How much would you take from your friend?
@crimsonladybug (3112)
United States
June 29, 2011 8:27pm CST
If your friend suddenly came into a large sum of money and wanted to share it with you, to buy you a gift, how much would you accept?
My favorite band hosts a huge event, with two nights of concerts, meet & greets, a Q&A panel... in Chicago the weekend before Christmas and I want to go so bad I can hardly stand myself. But at the rate my life is going I can't see how I will be able to afford the trip. Last night one of my best friends told me if a real estate deal she's working on comes through, she'll pay for my plane ticket... because she's going to use part of the money she gets from the deal to go and she doesn't want to go without me. I am having some major feelings about this. On the one hand I am so tempted to accept the offer and pay her back when I can (and I WILL pay her back). On the other hand I feel like I would be taking advantage of her, even though it was her idea and I never would think to bring it up.
If your friend had this happen to them and could suddenly give you a huge gift, would you accept it? And where would you "draw the line"?
6 responses
@SilverVixen (284)
• United States
30 Jun 11
.I think accepting the plane ticket wouldn't be considered using her. If she wants you there and is willing to help, that's a good friend you have. But I would pay her back as soon as possible. And probably buy her dinner a few times while we were there. And just know that you owe her one too, if she ever needs help with something.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
30 Jun 11
Money is one thing which should not come between friends. In your situation it is really tough to make a decision. But even if you accept make sure that you pay her later as otherwise you will lose respect in your own eyes and may be your friend might stop respecting you. Have a nice time.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
30 Jun 11
If a friend made me such an offer and it would be a substantial gift,I would probably accept it,although it wouldn't make me feel very comfortable,but if I knew that my friend was sincere and did that gesture in the name of our friendship,I couldn't turn down the present.Anyway,my decision would also depend on how 'huge' the present would be;if I felt that I was given too much I would 'draw the line'and try to convince my friend that it's too much,even if we're close friends.
@princess_1989 (39)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
if my friend offer me some huge gift especially that I insanely wanted to have.mmmm.. definitely i will accept, because she/he offered it without asking for but then, we cant deny the fact that our doubts or ego confused, if we will accept it or not because it really cost that much.So, just to compensate the huge gift of your friend, by the time you have a promotion or deal perhaps treat her or buy some stuff or gifts that will make her happy because friendship is all about give and take whether it is a thing or not.
