Could you forgive this?

United States
May 18, 2011 3:05pm CST
Could you forgive someone that has messed you over since the begginning? Like, What I mean is, could you forgibe someone who has lied to you and treated you bad from the very start of your relationship? I could never ever do that, but thats just me. This girl that wants me back REALLY wants me. The thing is, she cheated on me and then she lied to me about it ever since I asked her about it, and she still deny's cheating. She also treated me like really bad and never did what she promised she would do. How can I "forgive and forget" someone that hurt me so bad and did all of this? I mean, maybe she has changed, but why take the risk? Is it worth it? What should I do?
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7 responses
• Philippines
30 May 11
It feels good to learn that there are still men who are sincere in a relationship.I thought it's men who are cheating women.It's sad to hear that.If she still deny that she is cheating,maybe she is not sincere in seeking your forgiveness.I think you need time to heal and allow yourself a chance to find a new love.Maybe you can just forget about her.
• Philippines
19 May 11
There was this similar story. Girl cheated once and fully admitted it to bf. He forgave her and gave their relationship another shot. The diff is, girl loved and really cared for him at the beginning. Since you emphasized that she was already a biatch sine day 1, then she my friend doesn't even deserve to live on earth. lol It's not worth it. Go find another.
• United States
18 May 11
I think you could forgive the ex because your life will be a lot easier if you forgive her rather than being mad at her. You might not be able to forget but at least make an effort. I don't think you should take her back but at least keep her as a close friend.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
18 May 11
It is quite difficult. To forgive or not.She is unfaithful and you thought if you and forgive if she still will not betray you.You know that if there was one time there may be second and third.I personally if I were you would not forgive.As much as I love a man to me cheat then there was a reason but did not have that.So a friend Be brave ancestors and what to do but whatever decision you decide to get better. I wish you a pleasant day and quickly solve the problem.
@jleigh13 (34)
• United States
19 May 11
The problem is, when people know they can walk all over you, they will if you continue letting them. Maybe she messed up in the beginning, hey everybody makes mistakes, but that's no excuse to treat you like garbage. She should have been kissing the ground you walk on to make it up to you, to prove how much she really cares. Doesn't sound like she did that. Whatever decision you make, you have to do what's right for you. If you forgive her and want to be with her, then you're going to have to have a serious talk with her and let her know what you expect. Having said that, if you take her back, you're going to have to forget what happened because it will only drive you crazy.
• Qatar
19 May 11
I cant stand people like that when they treat you horrible and cheat on you then after its all happened.Then realise that they cant live without you. I think you should follow your heart thou if you have it in you to forgive her and think that she has changed give it another shot if not i would just forgive her and be friends and go your separate ways.
18 May 11
hello my friend, i'm concerned about your condition.. actually i've had a similar problem with you, but i think, women not only her.. and life must go on.. just keep in your mind she's not the best for you, so maybe you could "forgive & forget" her, i agree with you my friend, even she say to back to you, and promised to be change.. i think too risky... hope you feel better buddy...