is it selfishness.....?
By Rams mylot
@rameshchow (4426)
India
June 23, 2011 12:42pm CST
friends,
in college life "the friendship" is so hypothetical.
actually when we are busy in our work, it is impossible to wish our friends(through mail/call/sms). Of course, we also have that desire to wish them even we are busy. but it is impossible. Then we thought that "after successfully completion of my work i will spend my total time with my friends only". Like in this way we will design constructive way.
But the current situation is fighting totally opposite on us. Our friends may misunderstood us. In this situation we can't move forward or backward....
What can we do?
Actually "is it called the selfishness to do our works(which are useful to our career)?".
Is it called as forgetting friends?
How to see the happy future?
How to be positive in these situation?
This is not only in the case of friends? Even in the case of our loved ones also.
when we are free, they neglect us(our feelings).
When we are too busy, in that time only they come with love....
What can we do? how do we convey their feelings?
How to maintain a good relation in these critical times?
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9 responses
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 11
hi saphie thats right they should c ut a little slack as one cannot be in two places at once. but if they can just squeeze out a short time to spend with loved ones or friends thinking people will appreciate it and not take up more of their time. right if they cannot understand the
students right to take schooling seriously they are not good friends.
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
24 Jun 11
HI Remo,
Being friends requires two ways where we and our friends need to be understanding. We can continue to remember them through a message, email, sms and or a call. But as a friend they too can reciprocate the feelings also as it is not always dependent to be one sided.
So all I can suggest is you continue to be you and yes remember to call upon them, but if they do not call upon you try not to push too hard and hope that they remember your caring ways.
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@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
23 Jun 11
Friends are forever. You might lose them as you work to better yourself in school and on the job, but they never go away (unless they die). Young people take a while to learn that sometimes you have to work hard for your goal and you can't be with your friends when they need you to be. No one really forgets their friends. Sometimes we just drift away. I'm glad for the social sites because they allow me to get back in contact with old friends. But in these critical times, your studies and job come first.
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@cooldudeboy1 (121)
• India
23 Jun 11
i often hear people say arey time nahi mila and all that , since ur indian im assuming u mustve heard that phrase, but come on if v want to remove time for something , by hook or by crook v will get the work done,
as for the part when they come when u are busy only well i guess thats just bad timing , and letme know when u do fing a solution to that problem
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@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
You need to give your love ones special time,including your friends bonding time. Don't leave your life with just working the whole week. Laughing with friends is really important, it keeps away stress. :)
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 11
hi rameshchow in a way I suppose it could be called selfishness but most people relatives specially see why students often do this and cut them some slack. Nobody yet has figured out how to study and be at college and still be home visiting with loved ones at the same time. So I think its time to take a little time away from college to spend with your friends and loved ones as it will give you a short break from studying and college and you will be refreshed when you get back to college work.Also do not wait until the night before a big exam to study. do that two weeks before the exam then the night before go see your friends or loved ones and spend some time.You will find yourself more relaxed and ready for the exam if you know you have really studied hard for it.So what you need to
do is communicate often with family and friends. just brief calls or texts or whatever to say I am so busy with college but wanted to ask if you and I could do this or that this weekend.Set a time when you will be free and remind them you do have studying to do alsol
@savypat (20216)
• United States
23 Jun 11
College is one of the most stressful times of one's life. But with all the ways to communicate these days a weekly connection with friends and family is a wise investment. If nothing else just the I'm thinking of you and sending love is enough to keep in touch.
@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
hello friend, just try to find time for both, there's an old and somewhat over used saying but I feel still applies to this situation, " if there's a will, there's a way", I think it's just a little time management plus proper communication with your friends if they really are your true friends.
