will you go to the one you love or the one who loves you?
By adeena2000
@adeena2000 (845)
Philippines
June 14, 2011 12:52am CST
If you decide to work on a relationship. How do you accept sommeone for a relationship?
For me, I will go the one who loves me because that he will take care of me. Even if I love him less but can be develop as we go on with our relationship.
Rather than going with the one I love, then he can feel that I love him much. It would be hurting to know when I feel that he love me less.
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22 responses
@regorjmnz (45)
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14 Jun 11
No,when someone whom you loved knows that you really felt something very special to him or her and with all things you'ved done for him, surely it will bear fruits of the same feelings. "Love begets love". In Galatian chapter 6 verse 7 it says, "What you sow you also reap". So, continue to show your pure love and you can have the same later.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
14 Jun 11
Very good quote.. so if you sow lying, you will reap it? well that might be right because when Jacob lied to his father, he reaped it when his father-in-law lied to him and there are series of lying that had happened in his life. So if you sow love to your fellow men you will reap it. and if you sow lie to your fellow men you also reap it.
@alexcei_008 (3)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
In my own opinion it is better to love the one who loves you rather than the one you love. Because some people know that you love them so much they could probably, and will "try" to cheat you. the one who loves you so much can do a lot of thinks you could ever imagine just to have you in their lives. and it is also depends on you. how you will manage the situation. :)
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@adeena2000 (845)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
If you are a woman, it is wise to go to the one who loves you because you will be emotionally secured. If you are a man you should go to the one you love because you give her the emotional security as well. I think that's the fair deal. Isn't it?
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@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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14 Jun 11
I'm horrified by all these people saying who should love who more... ugh, is that really what love has become? A measurement of what you can get out of a relationship?
I'll always go for the person I love. It doesn't matter who loves who more. It matters how much you give, if you can't live without them, if they're absolutely everything to you, if you'd pull down the moon and turn it into a huge green-cheese omelette for them.
Love is not about "who loves who more". That's something very different, for which I don't have (and don't want) a word.
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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15 Jun 11
No, I disagree: it's not at all wise to marry someone who loves you rather than someone you love. It may mean security but it runs a very serious risk of also meaning unhappiness and infidelity.
And yes, my lady is lucky. But then so am I, because she's the same about me. It's an equal relationship, as it should be.
@adeena2000 (845)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
It is wise for a woman to marry the one who loves her than the one she love most...
How lucky the woman you will love because you are a man. I know that she would really be emotionally secured with your love.1 person likes this
@feeltheirie (301)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
I would rather go to the one I love. I truly believe that eventually the person I love would see and feel my genuine love for him. If I continu to love him with all my heart, he will eventually come around. :)
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@lilbabycatapillar (497)
• United States
14 Jun 11
I think, in most relationships, it is much better for the guy to love the girl a little more than she loves him. But it should be mutual, of course, and nobody should have to act or play with the other's feelings. It should still be real.
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@adeena2000 (845)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
That's really, the man should be the one who has more love to a woman than the the latter is much in love because it would take a lot of effort to please your man.
@DracsWolfy (139)
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14 Jun 11
"Never ignore a person who loves you, cares for you and miss you because one day you might wake up from your sleep and realise that you lost the moon while counting the stars."
That quote pretty much explains everything :) you can't choose the one you love over the one who loves you all the time because.. well.. the one you love will not always feel the same way about you.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 Jun 11
I would go with the one I love if he loves me. But if he didn't love me then I would be alone. I couldn't go with a guy That loved me and I didn't love. All of his attention would make me resentful. It wouldn't be fair to him.
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
Well, I guess I have to go with someone whom I am in love with, that is, if this will make me happy and I will do my very best to make him love me the way I love him. But if it can be possible, I would always like a relationship that both parties love each other.
@titchy1231 (732)
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15 Jun 11
for me it would have to be both as i was in a 12 and a half year relationship that after a few years i fell out of love with him, but for some unknown reason stayed with him and it was the biggest mistake i ever made. my life was awful and i hated him, also he verbally, mantally and physically abused me and i was so relieved when i left him.
@gamma9967 (607)
• India
16 Jun 11
Most people will go to the one who they love because it is a common human tendency but after they get rejected they feel regretted and therefore such people select going to those who loves them.
@wilneth (23)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
Yes you are right I agree that if you want to be happy you sholud go to the person who love you because she/he willing to give all just to make you feel bettter in your sadness...rather than going to the people who you love bec you will the one to adjust in your relationship bec always put in your mind that you will afraid if the person gone....
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
4 Dec 12
Yes, I want the one who loves me more... I am greedy with love, hahaha just joking, yes I will choose the one who loves me. I can love him back for sure. I am a cheap thriller, so little things make me happy. I will just go for it. It is not going to work out if you are just the only one loving the person. It's pathetic.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
14 Jun 11
I am at a point in my life where I need to be with whom I love and loves me as well. I am not sure I can be with someone if I don't love them. I understand where some people eventually love the other, but I can only speak for me.
See I can settle, I need absolutely what I give, given back. Opting to select is not an option for me. I prefer to be just as fair to someone the way I want that person to be fair with me.
My thinking is that if I was not to love someone, but someone loves me then that person is settling, so to speak. So for me there are no choices outside of saying we both have to be in love. 
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
14 Jun 11
that's an easy answer for me, the one I love and the one who loves me is the same guy
@kareemadivina (1230)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
It really depends on the situation.Being in a relationship does not just depend on feelings alone.If it does,I will chose the one whom I'm in love with.I think you can't be happy with someone who loves you but really don't felt anything for him.All his efforts could just mean nothing in your eyes but if you love someone everything seems to be special.There's a man who had been been pursuing my love for more than 10 years.He is so kind and even his kindness just annoys me.You can have a failed relationship with the one you truly love, but what matters is the happiness you got out of that experience.Love is not really a guarantee for a successful relationship,it's how you deal with each other but I'll chose to be happy along the way.
@lila0812 (54)
• Indonesia
14 Jun 11
It will be nice if somebody loves you more than you love the one. But, we have to admit that, without true love inside our heart, it will be difficult to raise love amongst two persons. Should be balance.
@maioliveras (31)
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14 Jun 11
Maybe I would go to the one who loves me because later on I will learn to love him back rather loving someone who doesn't love you at all.That's my own opinion.
@famee87 (29)
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14 Jun 11
hello adeena :)
as for this, i would go for the one who loves me. i've been in a situation where i chose the one i love.. but then, all i ever had were heartaches and pain. now, i'm blessed to have the one who really stood by me during my pain. my best buddy... and i never felt happier and more loved.. he is the best thing that ever happened to me.
