how do you picture a home without a mom?

@shrike (123)
Philippines
June 1, 2011 11:30am CST
as i observed to some kids or people who grew up without a mother, they have more tendencies to become pitiful of their selves, rebellious and even followed the wrong path. i myself experienced it. it is really really hard on my part. no one is there during your ups and downs. no one is there to listen when you want to talk, of course there are friends but for me i don't share anything of my private life to them. maybe i can't call it a home when mom is not there, i better call it as a house or just a structure.
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12 responses
• United States
2 Jun 11
It's hard to picture a home without a mother. I lost my mom when I was 15 and it was never the same. My dad was nobody to be raising a teenage daughter. He remarried not long after my mom passed but nobody can replace or fill a mother's shoes. My hat goes off to the single dads out there who are raising kids on their own. Somehow I think it would be tougher for a guy to raise kids on their own than a women since men don't have the motherly instincts and the tenderness that moms have. I turned really rebellious when my mom passed away. My dad was way more stricter than my mom.
@shrike (123)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
hello! the thing that my father didn't remarry he became more strict and cannot be reach, i mean can't tell anything to him, but somehow i understand him, he was always tired working for our living. just as now i have come to realize how wrong i am for being rebellious before because i ruined my own life. but somehow, maybe we became like that because nobody was there to guide us.
• United States
1 Jun 11
Our mother is one of the best person in our lives. I can't imagine without mother in the family. My father left when I was 4 but my mother still manage to raised us and send us to school. I am sorry to hear that strike. You can pray to God and tell him everything you feel. My mother is my best friend. She is the person who know first when I got crushes, failures, success, etc. I can talk to my mother anything I want than to my friends. Just follow the right path and don't let the absence of your mother ruin your life and future. Trust and have faith in God. Be strong and have a good courage. Bright future ahead is waiting on you. Make your mother proud of you even she is not around.
@shrike (123)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
yeah, you are right, thanks.. at least i feel better.
@pattis (14)
• China
2 Jun 11
Growing up without love from mother undoubtly makes one feel upset.Maybe you are always more lonely than people around you, but you must be stronger than others.
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
2 Jun 11
I agree with you shrike, a house is not a home if there is lacking member of it especially if it is the mother. The mother takes care of everything in the house including all the things needed by the family members. Without a mother, there will be disorganization. Since the mother really knows what's best for her family. She will really see to it everything will be place in order. The mother is the advocate of all the members of the household. She gives comfort, care, love and attention to her kids and her husband. She is the light of the family. I can say it's different if the mother is not in the house than the father but in exemption to some fathers who stand as both a mother and father to his kids and has fully take charge of both roles, I salute them. But mostly, if the mother is the one not in the house, it's totally different. It's like a house without a roof. Talking about the kids, I can say it actually depends on how well they handle and accept things because some children are well behaved and well loved even though their mothers are not around. Thanks!
@shrike (123)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
hi! i agree with you too, i salute my father for being a mother and father for us though sometimes his best was not enough for us at least he tried his best.
@mrgpk63 (444)
• United States
2 Jun 11
You Really can't Picture it. You just Live through it the best Way You can. Get Help if needed Talk with an Aunt or Uncle or the Grandparents. Talk with a Professional if that Family Advice don't Work. You Learn after a While and adjust. As Time does Heal All but You still got the Good Memories. The Pain Lessens to.
@shrike (123)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
thanks.. i appreciate it, i had tried once asking my psychology instructor and it really helps. but when a situation comes sometimes i can't keep myself from being sad.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Hi! I am really blesses to have loving parents. I cannot imagine life without my mother who is always there to support and guide me. I feel so bad whenever somebody talks back to their mother or does not treat their mother rightly. It is really heart breaking. I am always thankful to God for my mom.Words cannot expres how much she means to me.
@shrike (123)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
hi! yeah you are right, it's really not right to treat mom that way. because it is really hard when they will be gone. thanks..
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
A home without a mom is never ideal but there are many of them. Whatever reason it may be, growing up without a mother is hard. They say the "there is no love greater than that of a mother and a child" so not experiencing that could leave a person feel incomplete. Even so, it should not be a reason to destroy your life. It is hard but ruining your own life is not going to make things better either. And thik of this too, no mother would ever want to see their child miserable and nothing will hurt them more than loosing their child.
@shrike (123)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
thanks, you know i am reaping today what i had planted before, if i can only turns back the time, i will not do same things i did before..
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
1 Jun 11
I am very grateful, I grew up with parents who are complete. are very difficult, life without the guidance and affection from the mother. My husband, also grew up without accompanied by his mother. My husband feels his life is less fortunate, for not having a mother, and my husband to be a very hard, and sometimes childish.
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
I grew up with a mother and saw how hard a mother works to keep a house and home. She is a referee, teacher, chef, finance officer, nurse, etc. Now that i'm a mother, I try to be a good mother myself. Without a mother, life would be difficult. Did you have a mother figure to look up to like a nanny, sister, aunt, grandma? Others with mother figures at home usually get by.
@shrike (123)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
hello! i am not close to my aunts, my grands passed away also when i was young, i used to live only with my sister during my college days. i live my own life as i grow up, i can't give my trust to anyone before. thanks for your concern.
@syh009 (1)
2 Jun 11
i will learn to look after myself as possible as i can ,no one can help you ,only by depending yourself ,i think it is a truth!
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
just try to talk to them and say what had you felt im sure both of you can understand with each other
@xoxshuo (47)
• Malaysia
2 Jun 11
i think if you lose a father or mother,this is not called a family.sad
• Canada
10 Jun 11
yes it is hard but u have to undersand yr children or child. when they try som ething new if u think its ok go alone. they need to know that u trust them andc thats the big thing. being friends with yr child or children is a key word.