Are you capable of Loving Unconditionally????
By bird123
@bird123 (10632)
United States
July 2, 2011 12:43am CST
Let's give it the test. Say you have a son. You also have three grandchildren who are the joy of your life. One day, your son, tired of the expense of raising three kids, sets his house on fire and burns up his children, your grandchildren inside. What do you do with your son??
Some people say disown the kid and lock him away forever. Sure society is going to lock him in jail, but what about disowning your son?? Is it unconditional love to disown your son?? I think not!! Are you capable of loving unconditionally or will hate be inside you??
Personally, I would recognize my son had major problems. I would work endlessly on figuring out what caused this problem then do what it takes to solve it.
Don't people paint God in their own image?? Some say God disowns and places people in hell for much less evil than that man's son did. Does it really add up that God is this way?? Is it intelligent to be this way??
If God is Unconditional Love, He can't disown His children. He must solve the problem and love no matter what. Isn't the intelligent thing to do to solve the problem and keep the kid??
Are you capable of loving Unconditionally??
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9 responses
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
4 Jul 11
If I was the judge in his trial and he was cognizant of what he was doing then I would have him executed in a quick and painless way. If he didn't understand what he was doing then it is another story.
I do not believe in unconditional love. Love has conditions. We are responsible for our actions, unless insane, and what we do has consequences. Anyone who knowingly kills his children, is no son of mine and should be executed. He dos not deserve to live now or ever.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
5 Jul 11
If freedom of choice exists than there are some that will choose evil. Evil can only be tolerated temporarily. If it is allowed to continue then peace can never exist. While Good can tolerate evil, Evil (example: Hitler) does not tolerate good and seeks to eliminate it. Since good is more powerful, it has to destroy evil . The two cannot continuously exist.
To hate evil is actually an act of love. Maybe one day you will understand that my friend! I wish you well!
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@bird123 (10632)
• United States
6 Jul 11
To hate can never be considered an act of love. People who choose evil do so because they really do not Understand. Don't hate. Teach!!! When we acquire enough wisdom, we will realize evil and hate are no longer a choice we can make. Peace can exist for anyone who chooses it. One must also remember the goal of this world is not peace. Learning and growing often comes with growing pains. It's not always fun but is part of the journey to get real results.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
4 Jul 11
THe hate within you will prevent you from taking advantage of a great opportunity. Perhaps, given enough time, mankind will understand the real problem then learn how to fix people before they come to this point. A simple execution might make people feel better but doesn't solve the problem. Unconditional Love does not mean giving others everything they want. You must give them what they really need to help them learn and grow. God does love Unconditionally. We all can as well. Clearly, there are issues within yourself that you need to explore. Your anger and hate even for this type of son, hurts you then those you contact in your life. I will love my son unconditionally. In this example, I would work tirelessly and endlessly to fix him. I will never give up on him.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
3 Jul 11
Hi bird: First I would think that my son has a really big problem and that he/ she is not metally healthy. After saving my grandchildren, I'll try toput him/her on a mental hospital because this is not what a normal person woulddo with their children. It's just insane. I won't stop loving him/her but i am sure that he/ she need professional health.
ALVARO
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
4 Jul 11
Hi bird: Exactly. God has blessed me giving me two amazing parents that take care for me, even with my age and that want my happiness. At the same time I try my best to make them feel proud of myself.
ALVARO
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
5 Jul 11
Just as the first responder says, I would go mad with grief immediately and then days later, I would go mad the rest of my life blaming myself for the poor job that I did in bringing up my son. I’m sure I would never recover my senses well enough to ever clinically analyze the situation so the question of owning or disowning would never arise.
I think I would reframe your example…say my son has raped a woman (to me as a woman, this is worse than murder)…in this case too, I would never blame my son entirely… I would share the blame with him for not putting the correct values, respect and perspectives in him. If he is convicted and sent to jail, I would not cry myself hoarse saying that he is innocent…I would ask him first and if I am convinced that he has indeed done the crime, I would like him to undergo his punishment too. He would always be my son…no way I could or would ever deny that (unconditional love or not) but I would not be blinded by my maternal instincts and try to save him when he clearly deserves the punishment.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
6 Jul 11
There is one thing that will always be true. Regardless of how we interact with anyone, no one can guaranty the actions of another. This includes parents. You do bring up a good issue of parents blaming themselves. I would say you are loving unconditionally because you are already working on solving the problem and how to fix everyone. Yes,you are trying to do what is best for your son instead of just letting him go. Yes, he will always be your son. Can't quite disown someone you really love. I think you are already there.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Jul 11
Hi bird, Loving unconditionally is never easy but I feel much like you and would never abandon my son. We must not of course ever let anyone use us, but loving unconditionally doesn't have to imply that. All real love is unconditional and that is why I could never believe in a God who is made in the image and likeness of man, with all our faults and failures. Even in the Bible God says, my ways are above your ways and my thoughts above your thoughts. Blessings.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
8 Jul 11
Yes, God is a very interesting Character. I will be learning for eons. God works on multiple levels with multiple views. It's refreshing when that light bulb goes off over my head and one understands long after the interaction. All the secrets of the universe stare us in the face yet there is so very much we either do not or choose not to see. Always great to hear from you Pose123. Blessings
@worldbestwriter2008 (1633)
• Philippines
3 Jul 11
I don't know if it is right to disowned a son, whatever may happen he is still your son. But according to you your son burned his three kids. putting a house on fire and burn with the the three kids inside the house is murdering. Your son in this case causes murder. He will be put in jail..He should pay the consequences. It's true in the bible that God disowned and do not consider his creation as his son when it begins worshiping god and goddess
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
3 Jul 11
God is Unconditional Love. God will never disown His children and we shouldn't either. If the bible says God does this then the bible does not know God. For the son that murdered, there must be consequences to teach. We too should help solve the problem. It is a part of loving unconditionally. It's not about wanting to punish but wanting to teach, loving unconditionally through it all.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
3 Jul 11
If such problem occur in real life, I think it will be much difficult to accept as a truth or it is actually happening in your own life. Definitely he should be locked up according to the rule and law of this society. He should deserved what he is punished for. Then I would recommend a psychiatric examine of his problem. What would someone do something like that, that is a major problem though.
@urbandekay (18278)
•
2 Jul 11
I would be too distraught to do anything, probably for a long time
all the best urban
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
2 Jul 11
There is no doubt it would be a great shock. Yes, I'm sure many would need time to get over the shock in order to start thinking again. At some point we all must choose our actions. Even if we do nothing, that, in itself is a choice. My choice would be Unconditional Love, however many would not make that choice. For me, it is the ONLY CHOICE.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
2 Jul 11
I like to think that i love unconditionally. Love should not have strings or rules to let that emotion be felt or expressed.