Why don't you consider the feeling of others!

@syoti20 (5295)
Philippines
May 24, 2011 9:28am CST
I received a text message from a friend of mine and the message goes like this " Who says their no discrimination in terms of love, Why people called it crush if the person who are admiring you is handsome or goodlooking. While stalker if the person who is admiring you is ugly".
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23 responses
• United States
24 May 11
I do not agree that if the person looks good, then it is a crush but if they are considered ugly then it is stalking. The difference between a crush and a stalker is in the behavior not the looks. A crush is a harmless interest in another person ... an attraction that may or may not be returned by the other person but is not obsessive and dangerous in nature. A stalker, on the other hand, is a person that is obsessed with another person and follows them without their consent or sometimes even their knowledge. A stalker can be physically attractive, but their behavior is definitely ugly.
@SIMPLYD (89904)
• Philippines
25 May 11
I totally agree with you purplealabaster. A stalker can definitely be good looking, but then he is still a stalker, if he is so obsessed in following your wherever you go. But when you find the stalker good looking and like him eventually, then it could be said that you already got a crush on him.
@jaiho2009 (38990)
• Philippines
24 May 11
I have a stalker years ago and he is good looking though he doesn't look like Nicolas Cage or Charlie Sheen. Yes,he stalks me and i never knew that until he asks me to open one website and i saw my pictures...hundred of pictures and all stolen shots. He's following me taking my photos and then revealed everything. At first i thought he's just having fun,but it becomes serious when he asks me to have a date with him and when i decline,he started calling me and threatening me. Ok..it's years ago and i am fine...and i can say that not all stalkers are ugly hehehe.
@CTHanum (8250)
• Malaysia
24 May 11
How do you get settle of it?? He still doing his activity stalking you around?? Dangerous kind of guy~
@MsTickle (25051)
• Australia
5 Jun 11
Hi Syoti, I fail to understand what your heading has to do with the body of your post...please explain. As for the idea that a crush is good looking and a stalker ugly...that's just childish nonsense because it makes no sense whatsoever.
@mspitot (3834)
• Philippines
30 May 11
Hmm...whenever I am with people, I always think of their feelings. I don't want treating people differently based on their looks. I think it hurts to notice that people treat you differently because of your physical appearance.
@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
29 May 11
lol =D That's so true!! When there's a difference in the usage of words, it's gonna be so hurting!! haha =D Though many might say looks doesn't matter, but it's just not possible. We are humans, and majority of us are attracted to beautiful things, and thus first impression counts for alot. But then again, stalker need not be someone who's ugly, but someone who's irritating, endangering the safety of the person they have a crush on.. haha
• United States
26 May 11
lol thats not true well not true for me i have had very hot stalkers, for me a stalker is some one that always follows you but doesn't say anything to you and act kind of crazy. if they don't fit this then they aren't there just someone that likes you.
@aerous (13464)
• Philippines
26 May 11
There are people that really not considerate to other people. But there are many that considerate also...don't worry you will find the right person in the future
• Philippines
25 May 11
well I guess there's an exception to this idea about crush and stalkers....because i have known some good-looking people who have stalker-characteristics. and some people i know falls and ends in a relationship with their stalkers....
@stanley777 (7251)
• Philippines
25 May 11
Before it's like that discrimination exist or maybe there are still some today but due to circumstances or economic reasons its not practice today I guess.Admiring or falling for someone really hurts if that person does not return the favor.Having a crush on someone is different from stalker.With crush you admire the person because of beauty or his looks while stalker have obsession or want from someone.Excellent choice of topic my friend.
@inertia4 (27958)
• United States
25 May 11
Stalkers become obsessed with you, people with crushes are more shy. Stalking can become dangerous, especially on the internet. I know someone that was going out with someone that was doing that. They found out after a few years of dating. Then the threats came. Be careful who you speak to in person and on the internet.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
25 May 11
I don't quite understand what this means. I sure hope you are not being stalked. People don't consider the feeling of others because everyone is more concerned about numero uno. Who cares who gets hurt, as long as its not them. Best Wishes!
@kingparker (9692)
• United States
25 May 11
Maybe that is a truth, because majority of us might be shallow enough to only focus on how people looks, rather consider their internal beauty. People only look at the superficial thing instead of inside. Well, that is our real world, isn't it? We love the look of beauty.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
25 May 11
Oh that is hot post. We unknowingly discriminate people by their looks. When you love a girl by her looks you discriminate another who does not look pretty. Please make a law to sue people for discrimination, I will be the first to sue many woman who call me ugly. But what about this, a pretty woman go for rich man, or famous man or sports star, is there any discrimination there, may agianst poor man, sportless, uneducated? Interesting discussion.
• Mexico
24 May 11
Hi syoti: That's a really good question. But let's face it, if a girl has felt in love with me but I consider herself ugly I would say thank you and we can become friends but to start a relationship attraction must exist. It will be worst if I tell someone that I love her when I really don't feel attracted to her. ALVARO
• Philippines
24 May 11
I think these people need to know the real meaning of these two words. I don't think they know how to classify it. Besides, if they feel the person who is admiring them is ugly, then they must really be proud of themselves since they feel that they are so beautiful. I hate people who don't consider others' feelings, feeling that they feel that they are so perfect, without having a second look on themselves in the mirror.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
24 May 11
Hi. syoti20. It is very important that we all consider the feelings of others. If we don't, we may offend someone and we may, misjudge someone incorrectly too. A stalker does not have to be ugly, they can be handsome or good looking and an crush could be ugly. It can go either way. I have seen it work both ways.
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
24 May 11
hi syoti, I guess your friend is being realistic and he/she thinks someone is attractive based on their looks, and not so on the inner beauty. So, if someone is ugly, they will feel it very deeply.
@CTHanum (8250)
• Malaysia
24 May 11
Hi syoti! That is the advantage if you have good looking. It is really depends on people. People used to think bad when they encounter with bad things and feel good when the meet the good stuff. That is just a metaphor. In many situations I will try to put myself on their shoes so I could know how they feel means I take consider on it. But if they still not appreciate it then no use to consider their feeling as they too not doing that. In terms of love, it really depends on individual perception. If it is me I am okay with it they just admiring unless if they do harm then they are really stalker~
• Philippines
24 May 11
Hmmm... Not all stalkers are ugly and not everyone's crush are good looking. Good example would be me. LOL. I admire someone from my previous work. He is not handsome. He doesn't have a good body but there was something about him that makes him so attractive. I don't have a stalker yet and I don't wish to have one. That would be scary.
@Metatronik (5938)
• Pasay, Philippines
24 May 11
That is actually true! We can't really avoid the discrimination. Well in my case sometimes this is my mentality however it is true. I can't feel comfortable when I am with ugly guys because sometimes I have a feeling that they might do something bad. However with good looking person I have this trust. Oh well I know it is lame but sometimes my feeling is like that. However it is not always the case.