The Lesson About Keeping Our "Enemies" Closer
By skysuccess
@skysuccess (8857)
Singapore
June 20, 2011 10:57am CST
I am sure a lot of you would have been aware of the recent spate of celebrities marital affairs backfiring right on their faces.
So, it is really no surprise that we will be caught where a woman never forgets the men she could have had; and man, the woman he couldn't have. Or, that ever rampant misconception that the grass is always greener on the other side. But, I believe celebrities like Tiger Woods, Wayne Rooney, Ryan Giggs and company all had their mistresses actually coming forward into the open about their affairs and legal injunctions have failed to stop them, too.
Come to think of it, I mean why not?
They are being picked up when it suited them, then dropped them like a hot potatoes when they realised how foolish they have been. So, it is inevitable that they will feel being used and the more they feel this way the less circumspect they will be. So, I can really empathize with these people.
Sometimes, I wonder if it would help them to sit down and tell the other half gently that they have learned about their need to talk about the love affair to their peers, controlling the anger and make them understand that they would be hugely appreciative if they did not repeat the story to other than a counselor or therapist; than engaging big legal litigation and enforcing super-injunctions which have failed time and again.
So while it is true here that there are no guarantees in this sort of life, but I think if they display compassion and goodwill, the other party would be more likely to respect their feelings. As the old saying has it that we should keep our friends close and our enemies even closer and if this mantra is true, then I suggest that they should keep their former lovers closest for they are the ones that can really cause the real damage here.
Otherwise, better still NOT to start an affair at all.
What do you think?
2 responses
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
21 Jun 11
That tends to be the best way to stay out of trouble, when you really think about it. By avoiding something that could potentially get you in trouble. Yet there are many temptations that exist out there in every day life, that even those of true strength of character often do get rather shaken from from time to time. It is like a bit of forbidden fruit, hanging from the tree, swinging back and forth, beckoning you, calling you, it is very tempting and lots of people are unable to resist it. Thus people fall for the temptation and they get pulled into the trouble that they do.
Yet, when you have something like an affair, one time only, that's asking for a bit of people. A recurring affair, that is just asking for a lot of trouble. When it gets to the point where it is a mistress, people are bound to not keep their mouth shut. Perhaps it is their own guilt or perhaps it is a need for fame or perhaps it is any number of reasons. Any people like this, they are bound to talk, regardless of what is going to happen. It is just really that simple in many ways. And people can't just have one taste of that forbidden fruit, they have to have many to be satisfied.
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@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
21 Jun 11
megamatt,
I believe sometimes we need to take a step back and think of the consequences that will follow for the decision we are about to make. I always tell myself when I face such situations that while it may be feel bad to miss that one night stand but my entire family will be protected. I do not have to hurt the ones I love and bring down the very foundation that I have painstakingly built.
This discussion is really about looking at the recent spate of extra marital affairs going really bad when the mistresses are no longer satisfied with their status. As such, men are engaging expensive lawyers to deal them with super injunction gagging orders.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
if keeping the enemies closer would mean continuing the affair and providing them still of all that they need, what assurance does it have that this would not lead to anything out of hand? how can this make the secrets 'secret'?
an affair is always tempting for both men and women. it could give one that feeling of exhilaration or excitement but until when? if a man considers marriage as having to eat the same delicacy over and over again, what difference would it be with another woman? he would soon tire of the whole thing and loose appetite, and then what?
i guess you know which side i am with. 
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@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
21 Jun 11
bingskee,
I believe you know that we are in the same boat here, where I do not mean that the affair should carry on.
What I am trying to advocate is that these people should not be going to the law and start executing "gagging" orders on the other party to prevent them from talking. It is just unfair because the other party will need to talk it out over time to recover and find closure. Since, the affair was started by both likewise, both parties must end it.
If they chose to drop them like hot potatoes, then they must be prepared to face the music when they talk desperately to relief themselves. However, I am still adamant that we should never start such affairs whatsoever in the first place.
