You dog VS. the love of your life??

Canada
May 23, 2011 3:24pm CST
So the subject is pretty much explanatory, but i'll go a little more in detail. I am engaged to the love of my life, the one man who can make me smile non-stop, laugh uncontrollably,I've never in my life ever felt this way towards a man, we're planning on a wedding and buying a house soon. The problem is he hates my dog, he says she's too loud, to hyper, sheds to much, he really dont like her. What do i do? it's going to kill me to have to move in with him and he's always reminding me how much he dont like dogs,everything i did wrong training her, and so on and so forth, so i'm stumped of what to do about it all, i'm not going to leave my husband to be and i can't give up my dog who i've had almost for 5 years. If you were in my situation, what would you do?
3 responses
@stary1 (6614)
• United States
23 May 11
Wow this is really a tough one. I know how attached we can get to our dogs, on the other hand does one put their dog over their future husband? Is there anyway to convince him that you need to keep your dog and in exchange you will accept something of his that is not to your liking? Maybe you could work something out?? I hope so.
• Canada
23 May 11
he knows how much my dog means to me, and when looking for a house he is keeping in mind i want a backyard for her, so i know he dont expect me to give her up, but he also says how easier it would be on us if i didn't have her, like right now we're not living together till we find a house, but he says if i didn't have her we could be living together and saving money on rent and bills, which makes sense, but again what am i suppose to do about something like that.
@stary1 (6614)
• United States
23 May 11
It's something you have to decide yourself and don't let others influence you too much. I know when I listen to others against my better judgment, I am often disappointed. Take suggestions but be sure you do what you want, not what others say you 'should do' Ok having said that :) I think you should keep your dog. The dog means a lot to you and it sounds as if your BF will go along with it. I hate to think you might eventually resent your BF if he pressures you into giving up your dog. Another alternative might be to give the dog to a close relative that you can visit a lot, but that may not be ok with you.
• Canada
24 May 11
we talked about me giving her to a family member, i'd never in a million years ever give her to a stranger, i'd only give her to my mother, or my brother (which i live with now) however, my mother is renting a no pet house at the moment, and to be honest, i dont trust my brother to be responsible enough for her, he's to selfish right now, he dont mind giving her attention, but as to take her out, go for walks, not so much.
@bird123 (10552)
• United States
24 May 11
If you don't keep the dog in the house, he shouldn't mind having the dog in the backyard or doghouse. Talk it over with him. You can work this out.
• Canada
24 May 11
when we get a house, she will be spending more time in outside, but she's an indoor dog who loves our attention, even my boyfriend's attention, so i'm hoping if she's not in his face all the time he might adjust to her, or once he gets to live with her and see how loveable she is, he might have a different feeling about her, but i also think i'm wishful there lol
@dlpierce (489)
• United States
23 May 11
I would not give up my dog. This could be the first of a long list of things he may ask you to give up. What would be next? Your friends? Your family? Your career? Stay true to yourself. If he loves you, he won't ask you to give up what you love. Your dog loves you unconditionally and will always be there moments when he's not. It could be he's jealous of the attention the dog gets vs. him.