How wrong is this???

For me Flowers are a empty gesture. flowers are the gifts a guy resorts to when he did something wrong and doesn't want to get caught. So flowers to me are no gift at all. But this " father" id way too selfish. 2000, could have been a start for a college fund, a nice dinner out and food and diapers for a few months! This stunt says Soo much about him and none of it is good. If I were she, i would have told him , either the jewelry goes or i do. And If I do, he will have More Child support to pay!

Wow... sounds like someone feels a little self-entitled I think his actions are just selfishly motivated. It is their first child and her first Mother's Day and it's nice that he got her a dozen roses (typically viewed to be a very romantic gesture and gift). However, some people are incapable of giving generously to others. They have to have something too. It's like, have you ever known someone that went out and bought a birthday gift but bought two of the same thing so they could keep one for themselves? Or bought a gift and ended up keeping it and having to go and buy something else for the original recipient? I have a family member that despises spending money on gifts for ANY occasion but will easily spending all kinds of money on stuff for himself -- big screen tv and other electronics being a good example. Personally, I find it childish and rather narcissistic. Your friend's husband could have waited and let it be known that he would like jewelery for Father's Day. In my opinion, $2000 is extravagant and thoughtless, especially for a couple with a new baby.

Hello Dear Babygirl! If I were in his shoes I could never have done this! Today I am earning quite a handsome package and I have got all facilities and other things to make my life comfortable! I really work hard , I work day and night as my profession demands it and I am a dedicated professional person! In spite of all these things if situation like this arises I give preference to my wife and my son first (who is still bachelor and staying with us)! I rarely think to treat myself! I am interested in electronic gadgets and I spend some money on them but these equipments are for general use ,that is they can be used by any one at our place! [ I feel great satisfaction and sense of feeling good if I present something to my wife and son when I see the park of happiness on their face and I think this is a big treat I get for myself, which possibly the gifts purchased for myself may not make me to have the same feeling! Thanks for the discussion!

My guess is that this couple has money and could probably buy whatever they want anyway. I know many wealthy people that don't even exchange gifts at all. I think that the flowers he bought her did probably have meaning. so how did your friend feel about the flowers? how does he treat her the rest of the time? thats what matters the most. i never much cared for these holidays. they set expectations which all to often lead to disappointments.

I have to agree with some mylotters. Maybe he didn't really meant hurting his wife's feelings. Maybe, for the guy, flowers are far more meaningful than a whole set of jewelries. At least, he made an effort. Flowers do die, but, as what they say, it's the thought that counts more.

it was so nice of him giving her the flowers for mother's day but the fact that he bought 2 things to himself, i would somehow get hurt. he could have bought at least a ring for himself and the earrings for her or anything as valuable. he might have been longing to buy those two but he could have other time to do so.

wow, he sounds sort of selfish. is he always like this? i sure wouldnt be very happy with him either. forget next year, i would want something else now!

she should be glad that he got her flowers, to be honest. unless him spending that much on himself puts them in financial difficulty, she shouldn't be comparing the two. most people would be happy to receive flowers, and it sounds like the only reason that she's not happy is because he bought himself something at the same time.

I think he did not do anything intentionally to hurt her feelings. It was just a mere coincidence that the day he wanted to gift himself a ring turned out to be the mothers day. And I feel, the thought that he wished his wife and brought flowers for her, does show that he cares for her. May be the very next day, he might have bought something for her, did you find that out? If you try to find out meanings from every gesture, life gets complicated. Let it be simple and not correlate with special days for the sake that everyday she is special for him.

Ok there is nothing wrong with flowers. But then spending that kind of money on himself? Are the rich? Does he buy her that kind of stuff too? Or is he just a selfish pig?

If I were her I would be upset as well. It seems really selfish to just get her roses and then get himself something that expensive. On an occasion like that I would expect him to get something nicer for his wife other than flowers. I agree with other people that there's nothing wrong with treating yourself, but I think that's a bit excessive, especially for the occasion, and considering he only got her flowers. I think the flowers are more "meaningful" comment was a way to try to make himself and his choice look better. I agree with you, flowers die. I think earrings or something would have been more meaningful because it's something that she could have had for years (whereas the flowers would just last for less than a week). And don't get me wrong, I personally don't ask for anything from my boyfriend. When he asks me if I want something I tell him no, but he still tries to make an effort to buy something nice. For father's day your friend should buy herself some diamonds and get him flowers lol.

I think maybe his timing was bad. It would have been nice if he had purchased something more for her as he sounds rather selfish buying that much for himself. I guess those who have the money to do will. I am not sure flowers are more meaningful and I would say the thought he gave out was that he was more important to then her. I would also say if this did not upset your friend then it is how ever she sees it.

This behavior doesn't seem fair to me;of course,it's always a nice gesture for a man to buy flowers for his wife or girlfriend,but if the man has enough to buy something expensive for himself and buys only flowers for the woman in his life on such a special occasion it is absolutely ridiculous,it's a completely wrong attitude and a lack of appreciation from the man,so I really don't understand how he could do such a thing.If flowers are more meaningful,as he said,why did he have to buy those expensive things for himself?For me there's only reasonable explanation of this man's behavior:he doesn't care enough about his wife,he loves himself too much,he's probably a selfish person.

I agree it was a little untimely. But if I was the guy, I should have chosen to keep quiet about the "blings" on mother's day. That way, she won't get hurt.

Hi. Babygirl1984000mx. Welcome to myLot! If he spent more money on himself than her, which he did, then that is really strange. But, it was nice of him to still give her flowers for Mother's Day. I did not receive any flowers from my husband at all. He did buy us some dinner from KFC for Mother's Day though, which I thought was nice of him to do. The fact that her husband thought that flowers were meaningful than his ring and black diamond earrings, speaks for itself. I just think that he spent too much on his purchase, because he could have bought his wife earrings and a ring instead at this amount. I feel both ways on this discussion.