Bully Victim
By lilbil
@lilbil (5)
United States
May 25, 2011 6:46am CST
I am the target for bullies at work. I need some help. How do I cope. Is anyone else going through this? I am miserable. I have told my supervisor. I talked to Human Resources. It still continues. What should I do? They are going to get there way (me quitting) if I can't get some relief. Any ideas?
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3 responses
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
4 Jun 11
Hi Lilbil,
Welcome to Mylot. Well, I wouldn't quit my job for a bunch of jerks that's for sure. I'm sure it makes coming in to work difficult but I would do my best to ignore them and just do my work. After all, you go to work for the paycheck and not to make friends. Keep reminding yourself how important that paycheck is. Still, I know it must be hard so also keep your eyes open for another job. I wouldn't recommend quitting a job unless you have another one lined up to replace it.
@lilbil (5)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Hey there sid556 and thanks for your concern. Since my original post I have been moved to a different department. That is helping the situation a bunch. The move happened only because I complained again and was dragged into a meeting with Human Resources and my Supervisor. It sure felt like I had to defend myself. It was pretty humiliating. No wonder most people don't come forward when this happens to them. The entire experience is an ongoing struggle. I'm finally starting to get it through my thick head, they are the ones with the problem not me. Human Resources told me if they didn't think I was a good worker and worth the trouble they would ask me to leave the company. Instead, I was giving the opportunity to work in this other department for two months and I would be reviewed at that time. I'm hoping it wasn't all in vain. Maybe the next time those people get out of hand the victim will be believed and not have to go through what I have gone through. The really sad part of all this is we are all adults. The only childish thing going on was there behavior.
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@sid556 (30953)
• United States
6 Jun 11
Well, it is good that the company at least see your value and separated you from them. Still, it is too bad that you had to be the one to move and get used to another department and go thru all the adjustments that go along with that. Hopefully you will end up liking this new department better than the old and the people will be a lot more pleasant than the others were. I used to work in a big office and you put a bunch of women together and you'll always get a few that have to act like they were 10 again. Heck, I work in a convenience store. We all have our own shifts and work alone. Our paths only cross briefly during shift change and still some of them manage to get spiteful towards another. It's always something so trivial but it turns into a war. Something like one forgetting to empty a trash or fill a sugar container is all it takes to spark it. From there it just gets evil. It's childish and ridiculous. Good luck!
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
25 May 11
Stand up to the situation, either have everybody know that you are not a person to mess with or just quit your job and look for another one.
The first option, what to do? Not sure, might need to know a little more of the situation, in what way are you being bullied, on a physical way? mentally? How many people are abusing you and are they doing exactly?
Why would you think the would want to make you quit? Is there a reason? they just don't like you?
Try to find out what is it that you think is causing this in order to take the best decision.
