The Marriage Vows

Some of this could be financial, if I were ill and that illness would ruin the family's finances I would opt out for a divorce. Deferent people react to illness in different ways, an abusive relatonship could become just to much to bear. Or a person subject to deep depression can pull everyone around them down and if I were raising children, especially if they were very young, I would also consider divorce. It's not very wise to judge others even if you feel you are experiencing the same situation. Blessings

I have you and your hubby in my thoughts . . . sending healthy vibes and hopes of a speedy recovery out your way! For me, I'd have to say my hubby is my very best friend - and I would always be by his side (as its always been) through thick and thin. Our ceremony did include the vows . . . but our "pact", I feel, is stronger than the words we exchanged on our wedding day. The vows were from the officiant . . . and to be honest, I can't remember the exact words . . . but we do have a "nice" print out of it in a "nice" folder. Although it may seem I didn't take the vows that seriously as I can't remember the words, I have the whole meaning behind it in my heart and soul - and that to me is more important as I take that seriously. There are rocky roads at times with any relationship - but I'd have to say the kind of event that would truly break the vows is one that would break the loyalty trust . . . though I am confident that would never happen. There were a couple times I had to take my hubby to the ER . . . . it was scary but I stayed by his side . . . and I think those hairy moments actually made us closer.

dorannmwin, Sometimes, I feel very bad when couples breakup and much more in challenging times when one of them is down trodden. Pardon me for saying this but marriage vow aside, I felt that a lot of couples failed to realize that being in love is free, but being in a relationship comes with a price - the price of being subjected to gruesome tests of eliminating our overly individualistic perception of life and learn to manage an additional headcount, transcending every aspect of our life. I am a firm believer of Love is not about looking at each other; but looking together at one collective direction. When a couple shares a parallel view of their individual definition of love, chances are, they will find conflicts with regards to choice, perception and view of life. And relationship because in a parallel line, the lines will never meet at point X. Like you, I am serious with the vow I have with my wife and even in sickness.

Dear Dora, I am so still praying for you and your family during this hard time. Although I am not married I am however in a very serious committed relationship where we live together for 6 years now. He is a bit older then me, and I honestly cannot think about life without him. I could not divorce someone during an illness because I would honor my commitment and love for the persona and simply because my hope would be that he do the same with me. I was married once before and although I gave my ex-husband many years of my life, for my safety and the safety of the children I had to finally let go. Because I wanted to hang on to our commitment, it did take me several years to realize I had to let go. However, I do live with someone now who heaven forbid was to be ill, I just could not think to let him go, and actually so as long as he does not cheat and or physically/mentally harm me I cannot think of any reason in my life why I would opt to leaving him.

That's a really difficult one. All I can say is that so far we haven't faced anything which would make me even consider splitting up. But I can't judge someone who gets pushed to the point of not being able to cope any more by their partner's illness. Sick? No, I can't imagine that splitting us up. But the sort of sick which meant he didn't recognise me, or was violent, or abusive? Or if my children were suffering because of it? I would really struggle with that. I wish you and your husband all the best and I hope that your love only grows stronger.

I love my girlfriend so much..

Congrats on being together for so long. I took our marriage vows very seriously even though I was so nervous I didnt remember a word he said I've been to enough weddings to know what the marriage vows are lol. I was very upset about splitting up with my husband because it was breaking the marriage vows but I couldnt live that life anymore. He was never around by choice and he treated me terribly. If it was just that he got sick I would never have left him I would have stuck through it with him as long as he treated me good.

hi dorannmwin no not at all. I married for better or worse, in sickness and in health. Myhusband had cance of the colon and ened up with a colostomy so did I leave him of course not. He was my love, and he foght the cancer and won only to die years later of heart attacks.We meant our wedding voes and we both worked to keep them sacred. I loived him with all my heart and he did with me. it was a good marriage.The only thing that would make me break my marriage voes would have been adultery.

I've taken the vow almost one year. Actually she loves me more than I love her. But I will love her to the end of my life. Eventhough she get sick or anything else, I still take care of her. Because she loves me.