Can't understand his Father
Philippines
June 9, 2011 12:25am CST
I'm just working on my office when I heard my mobile phone beeps. I read a text message. It said that they got a problem with his Dad again. He again threw all things in their house especially those materials for business and recipes and such other things that he can handled. He always do that for almost 20 years, and i can't understand why he always do that, destroying things inside their house. His family/ children such a martir that even though he did/do that always, they still love their father. His family want to rise their lives for good but it seems that their father are such an idiot and trying them not to achieve that goal. Their family are not rich family, they are not poor but maybe in the middle. Im just thingking why his father do that and hurt some family members. For almost 20 years from now, from the time that his son and daughter was just a kid and now its a time to think what is right, they still remain quiet. They dont try to fight with they father although they we're hurt.
What do you think guys the problem of that Father?
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8 responses
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
The father is confident with what he is doing because no one tries to stop him or no one ever told him that what he is doing is wrong.
The father is so lucky to have a family who understands him that way.
Well,i don't know what to say more,we never knew what's really behind their family story..maybe you can help or give advice to your friend since you know them better.
have a good day and welcome to mylot
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
I think so. The father was so confident because no one tries to stop him. I think no one tried to stop him because they love their father. Though they hurt by their father, interesting there was it was ok from them. They don't like to hurt it back.
Yes, he was so lucky to his family but it seems he don't see the effort of his family for a longtime.
@arnouardian (286)
• United States
9 Jun 11
ohh...it's a confusing issue for me. if i were his son, i would have fought him back.
i think his family still keeps quiet because they really understand and already accept their father attitude as the way he is.
if we pay attention, we also do this to our beloved ones. for example: if your mother or father was an emotional person who got angry very easily, what would you do? would you curse them? would you leave them? would you slap them? would you stab them? would you kill them? no, right?
we would just accept them because they are our parents. people that we love the most. no matter how bad they are, we must still accept them. it's a kind of natural instinct to protect a family member.
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
ofcourse no, but the thing is the father always do that for a longtime. Destroying things inside the house, throwing and hurting his family was not good. Their family tried already to talk to their father but got another issue, it was misinterpret. The most painful there is to accept the thing which is not true.
I guess the father need to change his attitude for good. It's too bad for his family suffering that kind of worst issue.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Maybe he has a medical or psychiatric condition and or problem that the family does not see or refuse to see or even admit because he is head of the the family and just let him get away with it. Three things they can do, leave things as they are and suffer
, convince him to get professional help, work hard and rent or buy a house of their own.
, convince him to get professional help, work hard and rent or buy a house of their own.
@gingerberrie (191)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
hi there,
It's time for the family to open their eyes. If they can't talk to their father, they can ask for a social worker / health provider's assistance for this kind of issue. Their father needs some counseling. Maybe he have some burden that he can't verbally share it to his family. Being a martyr for this kind of situation is not helpful. They have to make some move if they want to stop this kind of issue and help their family.
May God enlighten their father's mind that what he's doing is wrong.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Hi,
Do you know why the dog licks its balls?
Answer is simple, because it can...
His dad keeps doing what he's doing because he can. Nobody rebukes, or retaliates, they just let them be. And they think they need to do it, to leave them alone, and throw those things. But they don't need to. In fact they need to help him. Help him realized that what he's been doing for 2 decades is not normal, neither is it healthy for the family.
It would take just one step of risk, to talk to him and make him realize the unpleasant things he's been doing, (it may not be too soon) but it would make him somehow change. Bottom line is... "don't let the dog lick its balls"
