when you cant help....
By ladybug565
@ladybug565 (2216)
United States
June 25, 2011 1:53am CST
have you ever tried to help someone and couldnt? My friend introduced me to her mother who was a recovering drug addict, hoping that moving her here and introducing her to good people and friends would help her. that was a year ago and all was well, then she brought her son here and he too was a drug addict and an alcoholic. we did all we could do to help him and help her remain strong, he moved away and all was well again. then her boyfriend got out of jail and moved in with her he pretty much kept her away from us and now they have moved back to the city that they came from and I think that she will go back to her old ways and her daughter is beside herself with sadness. I guess now all I can do is be there for her daughter (my true friend) oh and find homes for the poor animals that she abandoned when she left.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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25 Jun 11
I have a friend who is a bit messed up with her love life and everything, but no matter how much help or advice my friends and I give her, she will not change her ways and improve her chances of getting a new partner. It's a shame, because she wastes a lot of our time by acting like this, when she could just change a couple of tiny little things and make herself so much of a better person because of it. If you ask people for advice, you should be prepared to accept it rather than just turning it down all of the time.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Personally what your friend needs to realize is that we can try and help others and show them a better life, but even with people who are in recovery AA and NA can help, but it is really up to that individual to continue to want the help and do it for themselves. She did try to help her Mom, and if it did not take then there is nothing she can do, but Pray. Maybe somehow something good came from this situation instead.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I was going to say what the other have already said, you did try to help, but you can't force someone to accept your help..You did what you could, and though ti is sad, I wouldn't let it get to you, after all, maybe your friend's mother will find another who is willing to help her..
@ladybug565 (2216)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I think everyone is right, I did the best I could and was a good friend to her while she was here. I guess in a way I am still being a good friend cleaning up the mess she left behind. (unwanted animals) and helping her daughter get through the hurt her mother always causes her.
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@insperwriter (41)
• United States
12 Aug 11
You have done the right thing by helping her when you could. She'll always know the right path from you, but it'll always be her choice to choose that path. God is the only one who can truly influence her choice in which path she wants to take. You should feel very happy that you did what you did because now she has a right path to follow. Thanks again for everything you did! It's a great inspiration!
