have your first date if you can still remember and what's your first kiss like ,i guess different people have their own stories,the fisrt kiss is memorable and sweet.but i have no chance to give and be given,thank you for advance,if you don;t mind to share...
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11 responses
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
16 May 11
You have to put yourself out there if you want to meet people. Go to events, parties, clubs. Join activities where there will be single men around. Tell your friends you are looking and see if they know anyone to hook you up with a date. I was 18 when I had my first date and 19 when I had my first kiss. It's a little late by typical American standards but I'm glad I waited. I don't think it's right to start too young. Don't stress about it, love will come when it's time. In the mean time just go out and be open to people and when the opportunity comes take advantage of it.
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• China
17 May 11
Thanks dreamy!there is a relatively oppressive environment around me,we seldom have parties and never been to clubs ,in my eyes it's a place full all sorts of social ranks and sometimes unsafe,maybe not the same with clubs in your countries what's more ,i just feel tired with our chinese boys and they looks thinning and physically very weak,yes love will come when it's time but who knows,i am still waiting for the man who could really understand me...good night coz we are neally midnight now...^-^
@ziom39 (1)
• Poland
16 May 11
I think for girl career is not so important than for men. He has to work and earn money for family and women should take care of children and his husband. The best way to find somebody is like previous said go to club but also respond for party invites.
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• China
17 May 11
i partly agree with what you said,i think maybe this life for women is desirable and i heard many famous actress married rich or there are some college girls relying on their high level of education to find a sugar daddy or become a mistress,to lean on a moneybag,This phenomenon is commom and often reported by media.i am ashamed on these girls.Wommen can also successful both on career and her family but the premise is she has a happy family deserves her to take care...i will put my family and husbund in the first place if i really can find my true love and why not,but for now it seems distant to me so i have to pay more attention to my study and win a dependent future...
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
18 May 11
dellahappy, Just came across your post and I like to encourage you to be optimistic as you are relatively still young which your opportunities abound and future bright. It does not mean that you will not be able to meet your ideal partner and have a relationship because you forgo it when you were pursuing your academics and career. Let me assure you that there is nothing regrettable. So, take your time as Rose Pollard, an elderly lady that just got married and become the oldest married couple for the records, once said: "Take your time and get to know one another. Get to know if you like all the things that person stands for. ... Be forgiving and patient and say I love you once in a while." Love is never about destiny - it's about empowerment, realization, choice and learning. Many times, it's not so much of how much someone suffered in love - it's about what you come out of it and surmount those challenges. Not everyone needs higher learning in love; you just need to know enough to make your relationship fulfilling when the time and opportunity comes. Read more: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2526054.aspx#up_NeRGVPEYD8tSdMPtbTAma4PXacw0pMvY5NfEIiWr95k%3d
• China
19 May 11
thank you skysucsess,it's inspiring indeed,but i think at this age the most happiness things is surrounded by your children and grandchildren and enjoy our twilight years...
• India
17 May 11
Well Iam a teenage boy I will be 21 this year I had my first kiss last year it was quite memorable in my life and the sweetness of love during first time was just so awesome. Me and my partner has been in relation for 1 and a half year during my days of single I had not concentrated more on love but just had lots friends I Dont know how I met this dream girl of my life we have lot of problems in our life ups and downs always knocks our door in our relationship by we tend to stay together in love. I love my GF very much.
• China
18 May 11
you are very luck to enjoy all of this and have found someone you love so much,and i guess your life is colorful and full of joys,may happiness be with you often...
17 May 11
dont worry.. being single is nice and you still have many boys to collect and select.
• China
17 May 11
Actually yes,i prefer to be single instead of falling to love without affection or for the reason of loneliness hastily,i just want to have a love affair after i watch someone else's stories ,it's so sweet but i think it exaggerates the relationships.i believe the true love and i will wait with my true heart and give my all to build this relationship...thank you my friend...
@783748 (178)
• Philippines
16 May 11
Career and love should be balanced. Neglecting either of them would really result to a feeling of emptiness. It seems that you lack something. Don't worry if you have not had any relationship yet. It will come in time. Maybe it will come tomorrow (who knows?!). Try to change your lifestyle without taking for granted your career. You can try to socialize by attending parties, joining organizations, etc. You could do all of these without neglecting your career--- maybe you could do these after work or something. Just find time for everything. Balance of these things is the solution.
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• China
17 May 11
hi,my friend,we are the same age but i think i am a loser at some personnal affairs,i have no technique and abilities to know new boys since i have lots of friends around me ,they are male but i know it's impossible coz we have been friends so long time and cann't reach further any more.study and career is something you can strive for,but when it refers to relationship coz it' mutual and can not be forced,sometimes it appeares to be very helpless,however i haven't lose my faith in love and i am still waiting and expecting surprise...
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
17 May 11
A pleasant day to you dellahappy, With reference to your main topic - career and love are both important. As these two works on different ways. As these two, brings a separate pail of happiness and contentment. Dont get upset if you cannot find any crush on someone since there will be a perfect timing for that. And when that time comes, you will just feel the unending happiness. Perhaps, just do concentrate more on your career, maybe, a great reward awaits you on your career and just after that, your lovelife will arise. Above everything, pray for guidance in both - for your career and upcoming lovelife.
• China
17 May 11
your commot are so encouraging and thank a lot,i indeed feel at lost after i watched the movie "the prince and me ",though it happened on the prince but that's not the point,what seems appealing to me is the mutual attraction and upgraded feelings but that's exactlly black to me,i feel unable to do as much as i would like to,i have to program and debug without ending i feel tired and really feel empty that's the road i chose...
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
17 May 11
Never know how to kiss as it is a custom.
• China
18 May 11
we never do this even with our parents and family,but i think kissing is a good way to express deep feelings and enhance feelings ,i will give my boyfriend or husband my children kiss like you do in future and i love your custom
• United States
17 May 11
My first kiss was with my best friend and we were in the 7th grade, and we were playing tag. So, he tagged me and I tripped over a small rock and I was lying on the grass. He was on top of me and then out of nowhere I kissed him. But, of course the kiss wasn't good or what I expected it to be. But, it was my first kiss, and that makes it the most special one of all.
• China
17 May 11
yes,i think this memory is sweet and belongs to your tete-a-tete world,your shared memory.i can tell a faint smile out of the corner of the mouth when you recalled all these,thanks for share a very romantic and pure campus love...nice day.see you around
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
16 May 11
Personally I prefer the first love and then I build my career.I speak so because I am only 23 years.I predtsenih that must be my first family strong support behind them and children.I think that the more early raise their children the better for us and for the children not born to them later and make us think about their grandparents.Career may be built as 20 and 30 years.However, this is a matter of perspective.Everyone has to ancestors for yourself and make sure that this man is a man of his life that it is his love. Many important choices so of my advice is well thought before you take any decision will then be tears.
• China
17 May 11
Firstly might i ask whether you speak english in bulgaria,it maybe off the point?thanks for your sincere answers,i personally think i put more on my family and i am a rather emotional girl but maybe i hide myself to deep and too implicit,i hope i am someone prefer the love and then build my career but now where is my true love since i can't find him ,therefore i only can take the same route...
• Philippines
17 May 11
My firt kiss was when I was in high school. It was with my first boyfriend and as Taylor Swift would say, it was fearless. Kidding aside, your first kiss should feel right if it is with the person you really like. You don't want to have to kiss someone just for the heck of it right. To meet single guys, try paying attention to your appearance. Go to places wherein there will be a possibility that you will meet someone. Don't just go to work and go straight home. Try to unwind by going to the gym, go clubbing with friend, etc.
• China
18 May 11
good suggestions,i should pay much more attention on my appearance and try to be open more.but i don't think it's so important coz i don't want someone who is with me is actually attracted by my looking or something else and i have to admit love are things that can be meet while not deliberately seek..