Responsible Parenthood

Philippines
June 23, 2011 3:56am CST
Yesterday I heard from the radio news about a 3 year old boy being left by his parents locked outside their house the whole day.The boy's biological mother a 25 year old woman, works as a cashier in a restaurant same with the boy's stepfather.The mother's reason for keeping him outside is a precaution of being accidentally setting their house on fire or other incidents that may happen being alone inside. A concerned neighbor seeing the hapless situation of the boy called a local Social Welfare and inform the boy's situation.A social worker after conducting investigation and founding it's true took the boy to their care. How can a mother do this to his own child.She is suppose to give him love and protection.If she doesn't care why bother to have a child.Your views my friends.
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@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
11 Mar 21
But it is very dangerous outside, he could have left his child with someone too. that woman cared more for the house than the child.
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• Philippines
23 Mar 21
Yes it is very sad indeed. she does not deserve to be called a mother
@tink91879 (742)
• United States
26 Jun 11
This is very sad. I dont know what he was supose to do or how he was suppose to take care of himeself or be kept out of danger outside all day? Of course thats not the question. Why would any parent put their child in danger? I think its lack of parenting skills and maternal instinct. I could never leave my children alone. I have them with me at all times, if their not with me their in the care of somebody I trust. I always have to check my car if their not with me and I find myself looking around just out of habit needing to make sure they are okay. I know childcare is expensive, but there is always help. Its a sad situation and I think this boys parents just need some help in the skills of parenting. The parents probably just felt traped, they need to work to make ends meet, childcare is expensive, etc. No excuse for what they did, but I do believe they need help so hopefully this family can be reunited. As long as there are no other problems with the child.
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
Hello tink, Yeah, we may say that both the parents need to work to provide for their kid but leaving him alone locked outside is unacceptable.The mother said she had given the boy money in case he gets hungry but how a can a boy of 3 years old manage to do that, lets say he can but my guess is he will pick junk foods instead of nutritious foods.His parents really needs some parenting guidance and also they should convince through their explanations the social welfare before they could gain back the guardianship of their child.Thanks for your time my friend.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
23 Jun 11
That's just how it is now. In my opinion it's down right scary how parents treat their children. Parents can reject their kids or just plain ignore them but the good parents that dispipline our children need to worry if we're doing something that someone looking on would take it upon themselves to call Social Services. People worry to much about other people than they do about themselves and this is what happens.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Yeah, you may be right at that point sometimes other parents thinks differently.They may say that they are just concern about how this mother treats her child but sometimes they themselves may have done wrong too with their kids.It's like a man sees the small speck on someones eyes but they themselves don't see the big one on theirs.But a mother treating his child like that is unacceptable.Thanks or your time my friend.
• India
23 Jun 11
Its very disappointing behaviour fro the child's parents. Putting a 3 year old alone is not a really good idea which i agree. But the idea of making him to wait outside all day is the worst ever! As i see in the situation the neighbour felt more concerned for hi thatn his own parents. There really needs to be a sense of responsibility from the parents side. its, right, if they cant love him and take his responsibility then they dont deserve to have him in the first place.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
As I see it they are more concerned with the materials things they have, more than their child.It's really unacceptable what they did to boy.They could have hired a hand to look after him while they are at work I guess they can afford it since both of them have jobs.Thanks for your time my friend.
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
23 Jun 11
My gosh what was she thinking? Why would anyone leave a three year old child outside alone all day? That is certainly child endangerment, besides what if he was hungry or needed to go to the bathroom? How were those needs met? She should be put in jail! A child should not be left alone until they are probably at least 11 or 12 and then someone should be checking on them periodically. This mother doesn't deserve to have a child if she doesn't take care of him any better than that!
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Your absolutely right she doesn't deserve to have a child after what she did.About the boy getting hungry she said she gave him a small amount just in case, but a three year old boy left to feed himself alone that's unreasonable.She could have hire a hand to look after the boy to take care of his needs while they are gone. Thanks for your time my friend.
• United States
23 Jun 11
I could not write how this gets under my skin! You do not ever do that to a precious child! She needs parenting classes before they ever consider giving her the child back.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Yeah, the Social Welfare wants the mother to undergo psychological evaluation first to know if she is capable to provide the needs and take care of the child.And if she can give a reasonable explanation she will still have to attend parenting seminar before a decision could be made.Thanks for the response my friend.
@Outcast (632)
• United States
23 Jun 11
thats sad that things like this happen.
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Yes,I can't really imagine a mother doing this to his own child.Treating him like that is unforgivable.I'm glad she had a neighbor who cares.The Social worker contacted the mother and they want her to undergo some psychological evaluation.Thanks for your time my friend.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
One should take care of the kid. The mother should stop working and took care of the baby,or maybe she can hire a nany for the kid while both are working and not leave the kid alone and outside the house? Guess the Social Welfare people had given the parents a warning,serves them right or else they surely lost custody of their own child due to being irresponsible.
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Yes since she had a job she can afford to hire a hand to take care of the child.She had some explaining to do to convince the Social Welfare that she is really worthy to have the child again.I heard too that before releasing the child they want the mother to undergo some parenting seminar in case the were convince by the mother to give the child back in her care.Thanks for your time my friend.
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
those parents need psychological help... any normal person wouldn't leave a child outside alone... most of us here have our grandparents, or other relatives nearby, so they are the ones taking care of the children when the parents are at work... no one leaves his/her children alone at home... what were they thinking?!
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Yeah you are right,what the mother have done is really unacceptable.Leaving a child locked outside alone while they are working is not an excuse.Since they are working they could have hired someone to look after him while they are away.It's true too that sometimes most of us have a nearby relative so they could have asked them for help.Thanks for the response my friend.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
That kind of news really make me sick. I really hate to hear children being abused by their parents. I'm a mother myself and i just couldn't stand hurting my child in that way, verbally and physically. I do discipline my child and sometimes hit him when he's being stubborn, but i do explain afterwards why i had to do that. My son would apologize and i don't see he has any remorse for me or his father when we reprimand him. In fact he loves us more and even says sorry when he's at fault. That mother should be held responsible for what she did to her baby. He's too young to be left alone much left locked outside. That's really a horrible thing to do.
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Yeah, it's really heartbreaking to know that a mother could do that to her own child.It's not a human act treating him like that, even pets were provided with shelters.The social worker contacted the mother and wants her explanation and if it's not acceptable to them she will lost her custody to the child. She could have hired a nanny to look after her child while she's at work.It's good they have a neighbor who took pity on the child and reported it to the social welfare.Thanks for your time my friend.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Jun 11
Ohhh no really very sad event 3 year old boy. Now really in most of the cases mother is so careless. I have seen daily one news regarding small child like one child push his face in the cooker, a 7 year boy put his 2 years sister in washing machine and start the machine because he wants to clean their sister for fairness, she is mashed till mother is reached and third event is telling you. Really now mother is busy in their own activity and not pay attention on their child this is wrong. We all mothers should know child is wealth for us without child no life. So be careful and watch everytime where is your child.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Yeah it's really hard to imagine a mother could do such a thing like that and to his own child.About what you have stated it did really happened too, a child face have been pushed to a burning stove and a 2 yr old girl put inside a washing machine just to get cleaned by his older brother.That's really horrible, so this must be a warning to those mother who does not watch what their children are doing.They must hire a hand to look after their children in case they will be away. Thanks for your time my friend.