whats wrong with parents this days?

Philippines
May 23, 2011 7:58am CST
i know most of us are aware of this mother who injected her daughter botox... saw also a few news about parents specially mothers who put a lot of make up to their kids that joins pageant. they also let them experience this tanning sprays and tanning machines. now another news i saw at CNN... here is the link so you can watch what i am talking about http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/world/2011/05/23/lah.skorea.plastic.surgery.cnn?hpt=C2. i just dont get it. is this what they wanted their kids to learn? to appreciate fake beauty. i even heard a child answered i question: do you rather be beautiful than intelligent... the kids response was i would rather be beautiful than intelligent. this is disturbing, kids as young as 3 years old wanted to have a perm, wanted to change the color of their skin? i dont get it....
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13 responses
• United States
23 May 11
I heard about the botox thing and was amazed on how she thought it was okay for her I believe it was 8 year old daughter to undergo the procedure. Personally I cannot understand where this is okay for any parent to think it is okay. At such a young age I don't understand why she would need bigger lips, oh my what an awful thought. I don't know maybe the parent wants to live through their child, it really does not make any sense. As for the pageants, that too is way too much, I can understand certain children pageants with completely everything natural, which means no make up, fake lashes and all the glitter. Somehow I cannot understand how glamorizing the children is something anyone needs to be doing. Make-up and botox in my mind sells s@x and why on earth would that be okay for young kids.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
24 May 11
• Philippines
24 May 11
see, thats the reason why i can not get this... its because we know its wrong and i know this kinds of parents knows its wrong but they still do it. do they know what side effects their children will get in their later life just because they wanted to be beautiful. didnt they appreciate how beautiful their kids without these stuffs. didnt they tell their children that beauty is within. so beauty now has another meaning... you are beautiful when your fake.
• United States
24 May 11
I heard about that as well and as a mother I think it's absolutely horrible! I can't believe that any mother would do that to her children and think that there's nothing wrong with it. These poor kids are going to grow up thinking that the most important thing in life is beauty and that if they aren't winning in a beauty pageant that they're second best or something. As a parent, that mother should be more concerned with her daughter's happiness and health rather than winning trophies.
• Philippines
25 May 11
if a child thinks beauty is very important, it is scary for me to imagine what they will do when they get older. it is scary to imagine what they will do when they are 40 already. what kind of obsession they will be doing just to stop aging and wrinkles. if they use a lot of not natural products now... they what are the risk that they will take when they become older? scary. thanks a lot for the response.
@donna22 (1116)
23 May 11
I think what is worst about the botox thing is the ignormance of it. Botix is to stop wrinkles on the forehead. Something an 8 year old defiently will not need to be concerned with! There is also the side effects to be worried out. Who knows what stuff like that can do to a child's skin?
• Philippines
25 May 11
true, how can a eight year old child needs botox when all the 40 and above people envies their skin. how can you put something on a young person when that thing is only used by adults. i can not understand that they can not understand. this is just like medicine... there are appropriate medicine to give a child when they have fever and there are appropriate med to give an adult when they have fever. you can give a child the fever meds that adults take. as simple as that.... there are so many parents who are desperate and their children suffer in their later life. thanks a lot for the response.
• United States
23 May 11
That mother who supposedly injected her daughter with botox has actually come out and said she lied about the whole thing. Apparently, she was paid $200 to do so. Of course, if she isn't lying about THAT, that is. I know what you mean though. Too many people care way too much about physical beauty. Which of course is fine to a point, I think. But it does cross a line where it becomes pretty sad when it becomes too much. Like that what you said about the child would rather be beautiful than smart. It's sad so many people are teaching their kids to be so shallow and who will grow up to become shallow teens and adults who will care much more about how someone looks. And even worse, will make fun of people they don't "approve" of. Hopefully it won't happen for most of these kids.
• Philippines
25 May 11
to many people care to much about beauty and they are giving wrong signals on the younger generation. where is the beauty is within go? where is the beauty is not only seen by the eye it is also felt by the heart. people focus too much of what is outside so children grows up on thinking that this is all true. i pity parents who gets so obsessed to beauty that they put a lot of fake stuffs on their childs face just so they can be called beautiful. thanks a lot for the response.
@foofermen (500)
23 May 11
The mother of my children is one of these pageant moms through and through. One of the many reasons our relationship could not survive. I couldn't stand to battler her on her crazy ideas anymore. She wants to get my BOYS mind you, piercings, mowhawks, tattoos and enroll them in pageants like that. They are not only both BOYS but also very young. One is four and the other is six. It's disgusting. I am an advocate of self expression but I also feel like parents play a role in HOW children express themselves. Not to mention, these children have no real concept of "my looks influence the way people perceive me" Prejudice is not only alive and well, but also natural and necessary. I would rather do the best I can raising them and once I feel they have a complete sense of action and reaction, then they are free to go wild with the lifestyles. I am glad that woman lost that child. She is a sicko. Who knows what other kinds of abuse that child would suffer if she was forced to stay there.
• Philippines
25 May 11
i pity the kids, same way as you feel for your own children. i also agree with self expression but boys who are at that young age only plays and enjoys life. they need to be playing baseball or basket ball or tops than having piercing and tattoos. so the children are living with you now? lucky that the kids has a father like you i see on tv both parents are obsessed with it and the children suffer. i even saw a 2 year old child with both parents exposing their child on stuffs like this and pageants as well. thanks a lot for the response.
@vangie26 (445)
• Philippines
24 May 11
Parents like that should be guided as well with people with wisdom. Doing those things to their children are not a good example to others. It may look good but not the character that may arise once the child grows up that way. Parents should be the first teacher of every child in everything. So sad that there are parents like that.Hopefully these parents will be awakened soon that they are the ones influencing their children to have a bad life ahead and be changed as early as now. Have a good day!
• Philippines
25 May 11
i guess parents like this needs to go under psychologist... or something like that. and i also think that they should cut down pageants where they need to apply too much make up on their children. this children are already beautiful they no longer need to put a lot of stuff on the fave and on the hair. they need to go out there and show their talents and intelligence for i know that is truly the essence of pageants. thanks a lot for the response.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
23 May 11
Yes I have read about this. I personally think it's discusting! Not only are these parents teaching their children that looks are more important than anything else. They are being robbed of their childhood. I have 3 daughters who I could never in a million years think of dressing them up to look like they are 30. I've seen some of those girls and they look like little mini adults with how well done they get. What's wrong with letting these children be kids. Climbing trees, swinging on swings and running around playing tag are some really awsome childhood games. I think that all of this in the long run will do more harm than good. You need to let kids be kids not off getting some fake tan and wearing 10 pounds of make-up!
• Philippines
24 May 11
disgusting, good word. har har har. how can a parent agree on putting on something to a child, when a child has all the things we adult wanted to have. some adults are obsessed with things that make them young, things that can stop aging, things that can make your skin feels like a child... now a child will use the adults stuffs?! this is over the top already. they are robbed of their childhood... i agree for that is not what children do. pageants and beauty tittles are not for kids for kids are a perfect example of beauty. thanks a lot for the response.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
24 May 11
Crazy! I know! I saw that on a news report here. It's unreal how far that mothers go who are into the whole pageant thing. When my daughter was very young, I thought it would be fun to enter a pageant and dress her in a beautiful dress, socialize with other mothers who had daughters...it was nothing like I thought. I was out of there very quick. There were mothers who had wigs, fake eye lashes, makeup..not a little either...and had their hired pageant consultants there going over with two year olds how they should curtsy, wave, and blow kisses. It was nuts. The mothers were mean and rude to each other too. It took me one time to realize it wasn't the pleasant social event that I imagined it to be. That has been a longtime ago..I can't imagine what an ugly thing it is now, but that little girl being given Botox injections gives us a window to see. Just terrible.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
24 May 11
For me, there's only one reason. They want their children to be beautiful, so that they could be used to earn lots of money by their parents.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
hi, actually i dont want to agree with that age will go under botox process just to make her face beautiful and to change there skin color,it should be done at the age of 30 above,this kind of mother or parents is not really good to her daughter.
@leonsan (49)
24 May 11
It's almost as if some mothers see having children as a 'second bite of the cherry', and go all out to try and live out their dreams through their children. As for the mom and Botox, no doubt about it in my mind, that amounts to child abuse, I say it how I see it :)
• Philippines
23 May 11
I saw this news on TYRA show... I was really shocked...what kind of mother would do that? well, there's no illegal about that because the kid also like it for it makes her beautiful... its really disturbing when i heard the answer of the kid.." i would rather be beautiful than intelligent".. Thanks to Tyra that the kid realized that her answer was not good... and later on.. Tyra asked again the question to make sure that the kid answered the correct question..The kid's answer was "I'd rather be both..." Some parents would do everything just for their kid's.. But, please think a million times before doing something on them... You're the mom, you live longer than them so you're more experienced...It doesn't matter How they looks as long as they have a kind heart and respects others..
• Philippines
24 May 11
there no illegal about that but i guess there should have a rule on how parents and when parents can give these stuffs for their children. this children are very young they and need to enjoy this youth, but now they are trying to walk and talk and roll like adults. it is truly disturbing when i child says that i rather be beautiful than intelligent. specially when she says that she is all in adult make-up and has fake stuffs on her face har har har. thats not beauty at all. when you step out of the street on a hot sun that make up will melt. when you go to swim with your friends you cant put make up on.... disturbing and sad. thanks a lot for the response and welcome to the wonderful world of mylot.
24 May 11
I think they always want that their child would be happy. They want to do that. But beauty is not like that . They think so but it's harmful for the child. It's create a wrong mentality in them