It's hard to move on when you are in the dead end

Philippines
June 30, 2011 6:27am CST
She hurts me with unpleasant words, but I just consider she was only tactless. But she did it again not once but many times. I don't deserve those if her basis is only my facial expression that looks naugthy to her. I knew all her displeasing judgment through my friends. Nothing to do but cry in silence. No one can stop when I remember the things said. She never know me of who I am but she is accusing me like a person who knew me well. It's been a long time, but until now the hurt that turns to hatred is still there. I can't move on, I don't know how. :-( I want to do it but I really can't. I want to forget everything but it stays.
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11 responses
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
1 Jul 11
The thing that hurt us most should be things said and done by people who knew us better. If she is someone who does not know you then you should try to forget and forgive her. Just keep saying that she does not know you, if she just know she would change her opinion of you. If you really cant forget her words then it is better for you to stay away from her and try to continue your life.
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• Philippines
3 Jul 11
If she only did not made judgement, maybe we can be friends...
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
4 Jul 11
First impression is all, so if you are not happy with her judgments then it's better to not be friend.
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
You'll never move on as long as you keep her inside your head which is what you are doing right now. A good friend of mine suggested that the only way to keep rude people awaY from you and not ruin your day or ruin who you are is not to think of them. Cast her away from your thoughts, never recall what she said. You said so yourself that she doesn't know you, so why do you have to consider and keep in your head what she said about you. Focus your attention on people who can appreciate you. If you continue this nobody else is destroying what or who you are but yourself and not her. Try to think that she's just one lousy person who's not worth a single second of your time.
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• Philippines
30 Jun 11
For all the bad things I exeprienced, I already have moved along but this kind is quiet annoying and very disgusting. If only there would be nothing to remind me of her. Anyway, thank you for your inspring and cooling thoughts toni.
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Been there done that! There was one person where everywhere i go and everything i hear reminds me of him. But it's because i allowed that in my life. Remember we are in control of our minds and of our hearts. Every external things we see or hear passes through our optical nerves to our minds and we can cast it away. Try!
@GemmaR (8517)
1 Jul 11
I don't really know who you're talking about, but whoever it is really doesn't sound like a good friend to you at all. People who are our true friends will accept us for who we are and will not judge us when we make mistakes in our lives. They are always there for us when we need them, and will be nice and friendly all of the time. The person who you are speaking about does not sound like this, and it would seem that you deserve much better in your life so perhaps you should forget about her and find some people who will be real friends to you instead.
• Philippines
3 Jul 11
Maybe she doesn't like my look Gemma or maybe I look better than her...Lol. I feel better now... With all the things you all said, made me realize a lot ofthings. I am a silent person, and not that open to others about what's inside me.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
dear amiga, Ok,you can vent out all your anger here and we will listen This is one way to release all those anger,hatred whatever you had inside your mind and heart. And soon as you realized,there is no more anger or hatred but you will be able to forgive that person. Sometimes anger stays because we can't express it.. That is why I always tell/say what i feel..because I don't want to keep what I feel inside of me. It helps me when I speak of my feelings here in mylot. Hope you will be fine soon dear
• Philippines
3 Jul 11
hi amiga,that's correct! Now I feel better :-) busy preparing for the upcoming fiesta, in your former place.
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
hello maharlikah, Sometimes people jump into conclusion and easily judge a person I know how you felt about it just simply go on and think that she is not worth it You need a true friends around you happy mylotting
• Philippines
3 Jul 11
I was thinking, maybe my looks will defeay hers heheh... I am happy of all your responses. It's really nice to be here. May I say nice meeting all of you.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
I know how hard it is for you. Try to pray for what your heart desires. Ask God to give you strength, to forget and forgive the person who has done that to you. Soon, you'll forget about what she did. You will totally forget her if you'll find someone who cares a lot about you, and don't nag with the things you never did. I will pray for you. Be strong and I know you can do better than this. You don't deserve this. Chill and please put a smile in your naughty face.lol
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
Prayers really make miracles...thank you so much for the insight.
@enruschew (247)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 11
Hello maharlikah. I almost facing the same situation as yours; those words that she said, they keep on spinning around and around in my head. That's really hurt! What I had tried to overcome it is to let myself getting tired everyday. Find things to do, chatting with my friends, finding part-time job to fill in my time so that I won't remind of it.
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Yes I do the same thing too but I just hate it when I'm alone or when I want peace inside my heart.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
1 Jul 11
Forget words her which make hurt your heart. Better keep recalls the moments is most beautiful in your relationship. That's better than you continue grieve
• Philippines
3 Jul 11
That's true but we do not have beuatiful moments :-(
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
How long you suffer and how fast you recover all depends on your willingness to be whatever you are. It has to start in your mind first, and convince yourself that you can do it. But the more you express your hardship in doing it, the more you are making it hard for you. Why not tell yourself for a change.." I won't let this ruin me. I will bounce back from this for I know I deserve better. Nobody has the power to keep me from being happy." You can say anything you but be sure its something positive. And you will see that all positive forces will work around you and make you feel better in the end.
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
If you keep saying you are then that's how you will be.Life is not always fun, peoplle gets more busy hurting each other rather than helping each other.Welcome to planet Earth!!!! Are we then hopeless and helpless. I say no.And it all starts with ATTITUDE. An attitude in the morning that it will be a great day An attitude that no one can bring us down with their judegements and opinions of us. An attitude that you know you are a beautiful person inside out and so you will get good karma. An attitude that you will always fall in love again...even harder than before. Then, a new door opens for you ..slowly but surely...you will be on right track again.
@angie20 (191)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
The best thing to do is to ask that very person reliable evidences of her accusations. If she can provide such thing which I truly doubt because according to you Maharlikah, she barely knows you. I think she's jealous or envy about some areas you perfectly excels. Don't let her words make you feel down because by doing that you are just only letting her won the second time around. Think of blessings you have like family and friends and don't let her ruined it. By the way, she's not a judge so why let that do to you? After all, she's not your mother. Face the pain because time heals. It's better to think that she's like a challenge being thrown to you for you to become a better of your better of today.
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Hi Angie! Welcome to mylot. I have wasted a lot of time though. Sometimes, when we refuse to face the bitter side of life, we will really suffer it's consequences.