will you send your parents to old age home
By aweins
@aweins (4199)
India
June 29, 2011 5:51am CST
i am not in a very rich situation in life but i dont think that i will send my parent to old age home ever. i will like to live with as long as GOD has gifted them this precious life . i want to spend my time with them . i am myself a mother today and i love my baby very very much. she also loves me very much.. today i am doing so much for her, which i should not say because as a parent every one do that for their children, but i want to say that my parents also did so much for us when we were young, in school, in college, they use to help us in study, giving us milk and snacks and whatever we need while studying. today they are old and they need us. how can we leave them to suffer there. one day when we will go old and then our children will also leave us there, it sounds so bad. we have arguments and there are frustrations at times, but they are parents , we need to listen. they are old, we are also old so we can listen and take there words accordingly. i live with my in-laws and life is full of frustrations at times. but then i think, my hubby is there only son and then we also have one child, i dont want to argue and fight with them to give and set an example infront of my child, how to deal with your elders and parents.
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10 responses
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
No i don't want to send my parents to "home for the aged".
almost every year i visited a "home for the aged" as part of my charity work. Talking with them that they missed thier family, and telling you that thier family forget them already, thats hurt.
It's so hard knowing that there are people who abondoning thier love ones to such place as that. I have my concience. I don't think i can sleep well.
@Biomechanoid (2923)
• Estonia
30 Jun 11
Well, from what I've learned is that old parents don't like living at the age home, cause when their children bring them to the age home, it kind of shows that children don't care about their parents. They don't want to bother with helping their parents so they just solve the problem by locking their parents away in an age home.
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
29 Jun 11
I don't know. We might, just because that way there is more for them to do. It depends on how much care they need and how good the home is. There are nice assisted living apartments near us where nursing staff comes to the apartments if needed and you can eat in your apartment or go down to a communal area and eat the food there. These are expensive though.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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29 Jun 11
Because I have a career in which I work from home, it would not be impossible for me to have them stay with me and I would be able to look after them. By the time they get to that age, my children will be grown up enough to help look after them which would also make life a lot easier for everybody. However, sometimes things can happen which mean that there isn't all that much of a choice with regards to putting them in an old age home, for example if they need to be lifted a lot because there's no way that I would be able to do that on my own.
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@SilverVixen (284)
• United States
29 Jun 11
If that's where they wanted to go, then of course. My grandma loves living in her old folks home. She has a lot of friends, help when she needs it, constant checks to see if she is ok. They also have activities and groups she joined so she's not bored all day. And its close to where my mom and sister lives so she gets regular visitors. She fell and broke her arm a few months back and stayed with my dad to recover, we asked if she wanted to stay with us, but she refused. I think she said something like so what am I supposed to do all day, sit here and watch nascar? She really likes it there so if my parents want to stay in a home, they can. If not, there are so many other options out there.
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@Gmaster10 (9)
• Russian Federation
29 Jun 11
I don't think I will ever do that. I think instead of doing that, I get them a separate home and a caretaker for them.
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@sweetychandu7 (1120)
• India
30 Jun 11
I didn't actually read your entire topic but replying to the question you asked.
I won't make them in old age homes at all..As we have been raised by them since 25-30 yrs till we get married and they struggled a lot to make us happy when we are kids till before marriage.
Now making sending them to old age homes i not at all good.Because they might have wishes like to play with their grandchildren and even we have to make them happy through that...We have to worship them on the other side....
Please take care of your parents they are your LIVING GODS..!!!!
@anklesmash (1412)
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29 Jun 11
I think i would have to send my mum to an old peoples home if her condition got really bad as i don't think i could give her the quality care she would need.I would try and find her a good home and would visit her very regularly.I do feel guilty that i couldn't give her the same level of care she gave me when i was young but i just don't think i would be able to bath her or deal with her if she became incontinent.
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@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
For me not because they are parents we suffer it until such time they gone but our suffer is less only to count when they are guiding us in our life when we are kids. But it is defends on the culture but when time I where live in mother in law it is bad so better to not live with your mother in law.
@cathzuya (187)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
good thing here in our country doesn't exists the 'home for the aged'. well maybe yes, for those people who doesn't really have a family anymore... err... not quiet sure but as far as my knowledge serves me right, we don't have that kinda place. so people here, basically spends their entire life with their family. new generations taking their responsibility to take care of their parents when they grow old.
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