Is it easy to let go, and just be a slob?

letting go and being a slob - couch potato slob
@bounce58 (17380)
Canada
June 27, 2011 5:47pm CST
There are just days when I don't feel like doing anything. This last weekend were such days. When I don't get to have my shower first thing in the morning, and the day drags on, I feel like such a slob. Unshowered, unshaven, couch-potato, in front of the TV slob! Thankfully late Sunday afternoon I woke up from my stupor because we had guests coming. Anyway, I posted discussion because of a nephew of mine. He is the ultimate slob! He wouldn't take a shower/bath if he doesn't have to, watches TV all day, eats in the couch all day, and walks around their house in his pajamas with his crack hanging out from behind. His mom is there, so I can't really reprimand him, but sometimes I'd like to scream to his face and ask, is it really that easy to be a slob? Do you know of any slobs? Have you yourself been a slob? Don't you find it quite easy to just let go? How do you wake up from it?
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17 responses
• United States
30 Jun 11
It's sad but yes I actually do know a few slobs and lazy people of my own. I understand that once in a while, we do get lazy and all we want to do is stay home, watch TV and not be bother, of course I have two small children, so the act of being lazy really doesn't exist in my vocabulary, but there are other people that take advantage. They lack responsibility and are just plain lazy.
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@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
11 Jul 11
You would think that not having children, and having more time for themselves, as compared to a parent running a house, these people would be able to take care of themselves much better. And yet, the opposite is true. I think it's just a lack of motivation. Thanks.
• United States
12 Jul 11
Your right, having children will tend to slow you down with the chores, especially when they are small children once they grow up a bit it gets to tend to get easier. Without children it shouldn't be difficult not to clean up after yourself and loved one. But like you said apparently it is lack of motivation.
@bouncybug (613)
• South Africa
8 Jul 11
I think we all have days like that sometimes - when you just don't feel like doing anything productive or even if its unintentional! Sometimes you just sleep really late and then before you know it the day is gone!! I hate that feeling of being a slob and unproductive! I think the only way to not be a slob is to actually have something to do -like get a job or go to school or something, so that you HAVE to be up at a certain time! Otherwise it is too easy to slip into being a slob and doing nothing.
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@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
11 Jul 11
Hello bouncybug! Are we related?! It's funny what you said (wrote) about having a job. A friend of mine once said that he is thankful for his job. Not because of his earning opportunity, but because he had somewhere to go on days, and he had some reason for dressing up. Thanks
• United States
28 Jun 11
I don't know any slobs! I may not be Suzy housewife but I am no slob either. I don't know if there is a way to stop being a slob or not.
• United States
29 Jun 11
I love your Avatar and username. What a fine film! Ok. Back on subject. I think being a slob is a personality trait that can't be easily changed. if it Really upsets you , just stay away.
• United States
30 Jun 11
There's more room in than out. So tell him how you feel. Or if you can't , then write me and vent, ok?
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
30 Jun 11
I try to stay away as much as possible. Sometimes, I have a hard time keeping it all in. I feel the need to speak up (or slap him on the face), and say wake up, and stop being a slob. Thanks sarah.
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@ersmommy1 (12587)
• United States
21 Dec 11
I know a few slobs. My brother being a huge one! However,I don't seem to be able to just let things go. My hubby often says to me "The house will NEVER be as clean as you want it" I don't understand the not showering thing. I shower even on my pj days. I just put clean jammies on after.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
27 Dec 11
I know what you mean. Even if you can't make the house 'as clean as you want it', you could always do something to make it not look like a sty. And the showering-thing. It's the first thing I do. My day wouldn't start without it, so I could also not understand people who could go on without taking one! Thanks ersmommy1!
• United States
28 Jun 11
Hi bounce I don't think I have ever been a slob as a shower, brushing teeth twice a day is a must for me. lol Yes I do know a slob, OMG, he is 28 years old and does not have a job. He sleeps in all day and lays on the couch all the time. He eats almost a box of cereal in a day. He does not care of guests are coming over or not and why should he, as his mother does all for him. She does his laundry and though she harps to us that he is a slob, she does not say a word to him. Therefore, she is enabling him and sadly because he is young and to date can't keep a job as he complains he is tired and quits. I believe the most he has kept a job would be for under a week. She complains he never brushes his teeth, Eeek! It has been at least 3 years since he last worked, sad too because he has a daughter out in the world for which to date he has never purchased a bag of diapers. Anyone sitting and calmly explaining how he needs to change his slob ways will get an earful of fowl language.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
6 Jul 11
I can't seem to erase that mental image of not brushing his teeth! I think that daughter of hers should have been his wake up call. To do something, if not for himself, for his daughter. Sadly, I think I agree with you that it's his mother that is enabling him. I hope she finally wakes up, and kicks him out. So he would in turn also wake up!
• United States
28 Jun 11
Hi Scarface - ROFLMAO - reading your comment! Yup he is a really bad slob and lazy too. I could see if he was busy working all the time and not taking the time to take care of certain needs. But he does not take of his basic needs and lays around all the time complaining and asking for money. I think you are busy all the time, it sounds like you have a great grasp on making money. You are going to have to teach us all a thing or two. lol I love to eat each and every day, though I do eat very healthy and exercise routinely as I have to keep my girly figure.
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
There really are people who are like that. Personally these persons are probably still uncertain of their real purposes in life. I presume he's unemployed? I do wish that he gets out of that phase for inevitably it will wear down the patience of the people surrounding him. Have a good day!
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
11 Jul 11
I think being undecided in life, and being a slob, goes hand in hand. And you're right that it does rub people around him the wrong way. Even just friends who are not really close, yet know how he or she lives. Thanks for the response.
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Yes, it does will put the "slob" in the wrong light. No matter how grave his inner issues, he/ she should would overcome it and decide to do something otherwise he will turn out to be slob for the rest of his/ her life. You're welcome Bounce! Continue bouncing..and continue sharing you posts. Blessed day!
• United States
28 Jun 11
I don't mind being a bit of a slob. I do live in my pj's in winter, unless I go out in public. And showering well I don't mind every other day, but if I have to work it's a must of course.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
9 Jul 11
If I didn't have to work in the winter, I would live in my pj's too! It feels so nice having the heater on, while it is snowing outside. I would love just to take naps, and then eat, and then watch TV, and be on the computer, etc. Unfortunately, the reality is I still have to work in winter. So, I can't really afford to be a slob.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Jun 11
I have to admit I can be a slob quite often. I don't really watch a lot of TV though.. so I'm a computer slob. I wake up, grab my coffee, and sit at the computer. I won't get dressed until I have to. I won't clean unless I have to. I dread nice, sunny days because it means I have to get the kids out of the house, and I don't really want to. I want to just sit here and be a slob. That's not how I am everyday.. but lately I'm craving more slob days. I've been working so much and doing so much that I just want a day of sitting in and doing nothing at all.. not even school work. Unfortunately that's just not part of my life right now.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
8 Jul 11
Hi kat! I actually dread sunny days too! It feels like I have to drag the kids out too, so they could take in all that sun. It's hard to be an example, when I myself just want to sit in front of the TV or the computer. Thanks.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
1 Jul 11
There have been weekends when I haven't wanted to do a darn thing..lol..I think it's nice to have a day or two every now and again. I know what you mean though..when I do pajama day..I always feel lazy too..lol. I think my daughters have definite slob potential. If I let them..they would probably lay around all day too.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
11 Jul 11
Thank goodness mom Jen is always there for the kids! It is easier not to be a slob when there is a parent always pushing the kids. I do the same way with my kids too. Otherwise, they would just realize their potential of becoming slobs. Thanks Jen.
@maezee (41985)
• United States
17 Jul 11
I think we all have lazy days like this. Today is my example. Well, I did work for about 7 hours but I am doing absolutely nothing right now but enjoying the fact that I have the internet now. (Haven't had it in MONTHS AND MONTHS - since march? february? ugh!) and it's just as amazing as I'd hoped it would be lol. Anyway, I'm just chillin' in my sweat pants. I could be cleaning or doing laundry but I deserve a lazy day. We all do every once in a while. So long as it doesn't become an every day thing. No one likes a stinky lazy person. Ha ha.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
21 Jul 11
Oh so that's why I haven't seen you around here for quite some time! Anyway, I've seen my inbox, and I've seen that you've started to raise a few discussions already. I still have to get to those. Yes, as long as it doesn't get to be an everyday thing, I think we deserve some lazy days. Specially if we work so hard. Thanks!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jul 11
While I will admit that my house is a mess, I don't think that I am a complete slob. I'm only one person and there is no way that I could be expected to do it all. I'm always all over my kids to try to get them to do something and take some pride in those things that are theirs. With that said, my sister-in-law is a complete slob, they take their clean laundry and just toss it on a chair. She won't do dishes and she won't pick up at all after her children. I really wonder what will happen when they have a home of their own.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
11 Jul 11
I guess slobs can be divided into two categories: one who wouldn't look after himself or herself, in terms of personal hygiene, and the other who couldn't be bothered with making sure that the area around is clean. I think your SIL is the second kind. And I'd hate to think what she could be, if she also turns out the be the first kind of slob.
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Sometimes I enjoy being a slob. :) These are the days when I rarely have work/appointments/meetings and I would hang around our house all day. I would hide out in my room, surrounded with books or armed with the remote control. :D There would definitely be an iced tea or coffee within reach, junk foods, and lots of pillows for my feet. I would take a bath at the end of the day and would have a hard time falling asleep because for a change, I am not too exhausted. :)
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
9 Jul 11
Hey! You're back! If I had known, I would have responded here more quickly. Anyway, I'm sure you deserve your 'slob-days'! I still think you work too hard, so any day you can just hide away in your room should be a good day for you. Thanks.
• Singapore
1 Jul 11
I think it's ok to be an occasional slob, and I find that I become one easily when I'm alone in the house for days, I only eat and sleep when I have to, otherwise its the pc for me all the way. Maybe your nephew needs to get a job, get himself occupied and clean up!
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
11 Jul 11
If I didn't have kids to take care of, I could see myself just as you described. Just go to work all clean and tidy, and yet when I go home, I would just eat and sleep whenever. I would also be in front of the computer all day. I guess thankfully the kids are always around, so I could set a good example. And not become a slob myself.
• Mexico
9 Jul 11
Of course it is and it is very dangerous! Don't fall into that trap or you will find it really hard to get out of it. If you feel like that one day just decide to do something that will give you energy again. For me what works is going on a run, I get back play a few video games and then do something productive like writing on my blog or reading.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
11 Jul 11
Hello nordqvist11. As long as you are able to separate the urge of being a slob, and the urge to become productive, I guess it is no problem. Thanks for dropping by.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
28 Jun 11
It is easy to be a slob! I live alone and it is easy! I like to avoid doing things unless I absolutley have to! Not all the time but usaually during the weekend I do the stuff I ignored during the week. Like laundry,dishes and cleaning. I really don't know of someone who is a real slob! I do know a few neat freaks though! LOL!
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
29 Jun 11
I think if I were living alone, I would be just like you blue65packer. I could be a neat freak when I want to (weekends), but during the week, I might postpone all chores until the weekend. If you live with your mom, then I guess that pretty much ensures that you don't get to be a slob Scarface.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
I have never been a slob all my life. I was always a disciplined woman, specially when it comes to cleanliness. I see to it that i would shower or sponge bath myself before eating my breakfast. Then at night, i would again wash my face before i go to sleep. I guess, i am like this because i know it's for my own benefit.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
8 Jul 11
Hi SIMPLYD. I know how it is like to live in a tropical country. You just can't afford to be a slob. Daily showers is a necessity. And I know that you take public transportation, so it also needed at night. Thanks for the response.
• United States
28 Jun 11
Hi Bounce. I think it is easy to be a slob if you are a slob to begin with. I think if you are in the habit of being clean it will drive you crazy to let the dishes pile up or let the laundry slide a few days. I also feel that if you are used to keeping your body clean you will feel Grungy to allow your body to go unbathed. It would drive me insane because I'm a bit of a germaphobe anyway.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
8 Jul 11
Hi PQ. I think that to a certain extent, I could be a germaphobe too! But once in a while, I could let go. But for only a day max! Because I also know that after a few hours of just doing nothing, I would feel restless. And uncomfortable of being 'unclean'! Thanks.