Do you think parents should be blamed for their child's attitude?

@eljayo (1106)
Philippines
June 2, 2011 9:50am CST
Hi guys! They say that a child is easier to discipline than an adult and your foundation is your childhood. In psychology they dig up a patient's history especially his /her childhood for them to be able to understand , how come the patient deviated from normal behavior or has a rebellious or different attitude. That is how important is parenting especially in children. The parents' build up their child's attitude for them to be what they want their children to be in the future. Children who are brats usually develop a sense of authority and manipulative behavior in the future because they think that they are able to manipulate their parents through their tantrums eventually they'll, think that they can do it to other people.Children who are underestimated by their parents become distrustful and has low self esteem in the future. I think parent's guidance and discipline must be given emphasize while the child is still on its early ages. This is my opinion. Can you share yours?
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@aerous (13457)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
Well, I think parents should be blame. Because if parents did something to love their kids. Those kids did not go into wrong ways... My kids want the love of his Mother. But he did not feel about it because his Mother, is working abroad...My partner did not have any communication to us in 8 more long years... But I thanks that my kid is always follow what I said to him. But when he saw his mother. This is what I am afraid of..because there is an anger that filled to my kids. He is always asking why he love someone and she did not love him...? So, I guess there is still lacking in the part of the mother...or parents as well
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@nezavisima (7411)
• Bulgaria
3 Jun 11
Parents should educate their children.All children emulate their parents.So we who are parents should be careful and educate children as they should.It is very important for children to have control and education and discipline.I've heard that children are very important first seven years then they are educated.I am trying to educate their children and hopefully succeed. I wish all to educate their children well. Have a nice day!
@mantis36 (4222)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
every time the child commits a mistake... usually the people ask to the child: 1. What is the name of your mother? 2. Is that the way your teacher in school teaches you?
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
I think, parents should not be blamed totally for their child's behavior, maybe partially. This is because there are a lot of factors that would shape a person's behavior. and that includes friends, classmates, workmates, relatives, etc. But of course, when parents see that their children are doing some bad behavior, then they should correct their children and be good examples for them.
• France
3 Jun 11
This is the age old question of nature vs. nurture. It is true that parents will always have a huge impact on the growth of their children. But I think that society tends to downplay its own responsibilities here. Teachers, friends, fads, cultural habits - these all have a great daily impact on children. In fact children have very different hierarchies that they follow. Some children respect teachers more, while some listen to friends more. Though parents have somewhat more contact with the children, society influences these children quite a lot and this should receive proper focus as well. Television, the Internet... all these have large effects on a child's development.
• Indonesia
3 Jun 11
Parent and family is basic education for any child to grow.It's important for all the parent to take care the kid and make them comfort and think they're accepted.Even the neighbourhood bring big impact for kids, in my view parent still responsible for the child attitude. Most of parent just blame the kid when they made a mistake and don't try to get closer to them, pshysicly it will make the situation getting worse and worse.
• India
3 Jun 11
Children have their own nature but yes the nature gets affected/effected by Parents behaviour/nature If Parents show "I don't care attitude" , kids grasp it very quick. So Yes, till a extent,Parents are to be blamed or praised for how they behaved with kids and how it changed or ram in the attitude in Kids
@SIMPLYD (91040)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
I share the same opinion as yours. It is the key role of parents to bring up their children in the manner they would like them to be as they grow old. As parents too, they should be good models of right conduct so the child will grow up with it also. They should be able to guide their child as they grow. Should there be unpleasing traits, parents could right away correct it while the child is young and could still be made to change. Yes, parents are responsible for their child's attitude. But there are children who are really innately stubborn and refuse to follow the guidance of their parents, so parents are not entirely to blame.
@_sketch_ (5705)
• United States
3 Jun 11
I think that we should stop blaming altogether. I think that we need to accept that people are people and people have problems. I think that we should stop acting so separate and start helping others out, without judgement or blame. If parents are to blame for a child's attitude, then we are all screwed because parents have parents too.
@mslianne (79)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Hi there! Personally, I don't think that parents should be "blamed" unless a child is neglected or abandoned. There are many factors which shape up a person's attitude, and parenting is just among one of those factors. Yes, there are some theories saying that for example in toilet training, the child was trained rigidly, he will become OC, or if a child is trained recklessly, he will be an antisocial. Our attitudes come from the environment we live in as well as other people we've associated with as we mature.
@mac1946 (1602)
• Calgary, Alberta
2 Jun 11
In some cases,yes,I have seen many parents just letting their kids run wild in stores and do nothing to quiet them down,and actually get mad at you if you ask them to stop. On the other hand,Government interference of making laws so that parents have no real means of disciplining them when they get out of hand. I am against abuse of children,but children are smart,they know these laws are there,and will take full advantage of this fact. So,how can the parents be blamed,when it is not their fault?
• India
2 Jun 11
Yes definately I woukd like to share my opinions on this. Parents they act as a base for their childs behaviour. Most of the reserch conducted shows that children try to intimate their parentz wheather good or bad the grasp up every minute things which the parent does. So if parents behave well automatically children will learn the samd thing, also most of the parents they become extra lineant towards their children this makes the child become irresponsible to tend to take granted everything their parents do. So lastly I would like to conclude saying that parents should be well concerned about their child and give good habbits.
@dodo19 (42587)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
2 Jun 11
Personally, I don't think that parents are entirely to blame for their kids' behaviors and attitudes. In some cases, they are slightly more to blame than in other cases, but ultimately I feel that it might have to do a little more with the child's personality, and the child itself. Sometimes, it can be difficult to say for sure, whether it's more the parent or the child to blame, as every case is different. But I still don't feel that all the responsibility and blame should be put on the parents.
@sender621 (14933)
• United States
2 Jun 11
A parent can only guide a child in the direction of life. they should not be held accountable for the child's disposition or attitude. it is part of their personality and behavior. A parent should encourage and support. they should not have to shoulder the blame.