It takes a bad relationship to truly appreciate a good one.
By cyclopz
@cyclopz (251)
Sydney, Australia
July 2, 2011 7:59am CST
Sometimes people have to get through bad relationships so that they could appreciate a good one. Just like the saying, you'll never know what you have until you lose it. I think sometimes people just try to expect so much that is why they usually don't get contented. I think this might be applicable to some people and not to all because there are also some who made things work out in their first relationship and eventually got married to their first love. But i sometimes think that life is just a matter of chance, sometimes you get to be in the right place at the right time or in the wrong place at the wrong time and sometimes some people are lucky and some are not.
Do you also believe that it takes a bad relationship to truly appreciate a good one?
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3 responses
@voldrox (7191)
• India
3 Jul 11
You are right. Maybe i was expecting too much out of someone who i later came to know was not really in love with me, even though she said so, because she didn't know it herself. But i truly loved her, and when she fell for another guy, i was broken. I was stupid enough to believe her when she said she loved me. Anyways, that is all over now, it's been months i got broke up and got broken up lol. I don't keep much expectation from any girl... I appreciate good relationships, a lot. I admire people who are in love for years, and those who are able to marry their first loves. I wish i could marry my first love too. But now i don't know if i can ever love someone so much, i don't know if i can love anyone, i don't know if i can give my partner the love and care that she deserves, but i am certain about one thing. I going to give my best and what ever i can to the one that comes to me, i am not going to fooled another time though. Have a good day, friend.
@Awinds (2468)
• United States
3 Jul 11
I believe this is true for almost everything (if not all things) in life. To appreciate something good once must experience something bad. To appreciate an obedient child, one must experience a bratty child. To appreciate a quality computer to the utmost, one must experience an a less than top notch machine.
I assume you are centering on romantic relationships. I can say from indirect experience that this is true. Every relative of mine who is currently in a good relationship has been through a rather rotten one previously. Specifically my mother (who has been happily married for twenty-six years now) went through two stale relationships before she met my father.
The experience of the less than happy relationship prepares one to completely appreciate a joyful relationship. Without the soiled experience of the bad, we take the good for granted. The bad is necessary to give our appreciation full dimension.
