I feel sad that my friend is leaving...
By scentcastle
@scentcastle (241)
Philippines
June 28, 2011 8:53am CST
I am feeling so sad right now. Actually, I've been feeling sad for a couple of weeks now. I do have this friend of mine who is about to leave the company with which we work together. She was my friend for a long time now, probably for about 17 years or so. She was my classmate, schoolmate, college friend and now my work mate.
I've been with our company for almost 4 years now and even though I feel like I'm not that compensated properly, I still feel happy and blessed to have a job. Besides, I can work online when I'm not busy. On the other hand, my friend used to work with a different company but more than 2 years ago, the company she was working with laid off lots of their employees and unfortunately, she was one of them. She had no job for more than a year, maybe just a little bit of part time job, helping out with her brother's shop and all and finally, just late last year, we had a job opening at our company. She passed the tests and the interviews and got hired. I was so happy and elated back then since I felt like I have someone I can talk to anytime of the day especially when I get bored. There was never a dull moment with us when we are at the office.
The sad news is, just last week, she finally decided to resign from the company because she felt that she was undercompensated and was hoping for greener pastures. I feel so sad that she is leaving the office. I feel like things would be different and cold again in my workplace now that she's gone.
Sorry for my whining but, I just wanted to share what I'm going through.
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13 responses
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
1 Jul 11
Aww...I hate to hear your friend is leaving the company. It's very hard to feel alone. I hope that you find a way to remain comfortable at work without her. People sometimes need to move on. Maybe she can put a good word in for you one day if she finds something better.
Good luck!
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@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Thanks JenInTn! I do feel alone right now and I must say that the atmosphere at the office is kind of awkward. I know I have to stay positive that things will get better. Moving on and accepting that someone else has moved on without you is pretty hard thing to accept but still, I know I have to move on also.
@alvanloh (162)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 11
Relax. Its always hard to say goodbye. But still, Its not like you wouldn't be able contact her anymore. Plus she choice do leave. Its not your fault. A new worker is probably gonna get hired so maybe you can establish a new friend ship with that person. Just chillax a little.
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@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Thanks for the response. I'm not blaming myself though. I don't blame her wither. I'm just sad. But surely this will go away. As for hiring a new employee, that might take a few more months before the company decides to hire a new one. Hopefully, I'd get to meet a new friend here at work, someone I can share more personal thoughts.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
28 Jun 11
It is always sad when something like this happens, particularly if we've known the person for such a long time, but you have been friends for most of your lives and this probably won't change just because you no longer work together. Simply make sure that you arrange to meet up with each other as much as you possibly can during the week after you've finished work, and plan day trips together at the weekend. There is no need to be sad, and hopefully she will be a lot happier now that she's left the job she didn't like. Your friendship should be stronger because of this.
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@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Yeah I guess it's just a test of our friendship and even though our interests may soon differ and we don't get to share the same things anymore, we would always try to keep in touch to keep our friendship as stronger than ever. Our friendship had already been through a lot. This is just one of the many trials and challenges we need to face and adjust to.
@dong88 (795)
• China
29 Jun 11
Hello!Your friend left,so you are upset that I also met a few times.Every time a friend from his,or I leave the friend.I also will be uncomfortable.But this life,that is the way life is.
Happy up,let it be,let time to ease our uncomfortable.
Bless you!
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@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
You are right my friend. I need to start being happy again 'cause life is life and sometimes it's unfair and cold but we always have a choice to feel differently about it. Although I feel kind of sad during the past few days, i know that I'll feel better. Thank you for the response.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
tell your friend that unless she is sure of her next employment, she shouldn't quit yet otherwise she might end up like her previous situation.
I'm sorry that you are losing a buddy in the office, but you can survive it. you were fine even when she want there yet. who knows, you might get a new close friend.
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@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
My other girlfriends and I told her that she should still be sure about her next employment before quitting but she already quit and she already sent her resignation letter a few weeks ago. Now, she's not yet employed and the promises of her previous employer seem to be turning out pretty badly as there seems to be some issues with her hiring. I'm not particularly sure of her situation right now since we haven't really talked that much since her last day at work. I hope her well and that she could have the job she wanted pretty soon.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
28 Jun 11
I'm very sorry you are missing your friend at work. It was her choice to leave. I hope she didn't make a mistake. Times are so hard nowadays. I think it will take some getting used to, but maybe you will form new relationships.
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@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
She was offered another job from the same company which previously kicked her out. I'm not sure of their process but she was getting so many calls from her previous employer. I haven't had any updates if she was really given the job or not. but I hope that she will..
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Your friend may have a different need and expectation from your company. If she would stay and would not be happy, she'll not be able to perform well and give her best during work. You have to show support towards her by not being so sad when she leaves and bid her good luck. At the same time, tell her that you can still maintain communications between the two of you. You can even set nights-out right after your job.
Do not be so gloomy anymore. Smile and you'll see that everything will be fine again.
@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
I do support her. It's just that I feel sad not being able to see or talk to her as often as I wanted to like before. But I wished her good luck and happiness and hoped that she'll find what she's looking for out there. I'm her friend and I'll always be her friend no matter what.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
This is the third goodbye discussion that i have read and responded to today but i don't really mind because each have a different story.
I once had the same experience ago but my friendship with that co-worker was not as long as yours. We met there in the company and we call him DAddy because he was like a father to us. Every lunch break we would gather in one room and had a bible study. AFter a few months he told us he's leaving us he felt under compensated. I felt sad and wanted to hold him back but I knew i really couldn't do anything about it because it's money matters.
We still communicate though upto this day though we hardly see each other.
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@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Yeah I guess we could always keep in touch and give a few updates once in a while. It's going to be different. now I'm quiet as a mouse at the office and I don't feel like talking really... Anyways, this is just temporary. I hope so. It's just that I can't help my self feeling this way for now. Thanks for sharing your story. At least there's someone who believes and understands what I'm going through. At least for the most part. It's going to take a lot of adjustments on my part but still, I'll do my best to feel okay in a week or so.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
28 Jun 11
I can imagine friend how you are feeling for your friend really whenever a friend is leaving us that is situation is very sad. Your friend is leaving the company and now you will feel alone but dont worry you will meet new good friend.
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@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
I am truly hoping to meet new friends in a few months or so. I just wish I'd get along with them and be able to have another office buddy. Besides, I'm not miserable or something. I'm just sad not to see her as often as I want to anymore. Thanks for the response. It gives me comfort that mylotters care and understand me.
@sachiare22 (50)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
hi... i know how you feel.... but on the other hand your friend just wanted to look for something bigger for her future.... things will be different for you but you'll get used to it... people leave... but you can always talk to them even you're apart... cheer up.. smile...have a good day...
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@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Yeah. That's what she told me. She wanted to look for something bigger and higher paying jobs so since she has more dreams she wants to achieve. I guess, we're different in that aspect. I have been quite loyal to this company who has given me the chance to work with them just when I needed a job back then. I'm contented but not totally happy. Thanks for the response.
@qnzmae (43)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
I feel you. A close friend of mine just recently left for another country. It'll be such a long distance to fathom and we miss her so much. She was like a sister. But then again, one thing that's constant in life is change. We just have to adjust and stay in touch and see each other in a long while. We keep in touch through facebook and twitter and phone calls every now and then though.
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@scentcastle (241)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
I hope we could still get in touch. I wish her the best and hopefully we could still spend time together in the future with more stories to share. It's just that I'm not good with good byes and I don't even know how to act when I'm around her for the past few days. To be honest, it feels a little bit awkward.
@rehanashraf (350)
• India
29 Jun 11
It is sad moment for you. absolutely i cannot imagine Your condition because you are better know your condition relationships with your friend. She is your best friend and connect with you as classmate,schoolmate ,college friend and co-worker for a long time.In this a person feels something special for their friend.She had thought during the job she was compensated with you and break the
role of merit.In the end She was leaved your company job.God help you in this matter.
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